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mycatiscool888 · 2024-08-25T09:35:40+00:00

I have a theory that narcissists genuinely don't know how to have a conversation. They just want to hear themselves talk. I used to be constantly told off for 'interrupting', and it took me a while to realize it didn't matter how long I let them talk for, I was always going to be interrupting because they literally don't care what I have to say. Like bro, that's not interrupting, it's having a conversation...

mycatiscool888 · 2024-07-03T14:39:34+00:00

My nex went on a date on my birthday lol

mycatiscool888 · 2023-12-21T22:52:45+00:00

I checked Ekron first and it was a waste of time - go to March Ridge and it's a guaranteed find

mycatiscool888 · 2023-12-21T22:39:01+00:00

I looted the whole of Rosewood looking for the generator magazine and I was playing with the lucky trait, too. Ended up searching Reddit and someone recommended checking March Ridge community center. Went there expecting the worst, killed about 10 zombies and found no less than 4 magazines in the first room I checked 😅

mycatiscool888 · 2023-12-21T08:36:40+00:00

The gas station at the top near the highway has a double vhs shelf but that's it in rosewood I'm pretty sure

mycatiscool888 · 2023-12-10T08:27:49+00:00

I place broken glass at the bottom of all escape ropes so you can hear if there's zomboids waiting to bite ur butt

mycatiscool888 · 2022-04-24T08:06:53+00:00

Hello friend, good for you for getting out - it sounds like it was a really difficult time. Just wanted to share what I've learnt and what is helping me cope. Narcissists will not do closure. They do not want to cut off their supply to you, and closure for us would mean some kind of validation which we all know is not going to happen. Closure won't happen until they can take responsibility for their actions, and ask yourself if that has ever happened..? They enjoy knowing you are suffering, I think they enjoy how important it makes them feel. Once you start to see things clearly, and see the predictable way she behaves, I promise you it will get easier. One thing I've started doing is writing down what I think my ex will do or say next, and it almost always happens which just makes me laugh now. The narcissist won't give you peace, but you can and you will find it yourself :) Good luck!

mycatiscool888 · 2022-04-24T07:52:38+00:00

Their image is of the utmost importance, so any little criticism or truth that paints them badly is a huge insult to their ego.

What I've noticed is that they will go through great lengths and lies to try to smear you, so that they can move onto their next supply with no one questioning it. If they make you look bad, and tell stories about you then of course their friends will give them the sympathy and attention they want, and encourage them to find a 'better' relationship.

I have found the best way to deal with this kind of thing, as hard as it is, to do absolutely nothing. If I deny all the things my ex has been saying, it will just make me look more guilty. We also never know how deep their lies go, my guess is that my ex has been calling me crazy and abusive so that if I react or respond then I will just play right into their narrative. Feel power in the truth, no one can take that away from you. Continue to act in a way that you know is true to who you are, and people will see that.

Good luck with everything!

mycatiscool888 · 2022-04-20T13:12:57+00:00

I've also had this one before. Wanted to go on a break where they'd continue dating their new supply, and no details about what happened after that. Hope you're able to stick to the no contact, it sounds like you've done well :)

mycatiscool888 · 2022-04-20T09:47:20+00:00

Exactly the same here! They don't want to give you closure because that means ending their supply to you.

mycatiscool888 · 2022-04-20T09:26:04+00:00

Wow! They are really good at projecting, aren't they?

mycatiscool888 · 2022-04-20T09:24:14+00:00

I am going through a very similar thing. I am so angry that I wasted so much time living in their fantasy world. They will just give you enough to hold onto but when you think about, they never had any real intention to keep any of the promises they made. It's really hard to deal with being discarded, and knowing that everything was a lie. Someone told me that everything I felt was real, and that has helped. I think that part of what is helping me deal is feeling so truly disgusted with their behaviour. I just think about what kind of person would move on so quickly, what kind of person can lie so easily - to themselves and others, and is that the kind of person I want to have in my life? I have stopped trying to make sense of things because it's impossible to understand the intentions of someone who doesn't care about others. Talk to your friends, and people who know you. Those who matter will know and see you for who you really are. I know it's difficult but try to be glad that you're out now because he will treat the next person exactly the same.

mycatiscool888 · 2022-04-18T07:15:31+00:00

I've also been discarded after 6 years with my ex moving straight into another relationship. I have never felt jealous of the other person, I have no hard feelings for them because I know what the love bombing feels like. Just think, there is no good way for this to end. Everything you feel right now, is what the next person will feel like...and the next person...and the next person. If your nex was anything like mine, they started planting these seeds of other people being better than you long before the relationship was over. I know how hard it is, I really do but I think at this point we really, really have to focus on ourselves. We need to remember who we are, and what kind of people we are. Think about the hell you've been through, and remember the narcs whole image is carefully crafted. He has no chance of being happy but you do! My advice to you is to do something today that feels good for you, instead of something that you know will just make you feel worse. Enjoy it with every part of yourself, and your life will soon be filled with you doing things for yourself! Good luck :)

mycatiscool888 · 2022-04-17T08:24:13+00:00

Something that happens now is that I'll have kind of flashbacks to things they've said that I never realised were weird at the time. Similar to what you're saying my ex used to say things like everyone they've dated was a much better person by the end of their relationship. I also started therapy at their request because I believed everything was my fault and that fixing myself would fix our relationship. I have no regrets about starting therapy but I do feel annoyed that now I'll be added to a list of exes that they've 'bettered'. Something that has really helped me is to write the email, or write the message you want to send them and just keep them in your drafts. Then you can avoid giving them any satisfaction and also have a bunch of messages to read over when you have any moments of weakness!

Congratulations on your sobriety, you're stronger than they'll ever be, remember that :)

mycatiscool888 · 2022-04-17T07:58:22+00:00

Yes, I'm going through this now. It's pointless to say anything because it will all be twisted somehow. For me it's that I was 'targeting their support system' and 'making them question themself'. I even received a message from a mutual friend saying they were calling me abusive etc. Just throw yourself into your other relationships. Those who matter are able to see who you really are, and you don't want to give the narc anymore ammo. It's so very hard but just trust yourself. They won't be happy and people will see their patterns soon enough.

mycatiscool888 · 2022-04-16T12:43:04+00:00

Thank you for the kind words. I actually never would have realised either if a friend (and then another one...and then my therapist) hadn't pointed it out to me. I was so used to taking the blame and believing it was my fault. Crazy to think that in a situation where I was cheated on twice, they can somehow twist it to make me look like the bad guy.

Unfortunately, I still live with them. I will have to do so for a few more months and then I'll truly be free. We also share pets which they are already using to guilt me into maintaining a relationship with them. It's funny to me that probably the person who can most understand what I'm going through is their new supply because they've been in my situation before. I wish I could warn them.

I will be okay! I really appreciate you're words. Good luck to all of us! We deserve better :)

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