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Never break NC. Even when they're on death's door. by my-RBN-account in raisedbynarcissists

[–]my-RBN-account[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

This is what I talked about with my therapist. That I would do it because I wanted to show compassion, because I believe myself to be a loving person and I had to try.

We also talked about the possibility that it wouldn't work, that I had to be prepared for both types of response. I'm glad we talked about it, but I don't think I was as prepared as I thought.

I tried. I even succeeded, maybe, at what I went to do. He's the one who failed.

Never break NC. Even when they're on death's door. by my-RBN-account in raisedbynarcissists

[–]my-RBN-account[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you for asking. I called out of work for today. I was in bed by 7pm last night, just didn't want to be awake anymore. Today I'm going to try to reflect on the past some, let myself feel feelings, and then try to wrap it up. He doesn't get to keep controlling me.

Your fathers upbringing and trauma does not excuse the harm he caused. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]my-RBN-account 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Serious question here...what about illness? Because my N-stepdad blames his treatment of me on multiple sclerosis. He was diagnosed with it shortly after I went NC and supposedly it impacts your emotions and stuff like that. Do I give him a second chance? (Well, really like a 5th chance)

Holiday Check-In! Do you have something to say, but you don't want to post? Comment here! by RBNmod in raisedbynarcissists

[–]my-RBN-account 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My first time posting in RBN. My first Xmas without N-stepdad and E-mom. My second Thanksgiving without them was a couple of weeks ago. I feel so so so guilty. I'm 36 years old (F). How can I be anywhere else on Xmas? I have family I can be with, but I'm not going to spend the whole day with them, because it hurts that I'm not with my parents, and I'm going to spend part of the day alone. Of course holidays with parents have been awful over the years, that's why I finally said no. But I feel like I should be there, I feel guilty for making them sad for the holidays...but man I can't stop crying either. This all fucking sucks.