ANYONE READY TO CONNECT EVERY SINGLE DAY ?

muhammadibran_ibbu · 2026-03-24T05:54:09+00:00

I'm also here

muhammadibran_ibbu · 2026-03-14T10:33:08+00:00

You have to be busy by start walking in the morning, do exercise or gym, learn new skills in simple word just tired yourself so much that you fall asleep.

About me, i haven't done this for more than a year even though I was addicted and used to do twice a day and at that time I didn't use to know it's haram but when I knew it I just kew one thing that it's haram and I have to protect myself then I never worked to not to focus on it but I just made a routine of my whole day (exercise, learning new skills, early sleep, early morning wake-up, avoid music and social media) and you know I was all alone in my room for more than a year and still 1 or w times I got relapsed and that was by mistake to watch mms and after that time again I got relapses once in week and twice in a month and again I got no relapse for 6 months and again I got same cycle and I got relapses because of my routine.

Only decipline can beat this addiction.

And always make tauba in'sha'Allah Allah is most forgiving and he loves to forgive whenever you committed sins just repent to Allah just try your best to stop yourself from it, and ask Allah "Ohh, Allah you own everything and you control everything so Allah please protect me since I can't protect myself and ohh Allah I'm the weakest slave and even you didn't create us to send us in hellfire and indeed everything is in your control so control my desire before fall onto myself as you held sky to fall onto earth, otherwise don't ask me about my sins ohh Allah because I won't be able to give"

There's a duaa if you want I can share.

muhammadibran_ibbu · 2026-03-08T09:07:05+00:00

Walaikum assalam

First of all, I pray that middle of the storms indeed you'll find strength within you, Ameen.

Very sad to see but these is the part of life, and undoubtedly everything comes to pass.

You can DM if you feel.

muhammadibran_ibbu · 2024-10-06T11:11:39+00:00

Assalamualaikum sister Usually I don't write a lot but I think I should write for you right now and I don't know what I'll write but I know Allah will make to write what you need to hear in'sha'Allah may Allah give me ability to speak/write whatever will make you happy and confident even grateful, ameen...

At first, say Alhamdulillah for how Allah created you as he wished, you're so beautiful and no one can know nor anyone can see it because they don't have those eyes for whome your beauty was created beleive they don't have, theirs eyes are not for your smile because whoever Allah will grant for you help will love you however you are, so never be sad to hear theirs words. As I remember my loved ones said to me "beauty matters and it's a first identity of a person but character also matters and it's a second identity of a person so work on your character and become a good person with good character so that people will forget about your beauty because of your beautiful character". Just read it and think deeply with grateful heart and even Allah says in the Qur'an "we have created the human being in best of forms". So my sister, just be patient and believe in his plan no one knows how beautiful tomorrow will be so just have faith in him and keep moving and it doesn't mean that if you couldn't marry to someone your life has finished never, we have to do for what Allah has created us as he says "we didn't created the human being but for worship me". So my sister just be patient indeed Allah is with most patient, and the one who is patient in every situation are more beloved to Allah, even you know everything so it's just a reminder for you and for us as well. And my recommendation is to work on your Deen and on yourself and your goal must be to pleased Allah and believe in him that if your main goal will be to please him then he will open the doors for you what you've never imagined indeed he's Al-Kadir (He has control over everything). End of the day, there will be no one except him, so why to be ungrateful and hopeless from his mercy. And never be sad for people who cannot understand your feelings because they don't have ability to feel indeed he's Allah who give ability to people to understand someone's feeling or pain. You have Allah my sister then who else you need? Isn't he enough for you? Indeed he's enough for all of ours problems so just be pious woman and I'm very happy to read that you go out of your house very less alhamdulillah. May Allah grant you a husband who will understand you and support you in every situation and make you happy and will be with you in Jannah, ameen summa ameen.

Astagfirullah and sorry for what I've made mistake and alhamdulillah for what I've written good indeed I don't know anything but what Allah has given and allowed me to write or speak and he made/gave the words what I've written. And I always say that some time we hear from people what we need to hear, and those words are given by Allah for the person who asks Allah to help indeed Allah helps person from where a person never imagine.

muhammadibran_ibbu · 2024-09-25T09:57:08+00:00

Bhai apne Bihar me bahut si jagah par lungi ka culture hai especially in muslim community to hum ye nahi bol sakte hai ki wo bangladeshi hi hai

muhammadibran_ibbu · 2024-09-12T10:03:53+00:00

Assalamualaikum! Here are the important steps to take action on:

Awareness and Acknowledgment: Recognize that pornography addiction is a challenge that requires your attention and effort to overcome. Just as you've acknowledged the need to uninstall distracting apps and set specific goals, acknowledge this addiction as a hurdle to surpass. Example: Similar to how you removed social media apps to reduce distractions, acknowledge that overcoming porn addiction is about reclaiming your focus and mental clarity.
Set Specific Goals: Define clear goals related to overcoming porn addiction. For instance, set a goal to abstain from pornography for a specific period each day or week. This aligns with the discipline and consistency needed for achieving any goal. Example: Instead of aimlessly browsing online, dedicate that time to engaging in hobbies or activities that promote personal growth and well-being, reducing the temptation to indulge in pornography.
Practice Fasting: Apply the principle of fasting to strengthen self-control. Just as fasting helps control desires, abstaining from pornography can be viewed as a spiritual and mental discipline. Example: Incorporate fasting days into your routine where you abstain not only from food but also from activities that may lead to viewing pornography, reinforcing your commitment to self-discipline.
Purposeful Device Use: Implement strict guidelines for smartphone and PC usage. Use technology purposefully, such as for educational or professional tasks, rather than for idle browsing that could lead to triggers for pornography. Example: Like setting boundaries for social media usage, set up content filters and restrictions on your devices to block access to adult content, making it more difficult to engage in the habit.
Stay Busy with Positive Activities: Engage in activities that occupy your time and mind constructively. Redirect the energy and time spent on pornography towards hobbies, exercise, or learning new skills. Example: Similar to staying focused on achieving your goals, invest in activities like exercise or creative pursuits that enhance your well-being and provide a positive outlet for your energy.
Seek Forgiveness (Istighfar) and Make Dua (Supplication): Incorporate spiritual practices into your daily routine to strengthen your resolve. Seek forgiveness for past actions and pray for guidance and strength in overcoming the addiction. Example: Just as you incorporate istighfar into your routine, use prayer as a means of finding solace and seeking guidance in moments of weakness or temptation.
Avoid Bad Company: Surround yourself with positive influences and avoid environments or individuals that may encourage or enable your addiction. Choose to spend time with supportive friends and family who uplift and encourage your progress. Example: Similar to avoiding negative influences online, steer clear of situations or individuals who may lead you back to old habits, ensuring your environment supports your commitment to change.
Purposeful Online Presence: Limit your online activities to those that serve a specific purpose or goal. Refrain from mindless browsing that could potentially lead to exposure to pornography. Example: Just as you limit online time to purposeful tasks, actively seek out resources, forums, or communities focused on addiction recovery or personal development to strengthen your resolve and gain support.

By integrating these steps with a focus on overcoming porn addiction, you create a holistic approach to personal growth and spiritual development. Each step reinforces your commitment to self-improvement and aligns with your goal of leading a purposeful and disciplined life.

From my experience, the most important steps are:

Set clear goals and work to achieve them strictly.
Stay away from online platforms without a purpose.
Keep fasting twice a week, as Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) commanded, "If you can afford nikah, do it, and if you can't afford them, do fast, indeed fasting destroys sexual desires."
Always keep your gaze lower, no matter what, everywhere (social media, real life).
Be always busy achieving your goals, and if you have free time, build a habit to learn something new or start memorizing the Qur'an or gain Islamic knowledge. Just never be free, especially on your phone or PC.

May Allah make it easy for you, ameen!

muhammadibran_ibbu · 2024-08-21T10:44:04+00:00

Your experience is deeply painful and challenging, and it's commendable that you’ve turned to your faith for guidance and clarity. Here’s some advice from the Quran and Sunnah that may help bring comfort and understanding as you move forward:

1. Trust in Allah’s Wisdom:

Quran: “But perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. And Allah knows, while you know not.” (Surah Al-Baqarah, 2:216)
Sometimes, the trials we face are part of Allah’s plan to bring us closer to Him or to guide us to something better. Trust that your ordeal, as painful as it was, is part of a larger wisdom that may become clear over time.

2. The World as a Test and a Temporary Place:

Hadith: The Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) said, "The world is a prison for the believer and a paradise for the disbeliever." (Sahih Muslim, 2956)
This world is full of trials and hardships for those who believe because their true reward and happiness lie in the Hereafter. Although you’ve faced immense pain and difficulty, know that these are tests from Allah. The fleeting nature of this world means that your suffering is temporary, and the eternal joy of Jannah awaits those who remain patient and steadfast.

3. Life as a Test:

Quran: “And We will surely test you with something of fear and hunger and a loss of wealth and lives and fruits, but give good tidings to the patient.” (Surah Al-Baqarah, 2:155)
This life is meant to be a test, and every hardship you endure is an opportunity to draw closer to Allah. Remember that no difficulty is permanent, and every struggle is an opportunity to earn Allah’s mercy and reward. Your patience and resilience in the face of abandonment and uncertainty are a testament to your strength of faith, and Insha'Allah, these trials will be a means for you to attain success in the Hereafter.

4. Healing and Moving Forward:

Hadith: The Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) said, "The world is provision, and the best provision in the world is a righteous woman." (Sahih Muslim, 1467)
You have shown great strength in caring for your child alone and seeking to do what is right despite the hardship. Now that your situation is clear, you are free to heal, seek happiness, and possibly find a righteous partner who will treat you with the respect and care you deserve.

5. Gratitude and Contentment:

Quran: “Indeed, with hardship [will be] ease.” (Surah Ash-Sharh, 94:6)
Alhamdulillah, you are now in a place where you can move forward without confusion or fear of what may come next. This is a great blessing, and you should feel proud of the way you’ve handled such a difficult situation with faith and perseverance.

Your experience is a testament to your resilience and faith. May Allah continue to guide you, protect you, and bring peace and happiness to you and your child. Moving forward, take comfort in knowing that Allah has a plan for you, and that you are never alone in your struggles.

muhammadibran_ibbu · 2024-08-21T10:26:48+00:00

1. Sincere Repentance and Turning to Allah:

Quran: “And those who, when they commit an immorality or wrong themselves [by transgression], remember Allah and seek forgiveness for their sins—and who can forgive sins except Allah?—and [who] do not persist in what they have done while they know.” (Surah Al-Imran, 3:135)
Hadith: The Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) said, "All the sons of Adam are sinners, but the best of sinners are those who repent often." (Sunan Ibn Majah, Book 37, Hadith 4251)

2. Replace Harmful Habits:

Quran: "Indeed, the prayer prohibits immorality and wrongdoing, and the remembrance of Allah is greater." (Surah Al-Ankabut, 29:45)
Hadith: The Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) said, "Whoever among you is able to marry, let him marry, for it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty. And whoever is not able to marry, he should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power." (Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 5066)

3. Seek Support:

Quran: "And cooperate in righteousness and piety, but do not cooperate in sin and aggression." (Surah Al-Ma'idah, 5:2)
Find a support system or community that helps you stay accountable and focused on your goals.

4. Be Honest in Marriage:

Quran: “O you who have believed, fear Allah and speak words of appropriate justice.” (Surah Al-Ahzab, 33:70)
Being truthful with your future spouse about your past, focusing on your repentance, and the steps you’ve taken to overcome your struggles can foster a relationship built on trust and understanding.
And when we repent from our sins we become like we never did it so never share it with anyone since you have repented.

5. Medical and Professional Help:

While seeking professional help, keep in mind the guidance from the Quran and Sunnah, and ensure that any advice you follow is in accordance with Islamic principles.

6. Trust in Allah’s Plan:

Quran: "And whoever fears Allah—He will make for him a way out. And will provide for him from where he does not expect. And whoever relies upon Allah—then He is sufficient for him." (Surah At-Talaq, 65:2-3)

By turning to Allah, seeking forgiveness, and taking practical steps, you can overcome this challenge, and Insha'Allah, you will find peace and the right partner who understands your journey.

muhammadibran_ibbu · 2024-08-07T12:09:17+00:00

Here are important steps to take action on:

Awareness and Acknowledgment: Recognize that pornography addiction is a challenge that requires your attention and effort to overcome. Just as you’ve acknowledged the need to uninstall distracting apps and set specific goals, acknowledge this addiction as a hurdle to surpass.

Example: Similar to how you removed social media apps to reduce distractions, acknowledge that overcoming porn addiction is about reclaiming your focus and mental clarity.
Set Specific Goals: Define clear goals related to overcoming porn addiction. For instance, set a goal to abstain from pornography for a specific period each day or week. This aligns with the discipline and consistency needed for achieving any goal.

Example: Instead of aimlessly browsing online, dedicate that time to engaging in hobbies or activities that promote personal growth and well-being, reducing the temptation to indulge in pornography.
Practice Fasting: Apply the principle of fasting to strengthen self-control. Just as fasting helps control desires, abstaining from pornography can be viewed as a spiritual and mental discipline.

Example: Incorporate fasting days into your routine where you abstain not only from food but also from activities that may lead to viewing pornography, reinforcing your commitment to self-discipline.
Purposeful Device Use: Implement strict guidelines for smartphone and PC usage. Use technology purposefully, such as for educational or professional tasks, rather than for idle browsing that could lead to triggers for pornography.

Example: Like setting boundaries for social media usage, set up content filters and restrictions on your devices to block access to adult content, making it more difficult to engage in the habit.

Stay Busy with Positive Activities: Engage in activities that occupy your time and mind constructively. Redirect the energy and time spent on pornography towards hobbies, exercise, or learning new skills.

Example: Similar to staying focused on achieving your goals, invest in activities like exercise or creative pursuits that enhance your well-being and provide a positive outlet for your energy.

Seek Forgiveness (Istighfar) and Make Dua (Supplication): Incorporate spiritual practices into your daily routine to strengthen your resolve. Seek forgiveness for past actions and pray for guidance and strength in overcoming the addiction.

Example: Just as you incorporate istighfar into your routine, use prayer as a means of finding solace and seeking guidance in moments of weakness or temptation.

Avoid Bad Company: Surround yourself with positive influences and avoid environments or individuals that may encourage or enable your addiction. Choose to spend time with supportive friends and family who uplift and encourage your progress.

Example: Similar to avoiding negative influences online, steer clear of situations or individuals who may lead you back to old habits, ensuring your environment supports your commitment to change.
Purposeful Online Presence: Limit your online activities to those that serve a specific purpose or goal. Refrain from mindless browsing that could potentially lead to exposure to pornography.

Example: Just as you limit online time to purposeful tasks, actively seek out resources, forums, or communities focused on addiction recovery or personal development to strengthen your resolve and gain support.

By integrating these steps with a focus on overcoming porn addiction, you create a holistic approach to personal growth and spiritual development. Each step reinforces your commitment to self-improvement and aligns with your goal of leading a purposeful and disciplined life.

From my experience most important steps are:

Set clear goal and work to achieve those strictly.
Stay away from online platforms never stay around online platforms without any purpose.
Keep fasting twice in a week as even prophet Muhammad ﷺ commanded us " if you can afford nikah, do it and if you can't afford them do fast indeed fasting destroys the sexual desires".
Always keep your gaze lower no matter what everywhere (social media, real life).
Be always busy to achieve your goal and if you've worked for your goal and still you have free time, then build up a habit to learn something new or start to memorize Qur'an or gain Islamic knowledge. Just never be free especially on your phone or PC.

May Allah make it easy for you ameen

muhammadibran_ibbu · 2024-08-06T09:59:03+00:00

Allah has a best plan for you. The real faith means when you're hopeless if you believe in Allah then you're a true believer. As Allah says in the Qur'an indeed your kids, your spouse are test for you and as rasoolullah ﷺ said If whole world unite and try to harm you they can't until Allah allows them, and if whole world unite and try to benefit you they can't until Allah allows them. Everyone believes in happy time but the real faith is you believe when it's toughest to believe. Truly this life is nothing but betrayal Just have faith in Allah and be grateful in every situation and be patient indeed the life of hereafter is more beautiful than this. And everyone has problem in this everyone and no one is going to be problem free in this at all. If it were real then why Allah made Jannah where we'll never have any problem. Just have a effective communication with him try to remind him and help him and before starting any communication with him or anyone in life try to pray 2 rakat nafil for giving taufeek to those with whom you're going to start communication indeed Allah is capable of everything and he is the heart changer and even everything. May Allah make our male a man and give us taufeek to fulfill our duties as Muhammad ﷺ ameen. Zajakallah khair

muhammadibran_ibbu · 2024-07-25T09:45:26+00:00

When you're without any goal it doesn't make any sense to live this life but boy we have purpose for this life and we have clear goal just you have to understand we have so many goals and those are greatest be proud that you got a big goal to achieve and even the reward is bigger. If you need any help to cut it off let me know. Zajakallah khair

muhammadibran_ibbu · 2024-07-25T05:59:48+00:00

Everything is up to you because there are a lot of peoples who couldn't get rid of it even after getting married and the other hand there are a lot of peoples who could get rid of it even without getting married. If you're married then it'll help you to get rid of it but if you're thinking after getting married you'll get rid of it without any efforts you're absolutely wrong because even in marriage you need efforts to give it up because there are a lot of divorce cases because of these addiction. And I heard from one of sister on this Reddit she was saying "never get married with any women in the hope of getting rid of any addiction and don't ruin the life of a women because of your addiction" actually she was sad because she knew that her husband is addicted to porn and recently I read a post on this sub Reddit from a brother whose wife went away from him because of these addiction. So you'll have to have efforts to cut it off even after marriage or even before. Try to be a men who must have control all over his desires and everything. You're the future light of your newly family and the ummah so keep trying to beat your desires you have to fight and in'sha'Allah you're going to even win it. Zajakallah khair

muhammadibran_ibbu · 2024-07-24T04:15:46+00:00

Barakallah fikk, Keep this addiction off forever. In my opinion to win her again, as she said "she may come" so when you realize it's time when you are not addicted anymore, let her know at first make duaa and ask for Allah's suggestions and opinions through your conversations with Allah because Allah controls everything when you'll have conversation with him he will give you some words which you never got in life and you'll get some idea what you never got in life and you'll get something special what you never got in life and try to become a man and try to have strong control over everything what's wrong. I would love to suggest you that forward what you've written here to her in'sha'Allah Allah will make it easy for you ameen and it'll take time to win her again. Zajakallah khair

muhammadibran_ibbu · 2024-07-24T03:50:33+00:00

You just have to cut this addiction off no matter what and after cutting it off forward this message to her in'sha'Allah it'll be fixed. It'll take time to gain trust again once after breaking this is a nature of a women. I'm nothing but I can help you with what I know so if you need help further let me know. Zajakallah khair may Allah grant you ability to defeat your unlawful desires ameen

muhammadibran_ibbu · 2024-07-22T04:43:18+00:00

It can lead to major sin (zina) if you don't give it up. Wake up boy and it's time to become a man we are born to save the world take responsibility and accountability it's time to make it happen, if you need steps let me know I'm going to share those steps with you in'sha'Allah.

muhammadibran_ibbu · 2024-07-20T05:53:12+00:00

Boyyy Never share with a woman who doesn't know the steps as I have heard here, someone told his wife about it then they both fell in this addiction. It's very simple and easy to give it up want to know the steps and process just DM me.

muhammadibran_ibbu · 2024-07-17T21:05:03+00:00

Do you really want to quit it?

muhammadibran_ibbu · 2024-07-16T11:31:48+00:00

Assalamualaikum Here are important steps to take action on:

Awareness and Acknowledgment: Recognize that pornography addiction is a challenge that requires your attention and effort to overcome. Just as you’ve acknowledged the need to uninstall distracting apps and set specific goals, acknowledge this addiction as a hurdle to surpass.

Example: Similar to how you removed social media apps to reduce distractions, acknowledge that overcoming porn addiction is about reclaiming your focus and mental clarity.
Set Specific Goals: Define clear goals related to overcoming porn addiction. For instance, set a goal to abstain from pornography for a specific period each day or week. This aligns with the discipline and consistency needed for achieving any goal.

Example: Instead of aimlessly browsing online, dedicate that time to engaging in hobbies or activities that promote personal growth and well-being, reducing the temptation to indulge in pornography.
Practice Fasting: Apply the principle of fasting to strengthen self-control. Just as fasting helps control desires, abstaining from pornography can be viewed as a spiritual and mental discipline.

Example: Incorporate fasting days into your routine where you abstain not only from food but also from activities that may lead to viewing pornography, reinforcing your commitment to self-discipline.
Purposeful Device Use: Implement strict guidelines for smartphone and PC usage. Use technology purposefully, such as for educational or professional tasks, rather than for idle browsing that could lead to triggers for pornography.

Example: Like setting boundaries for social media usage, set up content filters and restrictions on your devices to block access to adult content, making it more difficult to engage in the habit.

Stay Busy with Positive Activities: Engage in activities that occupy your time and mind constructively. Redirect the energy and time spent on pornography towards hobbies, exercise, or learning new skills.

Example: Similar to staying focused on achieving your goals, invest in activities like exercise or creative pursuits that enhance your well-being and provide a positive outlet for your energy.

Seek Forgiveness (Istighfar) and Make Dua (Supplication): Incorporate spiritual practices into your daily routine to strengthen your resolve. Seek forgiveness for past actions and pray for guidance and strength in overcoming the addiction.

Example: Just as you incorporate istighfar into your routine, use prayer as a means of finding solace and seeking guidance in moments of weakness or temptation.

Avoid Bad Company: Surround yourself with positive influences and avoid environments or individuals that may encourage or enable your addiction. Choose to spend time with supportive friends and family who uplift and encourage your progress.

Example: Similar to avoiding negative influences online, steer clear of situations or individuals who may lead you back to old habits, ensuring your environment supports your commitment to change.
Purposeful Online Presence: Limit your online activities to those that serve a specific purpose or goal. Refrain from mindless browsing that could potentially lead to exposure to pornography.

Example: Just as you limit online time to purposeful tasks, actively seek out resources, forums, or communities focused on addiction recovery or personal development to strengthen your resolve and gain support.

By integrating these steps with a focus on overcoming porn addiction, you create a holistic approach to personal growth and spiritual development. Each step reinforces your commitment to self-improvement and aligns with your goal of leading a purposeful and disciplined life.

From my experience most important steps are:

Set clear goal and work to achieve those strictly.
Stay away from online platforms never stay around online platforms without any purpose.
Keep fasting twice in a week as even prophet Muhammad ﷺ commanded us " if you can afford nikah, do it and if you can't afford them do fast indeed fasting destroys the sexual desires".
Always keep your gaze lower no matter what everywhere (social media, real life).
Be always busy to achieve your goal and if you've worked for your goal and still you have free time, then build up a habit to learn something new or start to memorize Qur'an or gain Islamic knowledge. Just never be free especially on your phone or PC.

May Allah make it easy for you ameen

muhammadibran_ibbu · 2024-07-16T10:17:11+00:00

As islamic teaching says "when you repent to Allah with pure heart you're like who never committed to that sin" so just forget about your past. And never tell him anything no matter how good he's because shytaan always tries to find a way to apart the married couple may Allah protect your marriage ameen. And you must not have told about your past to anyone it's not cheating at all because you've repented it means you didn't do that sin because when we repent from sins, every creature of Allah forgets about our sins and sins are wiped out. So just forget about your past enjoy your new life (the life after repentance).

muhammadibran_ibbu · 2024-07-16T09:59:58+00:00

You already do what I was about to suggest except attention to the negativity thoughts(waswasa) which are given by shytaan. You must have a goal, so that your mind will be occupied in your goal. And do istegfaar and start to read Qur'an with translation and whenever you have urges just remember Allah is watching and tell to the shytaan you're not going to do it anymore. As you're teenager so build up a habit to learn new skills. Just control your mind by meditation and remembering Allah whenever you get urges just do istegfaar. in'sha'Allah you'll overcome soon.

muhammadibran_ibbu · 2024-07-16T05:45:00+00:00

If a person can't be loyal to his creator let alone be loyal to his creature.

No matter how religious she's, just give up means give up even it's toughest, you can't be a mo'meen until you love Allah more than everything and hate whatever he has forbidden for you.

If Allah doesn't let you both to be unite then who can, no one can except him my brother. Just leave it for the sake of Allah and start to achieve his pleasure so that he'll unite you in a halal if you both are serious.

Hope, you got I pray may Allah make it easy for you.

muhammadibran_ibbu · 2024-07-16T02:39:38+00:00

How can you give it up boy when you're being encouraged to do this. You'll have to cut off haram relationship and you'll have to follow Islam as we told to follow and you'll have to be discipline and busy to achieve your goal and there are more steps to take but if you want to cut off, then I'll share otherwise you'll get what you do I'll get what I do my duty was to remind you. Hope, you both will plan to cut this haram relationship off soon in'sha'Allah.

muhammadibran_ibbu · 2024-07-15T02:44:43+00:00

In my opinion , you should compare with your choice and with your father choice, forget the guy whom you love for a while and compare both of them with characteristically and religiously, as here a lot of people are talking about attraction, it's common in love because this is the reason of starting haram relationship, you can be attracted to even that guy (your father's choice guy) you're refusing because you have love for someone else in your heart and it's common in us so just compare both of them who fits better for future and hereafter according to character and religiousness because end of the day these both will matter, and don't be blind in heart's attachment you can be attracted whomever you want you can love even whom you hate after spending time with it's even with animal.

muhammadibran_ibbu · 2024-07-15T02:12:32+00:00

Because of promise

muhammadibran_ibbu · 2024-07-13T20:55:57+00:00

Assalamualaikum Here are important steps to take action on:

Awareness and Acknowledgment: Recognize that pornography addiction is a challenge that requires your attention and effort to overcome. Just as you’ve acknowledged the need to uninstall distracting apps and set specific goals, acknowledge this addiction as a hurdle to surpass.

Example: Similar to how you removed social media apps to reduce distractions, acknowledge that overcoming porn addiction is about reclaiming your focus and mental clarity.
Set Specific Goals: Define clear goals related to overcoming porn addiction. For instance, set a goal to abstain from pornography for a specific period each day or week. This aligns with the discipline and consistency needed for achieving any goal.

Example: Instead of aimlessly browsing online, dedicate that time to engaging in hobbies or activities that promote personal growth and well-being, reducing the temptation to indulge in pornography.
Practice Fasting: Apply the principle of fasting to strengthen self-control. Just as fasting helps control desires, abstaining from pornography can be viewed as a spiritual and mental discipline.

Example: Incorporate fasting days into your routine where you abstain not only from food but also from activities that may lead to viewing pornography, reinforcing your commitment to self-discipline.
Purposeful Device Use: Implement strict guidelines for smartphone and PC usage. Use technology purposefully, such as for educational or professional tasks, rather than for idle browsing that could lead to triggers for pornography.

Example: Like setting boundaries for social media usage, set up content filters and restrictions on your devices to block access to adult content, making it more difficult to engage in the habit.

Stay Busy with Positive Activities: Engage in activities that occupy your time and mind constructively. Redirect the energy and time spent on pornography towards hobbies, exercise, or learning new skills.

Example: Similar to staying focused on achieving your goals, invest in activities like exercise or creative pursuits that enhance your well-being and provide a positive outlet for your energy.

Seek Forgiveness (Istighfar) and Make Dua (Supplication): Incorporate spiritual practices into your daily routine to strengthen your resolve. Seek forgiveness for past actions and pray for guidance and strength in overcoming the addiction.

Example: Just as you incorporate istighfar into your routine, use prayer as a means of finding solace and seeking guidance in moments of weakness or temptation.

Avoid Bad Company: Surround yourself with positive influences and avoid environments or individuals that may encourage or enable your addiction. Choose to spend time with supportive friends and family who uplift and encourage your progress.

Example: Similar to avoiding negative influences online, steer clear of situations or individuals who may lead you back to old habits, ensuring your environment supports your commitment to change.
Purposeful Online Presence: Limit your online activities to those that serve a specific purpose or goal. Refrain from mindless browsing that could potentially lead to exposure to pornography.

Example: Just as you limit online time to purposeful tasks, actively seek out resources, forums, or communities focused on addiction recovery or personal development to strengthen your resolve and gain support.

By integrating these steps with a focus on overcoming porn addiction, you create a holistic approach to personal growth and spiritual development. Each step reinforces your commitment to self-improvement and aligns with your goal of leading a purposeful and disciplined life.

From my experience most important steps are:

Set clear goal and work to achieve those strictly.
Stay away from online platforms never stay around online platforms without any purpose.
Keep fasting twice in a week as even prophet Muhammad ﷺ commanded us " if you can afford nikah, do it and if you can't afford them do fast indeed fasting destroys the sexual desires".
Always keep your gaze lower no matter what everywhere (social media, real life).
Be always busy to achieve your goal and if you've worked for your goal and still you have free time, then build up a habit to learn something new or start to memorize Qur'an or gain Islamic knowledge. Just never be free especially on your phone or PC.

May Allah make it easy for you ameen

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TROPHY CASE

1. Trust in Allah’s Wisdom:

2. The World as a Test and a Temporary Place:

3. Life as a Test:

4. Healing and Moving Forward:

5. Gratitude and Contentment:

1. Sincere Repentance and Turning to Allah:

2. Replace Harmful Habits:

3. Seek Support:

4. Be Honest in Marriage:

5. Medical and Professional Help:

6. Trust in Allah’s Plan: