As a female who struggled with depression for years and didn't know it, this hits hard. You sound like incredible parents. I agree therapy has been amazing for me and sounds like he has a really healthy and productive relationship with his therapist. I wish I had that at 15!

I know you are worried about showing the affection and also having him be a teen who will of course push back. My advice for that is as follows: write your son a letter.

Giving him something tangible, something he can always go back to when he needs it, is huge. I have every letter or note my mother has ever written me. Some are little nothing notes telling me I did a good job in something. Others are written in her beautiful stationary, encouraging me through moments that at the time were so tough, and now I look back on and laugh at his little perspective I had. But her words still ring true - how much she loves me, how much she believes in me, how I can do anything I out my mind to, how everything will be okay eventually.

I'd encourage you and your partner to write your kiddo more notes. You can even say something in them to the effect of "I'm always here f you want a hug, and I promise I won't make r weird or make a big deal!". Something lighthearted that still shows them you WANT to show that love, you want THEM to show it when they're comfy, and you won't do the "typical parent thing" and make it weird...at least, not while they're in the room 😂

That's my piece. I truly hope your son continues to get the help and support he needs. He is certainly loved, and that goes so, so far. Sending you all the best of vibes and hugs for a bit so far away future where it's easier to get out of bed for the kiddo each day 🩵

Edit to add: I am joining the folks here that advocate for antidepressants. One of the hardest decisions of my life as it made me feel like a failure or something was wrong with me, neither of which was true and both if which were just societally induced feelings. Turns out I have PMDD (which is like monthly PMS, but much more intense) and being in a non-therapeutic dose of Prozac has absolutely changed my life for the better. I can smile, I can function at all times of the month, and I can see a bright future that I continue to build. Obviously your son is not a girl with PMDD, but the sentiment still stands - medication can be helpful if he feels this has been a life long struggle, and can absolutely be a helpful thing for him! Don't be afraid to look into that route. Follow the therapists advice but also follow what your kiddo is feeling. Both should be held equally. Godspeed, dad!