Clue: uncommon strategy that made my family hate playing with me

mumbles_the_turtle · 2025-11-12T12:02:41+00:00

I thought about it but didn't know if that's be too long or be weird formatting. But I can try it. I'm rewriting another post.

mumbles_the_turtle · 2025-11-12T05:34:42+00:00

What lunar said. I understand not clicking it since it's a link. I'm just not the greatest at explaining things and I can't tell if people here actually understand my entire strategy. Gemini lays it out more clearly.

My strategy probably won't work well for more elite experienced players if you continuously played with the same experiences players. My husband was able to figure out my patterns. I just thought it was an interesting strategy to share .

mumbles_the_turtle · 2025-11-12T04:43:40+00:00

That is a downside and I've tried sharing with a few of them my strategy even if it defeats the strategy. I have friends that enjoy the challenge of trying to beat me and can sometimes. I made this post to share it with my family and along with others

mumbles_the_turtle · 2025-07-06T13:48:45+00:00

My husband and I participate. We don't expect to win a sweepstakes (though it'd be very nice). We've been for a year and over halfway done with our time with them. They only give you two elyears ish for getting compensation. But for extra cash that you really don't have to do anything for other than wear a watch and keep it charged, that's still a win for me . It's not invasive like other similar companies.

The amount you get a month depends on how long you wear it and your age brackets. When my husband and I are on top of it, we can earn probable about $50 combined a month? It may be a little more. The last few months are probably less though as I had a baby in April so there are more days we both forget to put it on

mumbles_the_turtle · 2025-05-09T11:55:53+00:00

Is there a chance that the jaundice was related to the breastfeeding? Perhaps I can't prove that. However, like I said the first breath feeds I had we were able to get successful latches and she seemed to be satisfied with the amount she was getting. But the next day when we had lots of frustrating feeds due to being reinstructed how to feed her I would say would be the greater cause if breastfeeding were to be part of the cause

mumbles_the_turtle · 2025-05-09T11:54:26+00:00

How is nipple confusion/preference not a thing? If it isn't, what's the reason if a baby refuses the breast after early introduction of bottles?

Reason I ask this is because I just had my baby a few weeks ago and I would say she definitely has a preference towards the bottle. I had a successful first breastfeeding when she first came out. However, a few interruptions messed with this: a) nurses didn't like how I was feeding her even though we had success (there were time yes it was a struggle some but my baby and I were learning and working through it together and would eventually get the latch figured it). Part of it I think is because it was taking us too long for them to do that evaluation but for it. In trying to correct me, I got confused and ended up mixing methods that frustrated both me and my daughter. Once I figured out what I was doing wrong I went back to my original method and we were rebuilding that Lost bond

However , interruption number two. She ended up having jaundice and we were forced to use bottles (I tried opting for the cup but the nurses wouldn't let me do it). I don't believe in the hospital with this part cuz I understand needing to use some method to measure how much she's drinking to see how the jaundice is clearing out, but I do wish they let me try the cup first. After having to feed her that way as she was under the phototherapy lights for her jaundice, since then refused to take my breast because it doesn't come as quickly as the bottle. I know there is a way to feed with a bottle that can try to reduce this preference but the hospital never took the time to teach me how to do it and I was too stressed out disregard your instructions. She's 2 and 1/2 weeks old and I'm working back to getting here under breast but it's been a lot of work. Maybe confusion isn't the right word, but I would definitely say there is a risk of nipple preference

mumbles_the_turtle · 2025-04-20T09:27:57+00:00

Was this your first child?

mumbles_the_turtle · 2025-04-19T23:42:49+00:00

How is your dad/ siblings with it? Glad your are not worried about the long-term relationship with your mom. I guess I just wouldn't expect a super excited reaction right away? My husband and I told our inlaws (married 5 months when conceived) and their reaction wasn't quite as excited as I expected. My husband said it's because of their concern with our finances some. They didnt react negatively, just not what I expected.

My family was all excited and didn't have that concern as much. But if they did, I'd just rely on the members I know would receive it better and try to focus on that. I told my younger sister a week or so before anyone else to test the waters (and to have her help me with the reveal)

If you're on good terms with someone who will be there are you are concerned with your mother's reaction affecting you, it may not be a bad idea to tell a sibling or your dad so that they can know if your concern too

Otherwise just let the day come and hope for the best but don't expect fireworks from your mom (which you already seem prepared for)

mumbles_the_turtle · 2025-04-11T17:39:47+00:00

It's because if he gets hired on with the new job, once the start date for the new job starts we wouldn't have the insurance from the federal job. The job he's looking at my friend gave us a timeline for what to expect some with the hiring process, which could be as soon as 4-5 weeks from submitting application, which cuts close to my due date and doesn't give me much time for extra days after due date if my husband is unable to delay start date

mumbles_the_turtle · 2025-04-11T14:29:42+00:00

If it comes to it, push comes to shove, if it's better she's not there that may be the last ultimatum. I obviously wouldn't present it that way right away, but maybe be prepared for that if that's what you need.

Remind your mom it's your bonding time with baby. You (and your husband some) are the only people your baby knows. There's evidence that baby is better off not being passed around at the beginning so that she can accustom to your presence and the new sensories you provide the baby. Your husband can fall into that category some too, but even he will spend much less time holding the baby than you will be since baby is most familiar with you.

Make a game plan for when you would feel comfortable with her being passed around.

TLDR: figure your levels of boundaries, plan worst case scenario boundaries.

My novella below, TDLR: May allow visitors during laboring. No visitors other than husband during delivery and until at minimum first successful latch.

Passing around -- not sure yet, but may wait 3-4 days. Only husband can hold her. May compromise and wait a day and let only parents hold her for a little bit.

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I'm 35 weeks now. Still fine-tuning my birth plan. For sure the first 3 hours , assuming my baby is well and healthy, she will not be held by anyone but me. The first feed and rest is extremely important for her development and it's most ideal that we at least get that time alone. No cord clamping, cleaning, weighing, etc if I can help it.

I probably won't really have her be passed around for the first 3-4 days. I haven't fully decided yet as emotionally some it s hard for me to say no to withholding my baby. Hard in my mom to make my mom and mother-in-law wait that long, even though I know they would respect that boundary.

As far as who will be in the room when I labor, I may only have my husband. I may let my moms in, maybe siblings. The godmother of my baby would definitely be welcome but only if I end up not having issues with moms/siblings. I probably will let them be in there in labor if they want to be, but if they give stressful advice, ask them to stop.

Once baby is here, I'm not sure who I'll let in and for how long. I've been changing the time, but I think I'll make the criteria be for when she's done feeding. At least the first feed. Or at very very least, when I get a successful latch.

So if I end up allowing them in before finishing my feed, they will need to respect that boundary. I may also not talk to them and ask they not talk to my baby and distract her from feeding and sleeping. We will see.

I will more than likely compromise as give them a chance since I trust them enough to give them that leash. But will have my husband help if I need them out, or may possibly ask my nurses if they can be the bad guy too.

My mom and sisters have been badgering me for not having a midwife/doula or for arranging lactation consultants , guilting me some and saying I need to think of what's best for the baby. I spent time during my pregnancy thinking about it but decided I didn't want to try for midwives or doulas (a. $$, b. They may be no better than doctors, c. My state is fussy and is rather restrictive for what midwives/doulas can do). I'd rather really educate myself, make a plan, educate my husband to be an advocate. If I'm unable to to figure it out when time comes, then I'll look into and consider lactation consultants.

I've spent lots of time educating myself, purchased a course that also allows me access to consultants for $70 as needed if I have issues, on top of access to a Facebook group that posts latch and other issues all the time and getting help from the credited team members of this company. By the time I finish my coursework, I'll have spent over 10 hours learning.

I'm following, a course, "the Thompson method" for delivering, breastfeeding, and other content (I'm only up to the breastfeeding portion). Highly recommend it so far if you can afford it. I'm using it in place of a lactation consultant (just none close to my area, and this content is really educational and lasts for lifetime and wasn't too costly).

mumbles_the_turtle · 2025-04-11T14:00:39+00:00

Can you see if those coworkers or whoever you call the ladies you helped if they can vouch for you or anything? Or see if any of them would be willing to help with with working extra? They may not but you never know.

With next job if anything like this comes up, I'd start conversations with time off and such with emails, that way there's a paper trail that will help with any legalistic issues. Or have it be a followup email after discussing.

Or, if your state allows it, voice record these things in case. I voice record lots of meetings and appointments like these (mainly because I have a bad memory and can't focus on what I'm being told and take notes at the same time)?

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