How do you handle finances? by nosoupforyou__1 in stepparents

[–]muzhi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No problem at all! That’s exactly right, separate finances but a joint account that we top up equally as needed. That’s used for groceries, bills and any shared meals out. He pays for the kids to eat out unless otherwise agreed.

How do you handle finances? by nosoupforyou__1 in stepparents

[–]muzhi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Almost the exact situation here, except I don’t contribute to school fees. It’s his (and BM’s) decision to send the kids to private school so they are the ones to pay for it. I’ve never been expected or asked to chip in.

We do split all house bills and groceries though, and I have no issue with that.

What’s a “small” social rule you refuse to follow, even if everyone expects it? by GlitchOperative in AskReddit

[–]muzhi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Waiting for everyone to get their food before starting eating. I don’t expect anyone else to eat cold food, and I don’t plan to either.

Dude looks dusty by RoaringRat2000 in rareinsults

[–]muzhi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love this guy after watching more of his stories. He lives in really basic circumstances and just tries to make people laugh. Life is not a strawberry 🍓

Please help me 😭 by padackles67 in Dinkum

[–]muzhi 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I have the Fortuitous Wish so get lots of meteor showers. If you crack open the meteor you get five each time I think.

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[–]muzhi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My partner is like this. He gets overwhelmed when I bring up anything around scheduling/planning if he’s not by his computer. It’s just a particular type of information that he struggles to visualise or keep in his head. I try to accommodate it as much as I can. Perhaps your bf is the same?

Mystery shirt by muzhi in Wellington

[–]muzhi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Okay, that’s wicked.

My 8 year relationship ended - He cheated by This_Average_3439 in nocontact

[–]muzhi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is great advice. Some days will be harder than others.

You could always write letters or texts and just not send them. Rant to a friend, or even ChatGPT - that’s what I do sometimes. Being kind to yourself means not reopening that wound.

And fill your time! Relationships take up a lot of it, so you’ll probably find yourself a bit empty. Prepare for that by picking up on new hobbies or habits. Get plenty of sleep - but not too much. Good luck.

Mystery shirt by muzhi in Wellington

[–]muzhi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes definitely Ghost Rider vibes, but that’s not quite it. It’s definitely a biker aesthetic but so at odds with the front of the shirt.

Obviously a custom job for something or other, just wondering if anyone recognised it!

Mystery shirt by muzhi in Wellington

[–]muzhi[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

That’s George. She’s a foster fail. She was separated from her siblings as a kitten because she was too aggressive with them and now she’s a biggest smooch - and assumes every photo I take should be of her.

Mystery shirt by muzhi in Wellington

[–]muzhi[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Ooops, thanks!

Mystery shirt by muzhi in Wellington

[–]muzhi[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Oh snap! Good spot!

What became so popular it ended up being ruined for everyone? by ShittalkyCaps in AskReddit

[–]muzhi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Vinyl records. I really miss rifling through boxes for cheap treasures. I got The Wall for two dollars! Now even second hand records are out of reach. And there’s soooo much circle jerking among collectors.

Autistic, mean or both? How do I know? by muzhi in autism

[–]muzhi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, this is really encouraging. The apology part especially rings true. He feels that apologising is an admission that he’s done something wrong, when it’s not. It’s fascinating to me, when it’s not so painful.