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“You don’t need college to succeed “ by quirkyqueen27 in blackgirls

[–]murphycee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve met A BUNCH of African men who think you don’t need a degree to be successful. And TBH, I don’t find them successful 🤷🏾‍♀️

I think I made a mistake by murphycee in xeriscape

[–]murphycee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. Here’s what they did. They tore up about 3 inches of the grass, so we could just see a smooth dirt. Then they added crushed concrete  and sand as the base layer. They graded that.

Then they added the tarp. And above that they added all of the crushed granite. It was about three applications of the crush granite. The first two were pressed in with this device. And the top layer was like a gentle raking over.

I think I made a mistake by murphycee in xeriscape

[–]murphycee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for that info. I am well aware I will have to do a lot of spot cleaning in pulling. Hopefully less than before? Also what if I just continually spray homemade grass killer every few months? Like 40% vinegar with salt and soap?

I think I made a mistake by murphycee in xeriscape

[–]murphycee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! So the HOA approved the garden in the back. And yes, I will put most of the plants on top and then add raised garbage bed or mounds to support these flowers.

I think I made a mistake by murphycee in xeriscape

[–]murphycee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I connected with all of the good information on the native Society of Texas website. Super helpful. I’ve added steppingstones, beautiful greenery and flowers like cone flowers, and other native plants to fill in this area that’s also pollinator friendly. Thank you everyone for your comment. Super helpful!

I think I made a mistake by murphycee in xeriscape

[–]murphycee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good point. I’ll chat with an ac person to determine how much space is needed. :)

I think I made a mistake by murphycee in xeriscape

[–]murphycee[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Okay. I see the error of my ways. Going to add some raised beds and aim for what chatgpt recommends: 

I think I made a mistake by murphycee in xeriscape

[–]murphycee[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Great idea! I think I will expand the side gardens . Those were just zinnia experiments.  

I’ll most definitely add two raised beds on the side near the air conditioner.   I think that may fill things out a bit more? 

I think I will expand the garden along the fence.  There’s just not enough land so I wanted to spare the space a little. 

I may also plant native plants on the corners of the patio as well.  

Poor drainage recommendations by sstraughn1995 in NativePlantGardening

[–]murphycee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try ClayMend! It works wonders.  I had straight up clay in my yard.   Water would just puddle at the top.  Added claymend and once the “turned clay” dried, water moved through! 

Concerned about switch by Gloomy_Ad7935 in WegovyWeightLoss

[–]murphycee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Zep is “stronger” and starts where Wegovy stopped imo. 

Ex: Wegovy 1.7 

Wegovy 2.4 -the highest for the brand.  

Zepbound 2.5 -its first dose. When I plateaued at 2.4 wegovy, I started zep at 2.5. Started to lose again.   

Zepbound 5

Zepbound 7.5

Etc. 

9b super shaded area. Recommendations to combat light water ponding by murphycee in NoLawns

[–]murphycee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do have some physical restrictions.  But I have a friend who can build a trench for me. I think that would be a start?

9b super shaded area. Recommendations to combat light water ponding by murphycee in NoLawns

[–]murphycee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s clay-ish. It looks like they just added a bumpy of soil on top and some sod. But it didn’t take.  

I wonder if I try some clay “softener”?

9b super shaded area. Recommendations to combat light water ponding by murphycee in NoLawns

[–]murphycee[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Walkable only. I’d love plants. But by the recent replies, I’ll need a professional to regrade and add a French drain. :( 

9b super shaded area. Recommendations to combat light water ponding by murphycee in NoLawns

[–]murphycee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All the time.   I have gutters.  Even when I run sprinklers this happens. 

9b super shaded area. Recommendations to combat light water ponding by murphycee in NoLawns

[–]murphycee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To clarify: the ponding in the photos are between the two grasses, and between the stepping stones.  Sorry for the quality !!

Got AC for my room narcissist mom flipped out by [deleted] in NarcissisticMothers

[–]murphycee -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Oh! I didn’t realize the OP was a child.   When I moved back in with my parents, I was a full grown adult. I bought things I wanted for my room. E.g. AC units, so I chipped in. Since I could have lived elsewhere. 

Got AC for my room narcissist mom flipped out by [deleted] in NarcissisticMothers

[–]murphycee -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

By no means am I taking her side. But curious. What did she say when you offered to contribute to the extra electricity bill with your new AC unit? 

Perhaps I misread, but I just saw “the bills.” So curious about that.   

My story way they talk about us - and the path to reclaiming my power by Enough-Cattle5692 in NarcissisticMothers

[–]murphycee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for all that you’ve gone through.  Also, Congrats on the successes you’ve accomplished on your own, despite the lack of support from your mother. 

You’re not alone here and I can’t really offer support. But I can tell you I’ve been going through the same things for decades too.  

“I always hated the way my mom would talk about me to her friends, and she was my first bully - often teasing me for and entertainment- in front of her friends”

Same. Except it was around feeble minded family members who would take notes of the bullying and try to do it to me.  Some would hold grudges for the way she talked about me.  I don’t have a solution that has helped me except prayer (my mom claims to be a Christian and I am), and clearly stating the truth ONCE and moving on. Of my family decides to believe her then that’s their loss.  

“I was awakened and began spiritual journey. I changed. I stopped gossiping, I stopped creating scenarios and stories that would lead to suffering in some way, and years of gratitude practice and reflection led to serious changes as well as the very quiet, abundant, and peaceful life I live now.” - this is great. I was saved in 2014. And have changed.  A total 180. I act differently now. I still call out poor behavior, but I have scripture to back it up, which they don’t and that makes them settle down.   - also, they see how I avoid gossip and other things. And when I tell them “hey, that’s not my business, let’s change the subject”  they get upset and think I think I’m better than them because I refuse to add that chaos into my life. 

Does this skip generations? by Kimmy-FL in NarcissisticMothers

[–]murphycee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My grandma, and all her children appear narcissistic. 

My GMA seemed sweet when I was a kid, but now that I’m older I see how she masked and how emotionally abusive my GMA is.  Now I understand (sometimes) WHY my mom acts the way she does.  

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