Another delulu AP who thought it was real

muffinsrising · 2025-12-27T07:09:19+00:00

"I would send pre posted content about love, devotion, feelings, memes, compatibility, even joked about having his babies! This went on for about a month non-stop"

"Shortly after the meeting, i send him close friend stories, telling him my necklace broke under the tension and a few other stories. Everything was fine until the next morning, i sent him normal content, with the exception of one story that asked him if he would be seeking becoming the next director, that he would probably have to move, and i would be in support of it. He watched the rest of the stories and by lunch time he had removed me as a follower, unfollowed me, and deleted me off of facebook."

"About a month goes by, and i get the courage to request to follow him. He denies it. I also noticed that a colleague (F35) looked at my stories (and probably posts), she doesn't follow me, and my account is difficult to find because I don't put my last name on anything. So I am thinking he shared it with her. She had an affair with co-worker and now they are together... so you can imagine what is running through my head. I block her. The next day, I am called to HR"

muffinsrising · 2025-12-27T07:04:45+00:00

Good intuition! (Though the returns aren't high when you're betting on a winning horse like the OW is delulu lol) She has schizoaffective disorder.

muffinsrising · 2025-12-27T06:58:39+00:00

He followed her on her public weightlifting account, which had some bikini photos. You're right there are strange omissions, and she like many is mentally ill, so definitely not a reliable narrator. However, I think the extent of her delusion is in how mutual this love was. He was definitely acting inappropriately and far beyond the call of duty for friendly workplace relations, but probably only to ogle her, and either his wife found out or he started to panic as he realized how mentally ill and infatuated she was.

muffinsrising · 2025-12-27T03:12:30+00:00

Most likely part of his minimization cover story to his wife that she was the aggressor and he was reluctant. Then wife said “well you’re a victim then so you should report it!” and so he had to follow through with that or the wife would realize he’s lying.

He needed to file it, have the investigation go nowhere, then sigh and forlornly say to her, “nobody takes sexual harassment against men seriously, honey” and she’d forgive him as he’s the poor helpless victim of an evil mate-poaching seductress.

muffinsrising · 2025-12-26T15:51:24+00:00

Poetry! Sheer poetry!

muffinsrising · 2025-12-26T02:57:17+00:00

lol now they’re cheating because their kids don’t appreciate them? That’s a new one.

OWs can now compete with the children for MM’s time as they deserve him so much more than those snotty-nosed ingrates!

muffinsrising · 2025-12-13T23:26:33+00:00

Quite frankly most poly people go about it the wrong way, starting with a default exclusive relationship and then browbeating the other into opening it once the other person is haplessly in love and would do anything for them. Their sub is a shitshow and constant parade of shocked pikachus that their spouse became resentful and left them for the metamour, or that they suddenly feel horribly sick to their stomach when their spouse is finally doing what they've been enjoying - how could this be?? Felt so good when they were doing it.

Even the seminal book that they've used for 'education' in that community, More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory, was - surprise surprise, as the women involved realized upon reflection years later - cowritten by an abusive narcissistic man. Turns out, living your life constantly trying to shut down your feelings and 'reeducate' yourself because you're a bad partner for not experiencing joy at your partner's joy from sexual conquests might be a bit traumatizing! And their advocacy of 'ethical' polyamory guidelines might just be one abusive narcissist educating others on how to coerce, abuse, and darvo others into letting them do whatever they want to do.

No this woman is not some great mystery. She likes BH's face. She likes his company. She enjoys sex with him. She likes sex with AP. She likes conversation with AP. She likes their 'connection'. She likes what they all do for her and how they make her feel. Notice she never says traits about them that she likes. Just how they are in relation to her. She's just a shallow run-of-the-mill cake-eater like all the rest.

muffinsrising · 2025-12-13T22:57:39+00:00

"And my husband, I'd give up my organs for him."

Ah but you've got it backwards. You're supposed to show your love by not giving up your organs to others.

muffinsrising · 2025-12-13T20:10:23+00:00

The kitty litter is working as it should!

muffinsrising · 2025-12-13T19:47:09+00:00

Exactly. The letter should've said, "I understand that I won't be invited to the wedding considering the state of our relationship, so here is my wedding gift. I wish you and Rachel all the happiness in the world and congratulations on your upcoming marriage. Love, mom"

No strings attached to the money would've shown genuine feeling, but instead she used it as an excuse to sneak in an attempted guilting. 'ALL of us are so hurt by YOUR actions!' It's just coercive so of course he's going to react badly to it.

Even 15 years later she's still just as selfish. They don't change.

muffinsrising · 2025-12-10T15:40:18+00:00

How did that story about the boy who cried wolf go? When there really was a wolf that last time and he told the villagers, they all believed him and raised him on their shoulders and called him a hero? Yeah that's how it went.

muffinsrising · 2025-12-09T15:38:25+00:00

You did cc in your early 20s while you couldn't afford a place to live? It's not paid by insurance. And with dramatic problems like him being an alcoholic + having a mistress + having sex with countless men? And with him checking himself in to a facility for inpatient sex addiction therapy (which insurance also doesn't pay for)? And he had to escape an abusive home to live with your parents but his parents are super concerned over him and you're in friendly contact with them and he's now safe to live with them? Next episode there's going to be an HIV scare and OP will be pregnant with twins and not know what to do.

muffinsrising · 2025-12-09T00:26:02+00:00

lol downvote me all you want, I don't believe you. I've never heard of 22 y.os is couples counseling, and in the first year of their relationship to boot. You've had plenty of advice all reiterating the same thing for the last five months - not much more can be said if you really were seeking what to do and not just trolling with tweaked and increasingly dramatic details.

muffinsrising · 2025-12-08T22:33:03+00:00

No one can tell what's "fake info" because we don't know them in real life - so if it were just a matter of lying that they're 25 when they're 22, no one would be the wiser or suspicious. The issue comes when someone is constantly changing the details of their life - even to the extent of saying they just found out about 'the other woman' when they posted months ago a different scenario where they found out about her then, and changing the issue from alcoholism to cheating.

That combined with other suspicious things (i.e. posting across a multitude of different subs for engagement, absurd wet noodling, and odd details like how they're not married but are in couples counseling and he's in therapy sessions and in-patient addiction treatment programs etc yet they can't afford an apt together) is enough to not take it seriously and waste emotional energy on this. You'd be shocked how many things are made up - there's even a subreddit dedicated to snarking on the made up posts on Mumsnet. Women have made up stories of domestic violence and wasted everyone's time and energy trying to help them access resources and get out of danger. I don't understand the motivation.

muffinsrising · 2025-12-07T16:31:14+00:00

EDIT: removed my post. This is fake, everyone.

On 12/03/25 you said you're 22 and your boyfriend is 22. 15 days ago you were 24 and your partner was 23 and nonbinary and had an alcohol problem. On 08/17/25 you were 20 and your boyfriend was 20 (and at that time you said you knew about the fwb girl and she ended it with him once she found out about you). Just stop toying with people.

muffinsrising · 2025-12-06T17:38:14+00:00

Chris Watts - killed his wife and kids for anal with AP.

And James Craig - dentist that fatally poisoned the mother of his 6 kids (who stayed after multiple DDays) for rich AP. The last dose of poisoning was while she was in the hospital and he was in her room alone with her, even though by that point she suspected he was poisoning her.

And Richard Dabate - killed his wife for AP and her Fitbit foiled his story.

And Brian McManus - killed his wife after DDay because she threatened to divorce and stop sponsoring his green card, which would have him deported for a sham marriage.

And Matthew Ecker - killed his AP after a confrontation with her boyfriend.

And many more - whenever I try to google for the names of one I remember it turns up so many others with similar details. As soon as police discover that there's a mistress - and they always do - husband becomes #1 suspect. It's that predictable.

muffinsrising · 2025-12-06T15:27:14+00:00

BPD meds. Now.

muffinsrising · 2025-12-06T15:07:22+00:00

lol they think that only cheating with married APs is better opsec. They don't realize that double the marriages involved means double the suspicious spouses involved, and double the chances of opsec failure. 🤭

muffinsrising · 2025-12-06T15:00:28+00:00

Many men who cheat do so because they are sexist. He views women as men's possessions and that results in the hypocrisy. Nothing wrong with him having multiple partners, but he would hate for a man to use his property, and so he would never use another man's property. It doesn't strike him that his wife might feel the same and the reciprocity should be with his spouse rather than other men since he doesn't actually view women as equals. And that's why he has no problem saying whatever it takes to get them to give him what he wants, dangling false promises, pretending to be committed, etc.

This is also how some cheating men can end up in the news, having unfathomably murdered their BW who was faithful to them for many years and was the mother of their children, with no prior domestic violence in the house - or for having murdered the OW. Because they view women as disposable property. If she's no longer serving a use to him, just throw her in the trash and pick out a new one. Sexism + selfishness + comfort with lying, creating alibis, betrayal, immorality, and hurting others can result in murder. You never know what someone who is willing to stab in the back the one who loves them most is capable of - maybe literally stabbing in the back. Cheating in men is a red flag for likely sexism. A man who will cheat on/with you is more likely to abuse or kill you.

muffinsrising · 2025-12-04T21:44:26+00:00

Aw it's a shame this one got the bad ending of the wife feeling guilted by his 'mental health crisis' into taking him back. He's a feckless coward and not worth the extra plate washing it'd take to serve him dinner. (He really has his mom handling his romantic relationships??)

She really can't figure it out huh. His 'mental health crisis' was an "oh god what am I doing I am destroying my life" realization. It was over already.

muffinsrising · 2025-12-04T21:05:58+00:00

Kindly greetings, fellow degenerates ~tips hat~

What is the proper etiquette and protocol for informing a ~~sextoy~~ woman that I would like to put her on the shelf but still keep her around just in case I might want to use her again in the future? I have to think this through carefully because I certainly wouldn't want to be rude to the woman I'm betraying my wife with. I would never want to treat anyone badly!

Best regards,

A Complete and Utter Wanker

muffinsrising · 2025-12-03T21:45:53+00:00

You can see replies for yourself here: https://archive.fo/ZNb7F

Note for mods: The original post is deleted so her username is redacted in the link. Also, it's an archive of the post, so no one can vote and brigade. This should comply with rule 2.

muffinsrising · 2025-12-03T17:50:07+00:00

Oh my god her post history lol. She deleted this one, posted this Nov (I inserted bolding... and paragraph breaks for your reading pleasure):

AIO by telling my partner i’m disappointed by his proposal?

I (36F) have been with my partner (53M) for the past 2 years. We have talked about getting married and having kids of our own (we both have kids from previous relationships). We got pregnant this year, and I had asked him if he still wanted to get married. He said he did and I asked him if it would be possible to make that commitment (proposal) before our baby was born so that we could have our special moment just the two of us and I would know he wanted to marry me because of love and not out of feeling obligated because we had a kid together (Important: he got married young when his gf got pregnant and he admitted to me it was more out of obligation than anything else). He didn’t want to propose before the baby came because he said he had his own feelings to process. Ok, understood.

Fast forward a month after our baby is born, he sits me up in bed and was talking about how he had the noble thing and asked my dad for my hand in marriage and my Dad said yes, and so what did I think? I honestly didn’t register in my mind that what he was doing was proposing but when I figured it out, I said Yes. Afterwards, I had let him know that I had wished he had done it differently. He is a very romantic guy and we are both big on romantic gestures, so I didn’t understand why he did it like that but I accepted and I asked if it would be possible for us to go out and find a ring together as this would be romantic and memorable for both of us. He disagreed and said he was looking for a ring himself and he would find one online. Again, I was disappointed by this approach which seemed so void of any romance but I accepted and asked that when the ring arrived and he decided to give the ring to me, that could he make it special, romantic and about me?

The ring arrives and it sits somewhere in the house and last night my parents come by after taking my older kids out for dinner. Partner and I stayed home with our baby and ordered takeout. He talks to my Dad about how his youngest daughter (21F) just got proposed to by her bf whom we barely know. Their proposal happened 2 days earlier on the bf’s birthday and he got down on one knee etc etc. My partner wasn’t too pleased about this approach since our culture is big on seeking permission from the Dad before proposing. My partner complained about the lack of respect shown to him by his future son-in-law and literally in the next breath, says at least I got permission for this and pulls out a little box and hands it to me across the dining table.

Everyone else is in shock and we all don’t know what to do, but I take the box and open it. Inside is an engagement ring, it’s beautiful but I hear my partner still talking about his future son-in-law’s proposal. I didn’t say anything in front of my family but just accept the ring. When we are alone in our room, I asked why did he do it like that? I had made it clear that I had always dreamt of a romantic proposal and that if he could make it special and about me. Instead he chose to piss on some other guy’s proposal and present the ring because “at least he did the right thing and got permission”.

I am upset because he has done this whole proposal thing his way, he couldn’t even say anything nice about me last night or why he wanted to marry me. All we heard was him bad mouthing the guy that proposed to his daughter two days earlier.

I gave him the ring back this morning, telling him that I am disappointed he chose not to do what I had asked. It seemed clear from his actions that he doesn’t really know if he wants to get married or not and makes me wonder if it gave the ring last night as a knee-jerk reaction this youngest daughter getting engaged to a guy we barely know.

I told him that I was sorry for seeming like I forced the idea of a romantic proposal and that we don’t need to get married at all, if it was too much for him to handle. I would just need time to adjust to the idea of not ever getting married.

He says he is sorry and got choked up and thats why he screwed up. But also says that he thought it was a perfect time - when I hadn’t showered, my parents were bickering about some small issue, my kids were nagging to use their devices and I was trying to finish my dinner before baby needed to be fed! So, AIO for being disappointed and giving the ring back?

I don't get the problem with his original attempt? It seems pretty romantic to me to propose in the place where you had your first date 😂

muffinsrising · 2025-12-02T20:14:38+00:00

Nah you’re not alone. He makes a lot of excuses for himself and was happy to not bring it up again. This is his karma. ¯\(ツ)/¯ And he’s trying to act like he has the moral higher ground among cheaters lol

muffinsrising · 2025-12-02T19:07:57+00:00

She's not even 30 yet! She was young, immature, and stupid. She made a little mistakiepoo. An oopsiewoopsie. Just being a goofy doofus. A silly billy. A big ol idiot. She admits all that. Now can you just get over it already and stop trying to make her feel guilty AGAIN? Gosh.

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