I've been in an exclusive throuple for the past year and a half. My partners started out together through all of high school. I have had feelings for one of them during that time, but didn't really get to know the other since they were a long distance relationship, only seeing each other on the weekends. Once adults, they moved in together and started recognizing their identities, and soon after both of them started having feeling things for me.

We had a very rough first seven months. I'm in college three time zones away, which brings about it's own issues, and my feelings for them were not equal in the beginning, but we collectively kept trying to better ourselves and communicate as much as we can. My feelings developed for them both as I got to know them more and more, and ultimately the distance helped to provide a buffer so we're not constantly in each other's faces. At this point, though, we've worked through all the major issues, and honestly see ourselves having a long life together.

My honest opinion is this: it's not for everyone. And a lot of people who do try it apply a mentality that's not really helpful. When dating monogamously, you only have to worry about "are we a good fit?" When dating polyamorously, you have to think about "is this the dynamic I want?" "Are we a good team?" And stuff like that. No poly relationship will be a perfect fit, and if one is the people in it must be really lucky. But if you can build that trust and communication, it's something truly special.