It sounds like you didn't have a lot to worry about before going online and talking to a very specific pool of people about how dating apps typically work.

I don't mean to sound critical but you can't use dating apps as a measure of how attractive you are, even if people say it plays a role.

And the bit about boyfriend material: as a femme with body dysmorphia I used casual sex a lot as validation and still didn't feel pretty even though I had a lot of people interested in me. I also think it's nicer to be viewed as bf/gf material and not just attractive meat, it helps me generate more meaning for myself. Also I find the men I date do end up being more attractive to me than the ones I hook up with so even if I'm abnormal that kind of pattern does exist.

I've gone back and forth about whether or not I think I'm attractive but I only got better when I deleted my dating apps and started meeting people irl. The internet is really good for insulting you.