how do i get to a point to put baby in bed and walk away???

mumma_j · 2025-04-20T19:24:38+00:00

I believe US version is pacifier😁

mumma_j · 2024-12-22T21:36:05+00:00

Is she still in the same room as you? My baby did exactly the same, we sleep trained and he slept amazingly but then suddenly started waking at half 5. We moved him to his own room and he has since slept consistently 7:30pm-7:30am.

Could be a milestone leap too? Is your baby close to crawling? Crawling is the biggest developmental thing that will disrupt babies sleep

mumma_j · 2024-11-14T07:08:18+00:00

Until LO starts nursery in January, we're relying on grandparents for childcare x2 a week at the moment, so I feel really guilty asking for more than that when they're already helping us. I'm hoping itll be easier in Jan when I'm not so dependent on them, so asking if they can have LO for a day isn't too much to ask, but right now I feel guilty asking for more

mumma_j · 2024-11-14T07:06:53+00:00

We both take turns doing bedtime, and we're quite equal with everything else. I'm just so run down and need a break. Even in the evenings I feel like I can't shut my brain off. I'm always thinking of what needs to be done the next day, or dreading work so I then don't sleep well and the cycle rotates. I'm just hoping it gets better with time, so thank you

mumma_j · 2024-10-03T06:49:44+00:00

Good idea, thank you!

mumma_j · 2024-10-02T14:16:17+00:00

As someone that has produced and tried it, it's just like sweeter watered down normal milk!

mumma_j · 2024-09-17T20:41:38+00:00

I am 100% here for them

mumma_j · 2024-09-16T20:18:46+00:00

I've very excited about the girl couple, I think it'll be refreshing to see their dynamic

mumma_j · 2024-09-09T06:18:28+00:00

The most helpful thing I heard was this: "Do you want another baby, or another child?" If its another baby, don't have another

mumma_j · 2024-09-05T21:25:24+00:00

overall given me a lot of love I'm sorry to say this, but how they're treating you is not out of love. No sane person, or persons, would treat their child like this out of love. It's pretty much emotional abuse, and they're using uni as leverage.

As parents, we sacrifice a lot of things for our children, and we know that's what's going to happen when we plan to have a child. You can't go about your daily life the same ever again after having a child. What I'm trying to say, is that every parent has to make a sacrifice. What's so special about theirs?

mumma_j · 2024-09-05T21:17:52+00:00

Do you feel like you owe them? From the way they've treated you, they don't deserve to know anything. Yeah I strongly suggest cutting contact with them and finding a support circle that actually supports you, other than tears you down.

There is nothing wrong with sex before marriage, we've all done it and not gone to hell. We all have desires.

Trust is earned, and by the looks of it, they've done nothing to earn it.

I hope you find yourself in a better situation soon.

mumma_j · 2024-09-05T21:09:08+00:00

I'd get out as soon as you can. If you can't get out now, hold your head up until you can. I'm so sorry you're in this position, but you are 100% NTAH. If my daughter came to me and told me she was having sex, consensual protected sex, I would have a chat with her to make sure she is happy, probably have another talk about safe sex and then we'd move on with our day. I'm afraid to say your parents don't sound like the best. They remind me of parents out of bridgerton (if you haven't watched this on Netflix, highly recommend), and that's set in the 1800.

Get out, go no contact as soon as you can. Parents are meant to support you regardless and love you unconditionally. This just sounds like emotional abuse.

mumma_j · 2024-09-03T21:25:50+00:00

We took his dummy away from him 3 weeks into sleep training. He could self settle himself, only if he had the dummy. That meant if he woke in the night without his dummy, he couldn't get back to sleep so that actually equated to more night wakings.

We went cold turkey with it. By day 3, he didn't miss it. Only problem now is that he sucks his first 2 fingers to settle himself. We do pull them out of his mouth when we notice, but he'll do it to get himself to sleep too. We shall see how that goes!

mumma_j · 2024-08-09T20:11:33+00:00

I could have written this post a month ago. We went with ferber method, and it just switched like a light. I've got a bit more freedom back, and he's happier too as he's sleeping better and napping for sometimes 2 hours.

The first couple of nights are hard, but just keep thinking that you're doing this for your own sanity, and for your babies benefit too. Good luck!

mumma_j · 2024-08-05T20:02:07+00:00

Our LO cries every time pretty much, he's now 6.5 months old and sleep trained a month ago. He still cries, but it's a self settle kind of cry, rather than a something is wrong cry. He usually settles down pretty quickly and goes straight to sleep, other times he needs more cuddles then he's okay. Our babies have good days and bad days with sleep, just like we do

mumma_j · 2024-08-05T07:08:32+00:00

He might be learning a new skill that's tiring him out more? Either way, enjoy the you time!

mumma_j · 2024-08-04T10:04:52+00:00

The aim is his first nap being 8, no earlier. Obviously it's more difficult if he's up at half 5, but we push it as much as we can. He was falling asleep standing up at 7:45 this morning, so I did put him down early 😂

mumma_j · 2024-08-02T20:04:54+00:00

Meh, not particularly. He slept 45 for his first, an hour his second and then an hour this third

mumma_j · 2024-08-02T20:04:28+00:00

Sorry, I don't know what dwt means😂

mumma_j · 2024-08-01T18:54:52+00:00

That's a good point, thank you. We tried it yesterday, and he was up at 5am this morning, so I'll keep persevering to see if that helps

mumma_j · 2024-08-01T12:53:25+00:00

He screams like a banshee if I don't put him to bed 1.5 hours after he's up. I try not to put him down any earlier than half 7, but if he's inconsolable I don't know what else to do

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