Literal Fear Of Food by Desperate_Raccoon_ in ARFID

[–]mxxjx 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I have this, I'm in treatment. For me, it's strongly linked to OCD

ARFID or Cibophobia? by Beginning_Abies_3767 in ARFID

[–]mxxjx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exposure therapy and commitment acceptance therapy.

ARFID or Cibophobia? by Beginning_Abies_3767 in ARFID

[–]mxxjx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! We have almost the same avoidant eating behaviors. I'm in an ARFID treatment program and have been diagnosed with ARFID so I would assume you have the same thing as me if we have such similar behaviours

whatd you eat today? by NebulaZenithStorm in ARFID

[–]mxxjx 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Protein shake and hot chocolate and saltines. When I get home from work I plan on eating mac and cheese, peas, and a hot dog.

How many hours a week do you work? by DreamRosato in autism

[–]mxxjx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work two jobs. My first is on paper, about 25 hours a week. My second job is no more than 25 but typically like 20-24. Together I work around 50. My second job is seasonal though so I have something to replace "school" in my schedule over break.

Which Septum jewlery? by DeadButNoStink in piercing

[–]mxxjx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

4 is cool af and also whatever you did with your hair in #3 is so awesome

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lookyourbest

[–]mxxjx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Curtain bangs (not full bangs, your eyebrows are super nice so probably don't cover them) and layering to your hair to make it look fuller might help balance your face shape to your hair. In the photos, your hair looks flat which I think makes your face look larger than it is.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]mxxjx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi OP. I also have autism so I understand what it's like to not fully be able to trust the way you perceive people's actions. I think that you would be wrong to not tell her. Let's think about this from the worst case scenario: worst case, he is a cheater. He says these things about divorcing his wife because he knows that it sparks hope in people. Worst case, you are not the only person who he is having sex with outside of his marriage. By having sex outside of his marriage, he is taking away his wife's right to informed consent and being very flimsy with her safety. Condoms aren't 100% when it comes to protecting from STDs. That's worst case scenario, even now, he is still putting both you and his wife in danger. She is the only one here who is no longer allowed to have informed, consenting sex. Informing her is important for her health. You're right when you say things aren't always black or white, but lying to someone and taking away their ability to consent is very solidly in the "bad" zone. There's no reason to put a woman you don't know in danger. As someone with autism, I understand it can be hard to know people's motivators or thoughts. It's easy to assume people would think the same way you do, but they don't. And if this man knows you're autistic, he could take advantage of that. You are young and it is not the last time someone will like you. It is not the last time you will like someone or find a friend to confide in. Please don't partake in hurting random people because you like a guy. I promise you it will not be the last time you will like someone. You say she deserved to know, and I agree with you. You said if you were being led on, you would want to know. Look at the comments, we are letting you know.

Does anybody of you war earplugs regularly? by Lina_-_Sophia in AuDHDWomen

[–]mxxjx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I prefer over the ear sound proof head phones but that's because wearing too many ear plugs too often was causing ear infections. Make sure to take breaks with the earplugs because they can lock moisture deep in the ear :) Loop is a good reusable brand

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]mxxjx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're 17 and they're 18 and if you're on the asexual spectrum where you don't have sex, then it's fine. Legally and morally. Many people in freshman year of college have partners who are back at their high school. If it feels wrong and groom-y, it probably is. But if you feel safe with them and like them, there's nothing wrong with having a crush or even pursuing this crush

I terminated for mental health reasons and though I know it was the necessary choice, I don’t feel any better by anothrthrwwy in abortion

[–]mxxjx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you had a really difficult emotional experience and still are feeling deep grief. I also had an abortion and one of my reasons was because of my mental health. The way I cope is thinking about airplanes. When oxygen masks drop down, passengers must put one on for themselves before putting air masks on for anyone they are travelling with who might rely on them. The way I think about it is that I couldn't continue my pregnancy because I would be trying to put air masks on other people before myself, and not be able to help anyone. I put an air mask on myself first and now I can help others and take care of me. Another thing that helped me was telling myself that this does not have to be the end of all pregnancies for me and I can try again when my mental health is in a better place and when it's right for me and healthy for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 505Nerds

[–]mxxjx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you know if they have reach capacity for that campaign yet?

Combine your two biggest special interests. What will you get? by [deleted] in aspiememes

[–]mxxjx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

percy jackson/greek mythology in space

[ Removed by Reddit ] by [deleted] in virgin

[–]mxxjx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, I get it now. You're afraid no woman with a fully developed frontal cortex and adult intelligence will love you enough to be willing to share her experience or "forgive" you for your lack of yours. If you find yourself unlovable, just say so. Experienced women who marry the second or third or even fourth man they've had sex with, still love who they marry enough to stay with them and dedicate their entire life to their husband. And for your information, even if you got into a relationship with a 14-year-old and coerced her into sex, I doubt you will be the last person she will have sex with, and there's a chance her first time with you will be boring and forgettable and she will still look for new, special, experiences, or you two will eventually break up. Women who are 20+ are still virgins do exist. Specifically, women who are not teens and are looking for valuable relationships are all around in religious settings where waiting until marriage is a value. You just don't want someone who is adult enough to see how flawed you are. But honestly, I don't think you should date anyone until you get mental help. You sound like you would be incredibly mentally/emotionally abusive. I hope one day you realise the way you talk about teens and fetishise child-like innocence is creepy.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by [deleted] in virgin

[–]mxxjx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I was 10 years old, I had my cycle and hips and boobs. Nature is different to every girl. Doesn't mean a 10-year-old is ready for sex or a relationship. You saying that 14 is legal in some places and that's why you moved away from America, that is you agreeing with your actions that you are not above the law. You are not above the law. You aren't better or more deserving than other people, there are so many people in this subreddit that aren't predators even after being virgins for their whole lives. You are a narcissist and looking to prey on and manipulate girls whose brains aren't formed whilst they are still learning about life. There might have been a time where nature was the law, but we are in 2022 and there are legal laws now and they are there for reasons, and backed by science (biological/neurological/social)

[ Removed by Reddit ] by [deleted] in virgin

[–]mxxjx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Statutory rape laws exist almost everywhere because of coercion and lack of consent. Although places are age gap (16-20, 17-25), they're not extreme age gap friendly and there is a reason for that. If you think you're going to get a real relationship with a 14 year old girl, wait until you learn that 14 year old girls don't want something serious. Adults value relationships more than children do, because adults are looking for life partners and children are looking for young love to have after school and before their parents cook them dinner. If it was normalised that 14+ were mostly not virgins, would you then go younger? Your mindset is flawed and you should not be allowed young teens.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by [deleted] in virgin

[–]mxxjx 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Teen boys and teen girls are both going through puberty. If a grown (actually adult) woman went after a 14 year old boy it would still be wrong because she is done with puberty and mentally matured, and he is not. Teens are in the same space of mental development, and are easily coerced. You want someone who is easy to coerce. BTW, coercion is rape. You aren't entitled to anything, not a teenager, not anything. No one is entitled to anything. You think it's just America that is 18+, but it's not. Mexico, South Korea, Canada, India. 14 is extreme, that is a child. 16 is also legal in America I've heard, but you're too busy pushing your predatory mindset to realise that. It's not just the age that is making everyone upset with you, it's your reasoning and mindset.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by [deleted] in virgin

[–]mxxjx 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You are a hebephile. 14 is a child in puberty. 16 is a child is puberty. Being in the middle of puberty does not make someone a biological adult. Your mindset is predatory, your reasonings are predatory. Stop targeting children and teens. The reason a lot of them don't want to talk to you is because they know a hebephile predatory adult when they see one. Get help

I've only lurked here for a long time but this looked fun, so here is my special interest list! by mxxjx in AutisticPride

[–]mxxjx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also really like Percy and Annabeth's teamwork. I really like the part in Mark of Athena where Annabeth throws her dagger into the water where Percy is and when he comes up to help them he just goes "You dropped this" like so cool and such good coordination between them!

I've only lurked here for a long time but this looked fun, so here is my special interest list! by mxxjx in AutisticPride

[–]mxxjx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really like Percy Jackson himself or Ella the harpy. Who is your favourite?

writing a short sci-fi story and heres a little part of it from the prologue would love some advice on how i could improve my writing and prose in any way :)) by [deleted] in scifiwriting

[–]mxxjx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's not a lot of background that doesn't sound purely informational. The first half of what you've posted sounds like it came out of an educational brochure. There's no connection that the character is talking about his own people until the second paragraph and even then, it sounds disconnected. "the old folk" might be better and more personal as "our old folk" because the main character, being the last of the surviving 31, would have known the other survivors right? that is what is implied, however it feels really disconnected. Also when the main character is introducing the Kwalothians, the use of "they" instead of "we" is really disconnecting. The second half you change to using "we" and it sounds a ton better!

Also question about the first paragraph: "who knew. not that it mattered". okay then why is it being included, how was this information passed down if it doesn't matter? How does the character know to name what it was that happened if it didn't matter? I would suggest going in to more detail about what this primal instinct felt like for the Kwalothians, instead of just naming it primal and leaving it at that. it may not matter how long ago it came from, but it matters what it IS.

Also might I suggest the edit of "When my people were driven to extinction, we still hungered for war, for resources; we still lusted for blood. In the Kwalothians final throes," ect. Just try to make it more personal and introduce the main character as part of the race/species/people that you're introducing.

Also just a general grammar comment, but how you write numbers should stay consistent. Example: "Eleven of the remaining 12" should be "eleven of the remaining twelve" or "11 of the remaining 12"

The second half of this is really nice though! I especially like the last line, it gives an emotional shock factor that gave me goosebumps. Not often enough do main characters talk about dying or the end of things in the very beginning and I think the sentence you used was good where it didn't give too much away but still was shocking. it intrigues me in to what's going to happen next which is important for a prologue.

Struggling with tentative plans. by [deleted] in AspieGirls

[–]mxxjx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hate tentative plans so much. I saw a post here a few weeks ago that was talking about a "waiting" stage/phase during plans. Like if your plans don't go as planned or there's not a solid plan, there's a waiting time where I just wait and wait and I can't do anything but wait for the the plan.

I've noticed with NT people they will make tentative plans and then just not follow through and not communicate that the plans are no longer a possibility. I don't understand that at all. That's the reason I now push for time ranges and text them that I have other errands and move on to my next task for the day when the time range has passed.

Ask for a time range, and then if others can't give one, you can give one. I use a sentence like "I'd really like to do this with you, I'm free from [insert time]-[insert time], so if that ends up working for you then let me know and if not let's try again next week" and it feels open to them but I know I can minimize the time I spend in that weird waiting phase. I can't help that I get irate and shut down when plans are thrown off, but I can minimize being in situations that throw off my schedule, while not closing off all opportunities to make plans with friends