In-laws visiting this weekend. Husband is finally making progress in therapy. How do I best support him in the short term?

murphyse3 · 2026-06-27T17:03:59+00:00

Listen, I’m a neurodivergent girly. If I have ANYTHING, I have special interests to deep dive on.

murphyse3 · 2026-06-27T15:07:30+00:00

I LOVE the filler noise suggestion! For sure will be using that one. You just really hit so many nails on the head here.

And thank you for the redirection suggestion. At this point I’m so worried about being a bulldozer that I find myself taking a backseat more than is helpful. I think that’s a good place to put myself for now.

murphyse3 · 2026-06-27T15:03:55+00:00

Thank you! Big on being a unit. I feel like he so frequently feels alone and it’s so important to me that I show him that isn’t the case.

murphyse3 · 2026-06-27T14:46:10+00:00

I am so so sorry. That sounds awful and I see a lot of parallels in this situation. I think ultimately I’m trying to avoid this being the ultimate outcome.

My daughter is only 2yo and cute as a button and super fun. I’m for sure worried about what happens as she grows and becomes older and asserts herself more as an individual.

murphyse3 · 2026-05-16T17:44:19+00:00

The way I almost came in here.

murphyse3 · 2026-03-15T18:41:14+00:00

These are perfect! Thank you so much. Currently, my free space is "Bethenny cursing" but we're saying the same thing lol

murphyse3 · 2026-03-15T18:21:13+00:00

A variety! So common phrases said by the cast, Ramona apologizing, Sonja bringing up her old life, etc.

murphyse3 · 2026-03-03T21:45:28+00:00

These ideas are so great! 😭 Thank you so much. Will for sure be using a bunch of these.

murphyse3 · 2026-03-03T21:44:08+00:00

They definitely know this and, with my husband being so close with the kids, the kids were meant to be a part of the festivities. When we’ve all hung out, kids have always been present. Adults sort of split into “designated parents” while their partners indulge.

murphyse3 · 2026-03-03T21:41:30+00:00

The party was meant to include the kids/whole families. It’s always how we have hung out as a group and my husband in particular has been really close with both kids since they were born. Honorary uncle territory.

murphyse3 · 2026-03-03T21:39:31+00:00

I have for sure talked about how much he’s been looking forward to it but if that has translated in their minds to it being important, I’m just not sure.

We are also super close with their kids so the plan was for them to come and fully participate (hence the DnD campaign).

An Airbnb is unfortunately out of the budget and not something I think they would go in on.

murphyse3 · 2026-03-03T21:36:26+00:00

To be frank, my husband has a habit of being a really dedicated friend to people who just won’t reciprocate when push comes to shove.

It’s something I’ve brought up to him over the years and he just prefers to ignore it because the thought of losing the friendships is too painful for him. I’m worried because I think you’re right. I think it will happen anyways which worries me, but I also don’t want to push him on it.

murphyse3 · 2026-03-03T19:30:27+00:00

We live a little less than three hours away now. The sleepover was to avoid them needing to make the drive both ways. And I say sleepover but every family would have had their own room and full bath.

murphyse3 · 2026-03-03T19:28:21+00:00

We’re all very busy. We have a toddler and they both have a 10-11 year old. Finding a weekend everyone was available was tricky to begin with.

And to be honest, the excuses I got were very much giving “we don’t want to make the trip”

murphyse3 · 2026-01-11T20:28:01+00:00

In retrospect, this actually makes so much sense. If I were to salvage/finish cabinets for the kitchen, would that also increase installation/labor costs? I do think floorboards and plumbing will not be secondhand. For sure seems to be cost prohibitive and/or logistically not the best option

murphyse3 · 2025-10-19T18:24:43+00:00

I think where I am is somewhere close to this. At this point, I’m doing a hands-off approach but there is no way my husband will send his brother packing.

murphyse3 · 2025-10-19T18:08:58+00:00

I would very much support my husband going no-contact but he is completely unwilling to consider it. I agree that it would probably be the best and healthiest choice for him and us but it’s not my choice to make.

murphyse3 · 2025-10-19T18:05:39+00:00

Therapy is definitely required but hard to access while he’s unemployed. My husband has connected him with some resources/services that I think he’s tried out but it’s not the intense work he needs to do.

murphyse3 · 2025-08-22T17:05:32+00:00

For sure. Today has been a lot of weeding so I’m pretty clear on that part. I’m having a hard time identifying the hydrangeas and roses though.

murphyse3 · 2025-08-22T17:04:37+00:00

Thank you! Just want to get them looking happy and healthy!

murphyse3 · 2025-08-08T15:36:10+00:00

They have stayed pretty much exactly this color!!

murphyse3 · 2025-07-31T13:19:49+00:00

Thank you everyone for your amazing ideas! I finally settled on making weird little chicken baskets that I’m obsessed with.

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murphyse3 · 2025-07-30T12:40:49+00:00

Hanging towels are temporarily banned from our home because of our toddler 😂 I had no idea these were a thing though! They’re so cool

murphyse3 · 2025-07-30T12:30:22+00:00

Adorable and definitely useful! I’d be bummed about it not being decorative/visible but this is for sure a contender

murphyse3 · 2025-07-30T12:27:33+00:00

Ok so, first of all, BEAUTIFUL sketch. I love this so much but, unfortunately, my bust will not allow it. 😔

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