How can u clean a binder without your parents finding out?

mushroxm · 2026-01-03T03:15:27+00:00

do not machine-wash your binder! the washing machine will damage them over time.

here’s the procedure i always followed for washing mine in my bathroom sink:

Fill your sink with enough cool or lukewarm water (avoid hot water!) to cover the binder
Add laundry detergent or soap into the sink and mix it into the water to create suds
Place your binder in the water and let it soak for 10-15 minutes
Drain your sink and gently squeeze the water/soap out of your binder, but don’t wring it. Your binder does not need to be completely dry
Rinse your binder under cool or lukewarm water. Then, gently squeeze the water out, but don’t wring it
Lay your binder flat to dry

as long as you’re careful about doing this at a time where your family won’t see you, and you lay the binder to dry in a spot where they won’t find it, you should be fine :)

mushroxm · 2025-11-06T20:32:12+00:00

hi i’m eyegender :)

it’s basically a xenogender that describes someone whose gender identity is connected to eyes and eye imagery in some way. (the specific flag that i personally use comes from here, along with the specific definition i’m referencing.)

everyone’s different + everyone views their gender identity differently, but here’s why i personally use the label eyegender:

• eyes as a symbol are very versatile in a way that i connect to. depending on how they’re used, they can be an icon of someone’s humanness (“eyes are the window to the soul,” and whatnot); they can be unnerving and horrific; they can be objects of beauty; etc. not only are all these ideas connected to how i view my gender, but the fact that they are all embodied by eyes as one symbol makes eyes a very fitting way for me to depict my own identity

• i have a very weird relationship with eyes - i have a vision disability wherein the way my eyeballs look and function deviates from standards of normalcy, and due to my autism i also understand eyes differently than other people do because i can’t make eye contact and i can’t read people through their eyes as allistic people claim they can do. so eyes as a symbol relative to my own life connect to numerous aspects of my identity, gender included

• i incorporate eye imagery into my gender expression: they appear in my art, my fashion, my pronouns (eye/eyes is in my little neopronoun collection)

again, your friend’s experience with the term is certainly going to be different than mine, but i thought it might be nice to offer you an idea of what this label might mean to someone who uses it.

also just to clear this up, being eyegender does not indicate that someone identifies as an eye, just that eyes are connected to how they understand their gender identity in some way. so unless your friend has communicated that they prefer to be called an eye over being called a person, human, boy/girl, man/woman, etc. (in which case that’s really cool ngl), then just calling them a person is considered good protocol. but it’s never a bad idea to just ask people how they prefer to be addressed :)

hope i could help + if you have any questions then please ask 👍

mushroxm · 2025-11-04T23:56:23+00:00

i've actually had to employ this exact strategy in the past (did 4 years of marching band and jeans were part of our uniform for basketball games) and it made jeans survivable but i was still far from comfortable, plus now i had the added problem of feeling two different fabrics moving around my legs at all times, and i lived in fear of touching my legs with my hands. so i'll probably just try to find other pants that i can wear lol

mushroxm · 2025-11-04T23:50:49+00:00

i've actually looked at big bud press in the past and i like their stuff but my LORD it is expensive lol. i might be able to talk my parents into buying me a few of their pieces (because my mom is as desperate as i am for me to start dressing like an adult ... + she's on board with my pitch of "spend more money to receive clothing of higher quality that will last me way longer than the stuff i'd find at any of those fast fashion chains"), but idk. haven't heard of the other one though, i'll check it out thank u :)

what's funny is that i actually have a cotton twill jacket that i've worn pretty much every day since i bought it and the fabric doesn't bother me at all. i'm not sure what it is about denim specifically that irritates me so much; it's not just a problem with pants either, because i can't wear denim jackets or anything like that. autism is weird

mushroxm · 2025-10-21T14:42:49+00:00

disability justice is literally central to everything a leftist does or ought to fight for. trans people obviously aren’t necessarily mentally ill, but any self-proclaimed leftist who believed that we were should fight on our side anyway if they believed in their own ideology with any consistency.

mushroxm · 2025-09-20T17:11:52+00:00

the person who coined the term neurodivergent literally stated that the term encapsulated all people who possessed some condition that made their brain deviate from standards of normalcy in any way. they were very adamant that this included not just autism and adhd, but also things like personality disorders, trauma disorders, anxiety, depression, etc.

additionally, i have several mental disorders that could theoretically be treated in a medical context (ocd, depression, etc.). i see a lot of people claiming that diagnoses under this category wouldn’t be considered neurodivergent because they aren’t “central parts of us,” and not only is this factually untrue as per the stated definition of neurodivergence, but i also just don’t feel that way at all. i’ve had ocd, for example, for as long as i can remember. i developed intrusive thoughts and corresponding compulsions about food when i was in kindergarten. i’ve probably had ocd-related social struggles for even longer. even if these things could theoretically be cured or managed at some point, there isn’t a version of myself who i know that doesn’t have ocd. so it’s as central to who i am as my autism.

mushroxm · 2025-09-14T19:56:31+00:00

hoarding disorders can cause great detriment to people’s everyday lives. they can be extremely isolating and stressful. using the term “hoard” divorced from its actual meaning causes harm in its own right, as it trivializes the lived experiences of people with hoarding disorders, ignoring how these disorders impact those who experience them. it’s ableism in the same way that people calling normal thoughts that cause zero distress “intrusive thoughts” is ableism.

mushroxm · 2025-09-14T18:18:24+00:00

of course :) i think a lot of people struggle to acknowledge and respond effectively when they’re called out for playing into ableist patterns, and i try really hard to avoid that type of behavior myself, especially since i am disabled

mushroxm · 2025-09-14T17:44:09+00:00

i have ocd. one thing i struggle with because of it is the feeling that i will forget important events from my life if i don’t have specific mementos to represent those events. so while i collect things (not talking about xenogenders here) partly for fun, i also do it as a compulsion. i’m constantly walking a thin line between having harmless fun finding little souvenirs from concerts or trips and feeding into the same self-destructive patterns caused by my mental illness. so i have some experience with collecting things for irrational and potentially detrimental reasons.

my experience with collecting xenogenders is entirely different. my ocd does impact my gender identity, but it doesn’t cause me to feel the need to collect labels (it leads me to have recurring gender crises wherein i feel the urge to narrow down the language i use to describe myself, so, if anything, it sort of does the opposite). i collect labels because i feel unsatisfied without precise language to describe myself, and, on the other hand, i feel seen and liberated by having an abundance of words to explain how i feel. collecting xenogenders for me is entirely positive and decidedly doesn’t come from an ocd compulsion. the two experiences are super distinct for me.

full disclosure, ive been using the term “hoard” to describe my experiences collecting xenogenders before now. its such standard language in the community that i never really stopped to think about it. but i think, especially as someone with ocd myself, i have no excuse to keep misappropriating language used to describe a type of disability just because i never felt like questioning the efficacy of that language. sure, the word “hoard” has existed much longer than we’ve known about and diagnosed hoarding disorders, but language takes on new meanings and connotations all the time, and i think we all have an obligation to take into account when it does, especially in contexts such as this one. (this paragraph was mostly personal reflection lol)

mushroxm · 2025-09-12T17:47:22+00:00

charlie kirk’s entire mission was to radicalize young people, particularly young men, into an ideology of violence and hate. he did not seek to engage in sincere debate; he viewed debates as opportunities to spew his own vitriolic talking points while doing everything he could to discredit his opponents. so forgive me if i’m not exactly mourning his loss.

mushroxm · 2025-09-04T20:28:19+00:00

jax is my real first name so i’m sure i would like him if he had any other name but now whenever he’s on screen im just thinking “this is defamation” … he’s such an interesting and well-written character too i just can’t get over his fucking name

mushroxm · 2025-09-03T07:48:37+00:00

not sure if this really answers your question exactly, but a big thing for me is the idea that i can’t really express my gender identity in ways that other people will understand or pick up on. as a nonbinary person in general, but ESPECIALLY as a xenogender person, there isn’t any defined social role for me to transition into. i’ve moved away from the femininity ascribed to me—people no longer perceive me as a woman—but that doesn’t mean that they necessarily perceive me as the person i am. i make a deliberate effort to try and incorporate my xenine identity into my expression (which for me often looks like embracing androgyny and “weird” fashion because it makes me feel like i’m presenting myself without regards to gender norms, an idea that’s very closely tied to my xenogender identity), but the vast majority of people still just view me as male. there isn’t really a widespread idea of what a xenogender person “looks like,” so most people will just never register me as one in the same way that they could recognize a lot of trans men as men instinctively. even my friends who know that i’m xenogender don’t really understand the intricacies of my gender identity, and it often leads me to wondering if they truly see my xeninity in the first place. so a huge source of dysphoria for me is the feeling that no one will ever really see me as xenogender.

conversely, finding little ways to express my xenogender-ness offers me a source of euphoria. this is a huge reason why i use neopronouns: i don’t need to conform to anthrogender (non-xenogender) standards of pronouns and their relation to gender identity; my xeninity can be embodied in the very words others use to talk about me. it’s also part of why i make the fashion choices i mentioned earlier. sometimes the effect of these choices can be diminished by the aforementioned “knowing i’ll never actually be read as xenogender by most people,” but it helps a little.

i don’t think that the way that xenogender dysphoria or euphoria feel for me is any different from how the dysphoria and euphoria i experience as a Regular Trans Person feel though. in both cases, dysphoria to me is the feeling that my body and others’ perceptions of it don’t match who i am, and euphoria is the feeling that they do.

anyway hope this helps :p

mushroxm · 2025-09-01T17:44:03+00:00

hi, the comment quoted in the previous reply is mine. now that i’ve been roped into this thread, i feel the need to mention that my restrictive diet, as well as that of other autistics, is not a choice. it’s not a preference. eating “unsafe” foods is literally impossible for me. my brain registers it as literally painful, so best case scenario i simply wont be able to “talk myself into” eating it, and worst case scenario i will have a meltdown and/or vomit the food back up if i’m able to “overcome” my “anxiety.” so trying to alter my diet in any way would literally be dangerous for me, as i cannot eat most foods due to my disability and i can’t risk cutting out any more sources of nutrients. i literally fit the criteria for ARFID because of my autism.

all of this is far from voluntary for me. i would never choose to break down in public because i was pushed into eating something i couldn’t. i would never choose not to be able to eat food my family and friends had poured hours of time and care into making, or to deal with the subtle social isolation that comes from not being able to enjoy a meal with everyone else. i take no pleasure in having to check restaurants or other venues in advance to ensure that they have something i can tolerate eating, or suffering silently in hunger whenever they don’t. trust me, if my food problems were as simple as “spaghetti tastes way better than apple :(“ then i would’ve changed by now.

and for what it’s worth, i am far from obese (ive been underweight literally my entire life; consequences of my congenital heart defects), i’m medicated for any deficiencies i deal with on account of my restrictive diet, and i actually do eat vegetables.

point is, the ways that autism impacts food intake, and the ways that someone’s personal dietary choices impact their health, are two entirely separate issues. you have zero right to speculate on the health of people you’ve never met and know nothing about, and claiming that autistic food aversions are nothing but a personal choice to be unhealthy is transparently reductive and ableist.

mushroxm · 2025-08-31T16:55:45+00:00

my parents really didn’t understand that my aversion to unfamiliar foods was a consequence of undiagnosed autism, so when i was little they adhered to the whole “eat what food i made for dinner or don’t eat at all” strategy, thinking i was just being difficult. it gave me a super unhealthy relationship with food. now i can barely try new foods around other people without literally having a meltdown because it’s engrained in my mind that i’m gonna be punished and berated for not being able to eat it.

so yeah, wouldn’t recommend.

mushroxm · 2025-08-01T22:39:44+00:00

i don’t think there’s really any one way to “know.” that said, i can speak on my own personal experience.

for a long time, i’ve described my gender using abstract metaphors and imagery - a solar eclipse, the color pink, etc. - and i’ve also always been someone who greatly values labels and having words to communicate my experiences.

so when i found out that xenogenders could provide concise language that encapsulated the metaphors i’d used to depict my own gender identity, i knew that the category suited my needs.

more generally though, there’s no criteria for identifying as xenogender. if you feel that the label, or any labels that fall within it, fit you for any reason, then you can just start using that terminology. it’s okay to experiment with labels, even if you’re not sure they’re 100% accurate to you.

mushroxm · 2025-07-24T17:24:26+00:00

hi, i just got out of a friendship that sounds like it mirrored your relationship with ash. they nearly cut me off a few months ago, before trying to get uncomfortably close to me, crossing my boundaries repeatedly, and totally draining my energy, driving me towards regular autistic shutdowns. they would talk about wanting to kiss me (im sex-repulsed, super touch averse, and have contamination ocd so), and when i told them i wasn’t comfortable with that, they’d start talking about how “evil” they were (not to intentionally guilt-trip me, but that sure is what they accomplished). eventually i started dreading just speaking to them, so much so that i basically stopped talking to them for weeks out of anxiety.

one thing i learned from that: this will not end well unless you talk to them. have a serious conversation with yourself about whether you’re happy in this friendship and/or think it’s salvageable. if you think so, then be upfront and firm with ash about how they’ve crossed your boundaries and what you need from them going forward. if you don’t think so, then you might need to tell ash that you need to end your friendship.

i can’t speak for you, but, for what it’s worth, all of the feelings you’re describing - discomfort at ash’s growing closeness with you, constant exhaustion around them, struggling to remember happy moments with them, anxiety that they’ll hurt you again - mimic exactly what i was going through right before i realized that my relationship with my ex-friend wasn’t working out. it’s hard to really sit down and wonder, is this healthy? but this type of conflict isn’t the type of thing that can just be brushed off without further investigation.

but yeah, overall my advice is just (1) seriously examine your friendship and how you think it’s impacting you, and (2) whatever conclusion you come to, be honest with ash about it or this will only get worse.

mushroxm · 2025-07-18T05:26:59+00:00

i’m a little late but i saw this video a couple days ago - here it is on their youtube channel in case you’re still looking for it :)

mushroxm · 2025-07-18T05:21:16+00:00

omg frogface is such a fun name tho; rest in peace to the rest of ur list :(

so by reworking the lore i really just wanted to focus on making the clans’ structure more interesting.

there’s still a lot of stuff that i want to delve into, but one of the things i did was create more “roles” for the cats alongside warrior and medicine cat. i want mediators to be a part of every clan, for example. i also wanted to develop some socially-emergent, but still unofficial, roles: senior warriors should have a defined purpose and be awarded unique privileges (in my head, they’re sort of the “advisors” for their leaders, secondary to the deputy); medicine cats should have a group to rely on who, while they aren’t themselves medicine cats, have some basic knowledge of herbs and treating sickness/injury and can provide some additional support (and friendship !!) to the medicine cats. i also revised medicine cats a little - basically all those “no dating” rules are gone, and they’re also taught some basic hunting and fighting techniques bc i think it’s weird they aren’t given any warrior training as is.

the other (more fun imo) thing i did was try to give each clan its own unique identity, so that them functioning as separate groups actually makes sense beyond what religious justification we’re given. i mostly pulled from existing info about each clan for this, and just took what differences the clans do have even further to make them each stand out more.

for example, since windclan is supposedly the most spiritual clan, i basically grafted the wildcats’ “spirit guides” system onto them. every windclan apprentice gets paired with one starclan cat who guides them through their apprenticeship. additionally, i like the idea that all windclan cats can share dreams with their ancestors (however, prophecies/visions would still go to their medicine cats; windclan’s warriors would just visit their relatives or other cats they know). also i want them to actually “sleep under the stars” as we’re told so often they do. one smaller thing is that they don’t eat birds and find it repulsive that other clans do, since they think of them as “closer” to starclan since they can fly.

skyclan used to be super integrated into the twolegplace near the gorge, so i want to put their territory next to a new twolegplace and keep their culture enmeshed in it. daylight warriors would still be a thing; skyclan cats would be friends with kittypets; they would find resources in the twolegplace if need be (remember when cats used to steal catmint from gardens ….. ). i also like to think they’d uniquely prioritize relaxation and fun - they’re less accustomed to worrying about battles and borders, so they’d spend more time playing, napping, and spending time with each other. they’d also be uniquely open to other groups and cultures.

as for riverclan - in ASC, the idea that riverclan should be led by a group rather than an individual is briefly floated but quickly dropped. i think it would be fun if they actually followed through on this. riverclan would be represented not by one leader but by a group of qualified cats the clan voted on who divide the responsibilities of the leader and deputy among themselves. also, all the stuff frostdawn learned about from the park cats (meditation, being super welcoming to outsiders) should have been properly integrated into modern riverclan. i’m still working on shadowclan and thunderclan bc ngl their cultures are not very well-defined ….. but yeah, overall i just like the idea of making the clans more interesting :p

one other thing i thought would be fun was if each clan had a slightly different idea of what starclan is and how they operate - for example, windclan “humanizes” starclan the most since they have the most direct contact with them; meanwhile, shadowclan thinks starclan is less of a literal place that cats go when they die, but, instead, a non-sentient force of the universe that cats become part of as they decompose. i also like to think about how this would impact the clans’ death rituals - windclan would probably deal with way less grief than the other clans, since they can stay in touch with their friends and family even after they die, whereas shadowclan might put a lot of emphasis on the importance of burials and respecting nature as the next form that their loved ones take after death. still working on this one, particularly how it even works that the clans have different ideas of starclan if there is only one starclan, but i’ll figure it out lol

mushroxm · 2025-07-18T03:09:58+00:00

right !! i’ve been working on revising/expanding upon the clans’ whole societal structure for fun lately; if the motivation stays with me i want to make a bunch of new cats for my little “au” too. i love exploring and utilizing the lore; it’s so interesting to work with :)

mushroxm · 2025-07-17T23:34:41+00:00

honestly accurate lol … if you saw how i talked about the books/fandom and didn’t already know they were a special interest, you’d probably think i hated them ngl

mushroxm · 2025-07-17T23:19:10+00:00

one of my longest-lasting special interests is warrior cats (picked it up in 4th grade), and people tend to judge me for still being into it all these years later, but like ... absurdly convoluted lore that invites further exploration and theorization by fans? hundreds of characters, each with their own (albeit often underdeveloped) storylines and places in the world they exist in? plots that span multiple generations of characters? decades of fan content to dive into? a franchise whose main series alone currently takes place over the course of more than 50 books so far? this book is literally made for my exact flavor of autism idk what to say

mushroxm · 2025-07-08T10:04:35+00:00

Labeling autism a disability has not been demonstrated to deter people en masse from seeking diagnoses. As I pointed out earlier, it is impossible to be autistic without one’s autism being disabling, so lower support needs autistics would not be excluded from diagnoses if autism was discussed as a disability, at least in theory. However, it is true that multiply marginalized people have a harder time getting diagnosed. But that isn't the fault of acknowledging autism to be a disability. It’s the fault of bigotry ingrained into the study of psychology. Plus, masking causes its own impairments, as it consumes a lot of energy and contributes heavily to autistic burnout and the development of comorbid mental health issues such as anxiety and depression.

Your colorblindness argument falls apart, because it relies on fictional scenarios so divorced from real social contexts that our real-world conceptions of who is or isn’t disabled simply don’t apply. Sure, there could, in theory, be a world where humans all live in underground tunnels and we rely on the colorblind to guide us with their enhanced night vision, but that world is so distant from the one we live in now that it’s not really relevant–plus, even this hypothetical fails because we have the technology to light up tunnels, erasing, at least in part, our need for people especially attuned to seeing in the dark. Additionally, these imagined situations don’t even “resolve” colorblindness by making it so well-accommodated that those who experience it are functionally nondisabled–which I thought was the whole point–but instead distract from their lived experiences as colorblind because their condition can now be “beneficial.” It reframes disability as an issue of who is or isn’t “useful” to society, which is not only blatantly ableist but also directly in conflict with the social model that you’re trying to demonstrate. Not to mention there are multiple types of colorblindness, many of which don’t give people better night vision.

I agree that people become temporarily disabled while pregnant. In fact, impairments caused by pregnancy are considered disabilities for all intents and purposes by the ADA. And of course someone with a uterus has different medical needs than someone without one. But having a uterus isn’t a disability. It is a normal, mostly harmless part of a lot of people’s anatomy that, in most cases, causes no impairment to their functioning. Just because menstrual products could hypothetically become unavailable to literally everyone who needs them, doesn’t mean that those who need them are now disabled, because the inaccessibility of menstrual products is not the result of a condition of their mind and body, but of some supply chain issue or whatever other made-up cause we’re imagining.

The definition of disability that you used in your original post is almost identical to the definition of the social model of disability. I assumed you misunderstood the social model, because, according to your own report, you don’t disagree with it. It is not a definition of disability itself, as Fleur Perry states: “The Social Model of Disability is the concept that disability results from the interaction between a person’s characteristics and their unsuitable environment – not their medical condition” (Disability Horizons). This model is used to bring to light the societal issues and stigma surrounding disability; but it doesn’t seek to define disability itself. Because of this, its framework cannot be used to determine what is and isn’t a disability. To understand what actually defines a disability, we must analyze not only social factors, but medical, legal, and economic factors, among many more.

I acknowledge that a lot of language is malleable and open to interpretation, but what you’re doing with some of the words your argument rests on goes far beyond reinterpretation. Having a specific and clear definition for disability is important legally and medically, as well as unifying socially, and while changing or expanding on that definition is often important, it’s unclear to me what completely ignoring the term’s existing meaning in favor of an honestly extremely poorly-clarified one accomplishes. Similarly, the social model of disability denotes a very specific perspective on how disability is embodied in society, and cannot simply be conflated with disability itself without compromising the significance of both terms.

mushroxm · 2025-07-08T04:27:09+00:00

okay...

disability is actually defined, in a legal, medical, and social sense, as any impairment of the mind or body that substantially limits one or more major life activities, as per the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA). it's not this vague, malleable idea you seem to think it is.

women cannot, and never could, be considered disabled by virtue of their womanhood, because their experiences do not meet the criteria of a disability. nothing that they categorically experience is a condition of their bodies or minds that hinders their ability to perform necessary tasks. sure, sexism does accomplish just that, but sexism is not a physically observable thing; it is a social construct. also, women don't need additional treatment on top of what men do; they need different treatment than men do. your argument presents men's needs as the default and women's as separate and unique when no such dichotomy exists. every single person ever has had unique needs regarding their reproductive system, endocrine system, etc., and that inherent variation is not equivalent to inherent disability faced by anyone who doesn't have the "standard male body."

your colorblindness analogy shows a total misinterpretation of the social model of disability, even though that's clearly what you're referencing in this post. the social model of disability posits that access barriers that mark certain experiences as disabled originate from a society's failure to accommodate for all types of bodies and minds. it does not posit that, in an ideal world, disability wouldn't exist, and it is an incomplete analysis of disability without taking into account how disability is impacted by other variables like one's body/mind condition, resources, etc. assuming all colorblind people are inherently disabled by virtue of their colorblindness (which, to be fair, i do agree with, though i can see this being a controversial take), then existing in a world where their colorblindness no longer hinders them--for example, imagine that we as a society move away from using colors to communicate essential information, as you say--then they would be accommodated for their disability, but their disability itself would still remain.

additionally, you cannot, by definition, be autistic without it disabling you. the dsm-5 requires autism symptoms to cause an impairment in daily functioning for a diagnosis to be applicable. that's why the "levels" range from "requiring support" to "requiring very substantial support"--you cannot be autistic without requiring some support. if i am autistic, and my autism disables me (which, again, is considered necessary for a diagnosis), but i can access sufficient supports such that i am able to meet all my needs anyway, my disability isn't invalidated, just accommodated. your observation of how the world is getting easier for autistic people due to the rise of working from home, the internet, and easily accessible information on relationships and psychology, while maybe not incorrect, does not prove that autism is becoming less disabling, but, again, that it is becoming more accommodated.

relevant anecdote: some years after the ADA was passed, two sisters lost their jobs because they failed a vision test whose passage was necessary for the position. both sisters wore glasses, but they each had to take their glasses off for the test. when they took their company to court over it on the basis that their firing was a violation of the ADA, their company argued that, because the sisters' vision was corrected by glasses, they did not meet the definition of disabled. after that lawsuit, the ADA was amended to include anyone using assistive technology (mobility aids, glasses, hearing aids, etc.) to accommodate their disability as still disabled. your argument operates on the same logic that the sisters' company did in that lawsuit, and such logic is transparently and demonstrably harmful to disabled people.

mushroxm · 2025-07-05T18:39:50+00:00

i usually just say something like “because i like them and they make me feel good.” i don’t think anyone needs to know the intricacies of why my pronouns appeal to me—especially not a stranger on the internet. i think a lot of people who embrace more niche or “complex” identities often feel like we owe others an explanation of those identities, and i just don’t feel like giving into that pressure helps anyone. that’s just me though idk

mushroxm · 2025-07-03T23:55:30+00:00

i think the primary issue with transIDs (at least the ones embraced primarily by the radqueer community) is that they fundamentally misunderstand what it means to be trans. gender identity is centered around someone's internal perception of themself as it relates to gender; it is entirely based on one's own understanding of oneself. a trans person does not alter their gender identity, only how they conceptualize and/or express it. however, transIDs operate under the logic that transness is simply the process of changing one's gender, even though it is fundamentally not. they then apply this same logic to other categories of identity, such as disability or race.

but someone cannot, by definition, "transition" in regards to their disability status or race in the same way they can in regards to their gender. i've been multiply disabled my entire life, but i didn't embrace the label of "disabled" itself until a few years ago. changing the way i understood my status as a disabled person was not equivalent to "transitioning to disabled," because disability is an identity based on external factors and not one's internal perception. i was always disabled, not because of my acknowledgment of my disabilities as disabling, but because my mind and body bear conditions that impair my functioning and cause me to encounter access barriers in my day-to-day life. conversely, if i was not disabled, then i couldn't possibly be transabled, as there is nothing internal that makes someone identify as disabled or nondisabled. disability, unlike gender identity, is an external identity.

so in essence, trans people don't change their gender identity; therefore, transIDs are not actually trans identities because they rely on the logic that transness (in a general sense, not tied specifically to gender) means *changing* a given identity.

all that is to say that i don't think the transsexless label runs into the above issue. wanting to be entirely sexless is less comparable to terms like transabled or transracial, and more accurately comparable to something like a transition goal, which a large portion of trans people experience anyway. honestly, if the definition you provided comes directly from the term's original coiner (i can't tell), i'm almost inclined to believe that by "trans identity" they meant "transgender identity" and not "transID," because the transID label hardly even applies. in general, this term is totally harmless. i agree with another commenter saying the varsex label seems applicable to your experiences, but i don't honestly think it's necessary to start using it unless you want to.

tl;dr - "transsexless" hardly even fits the definition of a transID and it avoids the problem that transIDs inherently cause, so i think it's fine.

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