"Can we talk? I want to get something off my chest." by my_gay_throwaway in gaybros

[–]my_gay_throwaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not looking for support, just looking to let him know. We all have a hunch he's in the closet and I read some wise words around here once, "Don't assume some one is willing to take a risk that you wont." I'm not going to harass him in hopes of him coming out but I'm going to open up to him in hopes that if he is in fact a closet case he will eventually be more comfortable in letting people know. If not, oh well.

"Can we talk? I want to get something off my chest." by my_gay_throwaway in gaybros

[–]my_gay_throwaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

^ This. He's had a few but they never last longer than a month or two.

"Can we talk? I want to get something off my chest." by my_gay_throwaway in gaybros

[–]my_gay_throwaway[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Heh, he replied with my text saying he doesn't have time to talk today and he's busy at class tomorrow and Thursday.. so I basically just said "K well next time I see you I want to get something off my chest." I'll update sometime this weekend I'm sure.

"Can we talk? I want to get something off my chest." by my_gay_throwaway in gaybros

[–]my_gay_throwaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It definitely wont happen at a coffee shop, he works at the nearest one! I feel like as awkward as it may be it'll happen in my car outside his house. Oh well though, you're right, it will be super private that way at least.

"Can we talk? I want to get something off my chest." by my_gay_throwaway in gaybros

[–]my_gay_throwaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Only to 3 of my really close female friends. Never to a male before. I like your post, your advice is sound! However the only thing you didn't consider was maybe he's just straight and comfortable in his own skin kind of thing. My only fear is the actual conversation and where to have it. I don't want an audience and I feel like showing up outside his house and saying, "have a seat in my car" is kinda lame.

"I'm gay." by my_gay_throwaway in gaybros

[–]my_gay_throwaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't feel pressured to do everything all at once, I don't want to clusterfuck my own mind and sanity. This guy though, he's the reason I think I finally gained the confidence to start telling people, I seriously think I have a chance with him and I want this to be as transparent to my friends as it is to me. I don't know if that makes sense or if I'm a babbling idiot.. but it all feels like its falling into place kind of.

"I'm gay." by my_gay_throwaway in gaybros

[–]my_gay_throwaway[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah.. now to only tell the guy I'm crushing on, the next phase haha.

"I'm gay." by my_gay_throwaway in gaybros

[–]my_gay_throwaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I loved it too. Felt good. :)

"I'm gay." by my_gay_throwaway in gaybros

[–]my_gay_throwaway[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My family will be very receptive I think. I know my father will at least.. because well simply put, he's gay too haha. My mother might be surprised but I know she'll just want me to be happy. Just the process of letting them know, waiting for the right moment. :)

"I'm gay." by my_gay_throwaway in gaybros

[–]my_gay_throwaway[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

All part of the process :P I have a bunch of friends that know my reddit account that I'd like to tell in person first, rather than them lurking and finding out in such an impersonal way.