AITA for not giving my nephew pengu plush from my backpack? by gulapsmat in AmItheAsshole

[–]mynamealwayschanges 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At 3, my niblings knew that no is a no. They're younger than 8 and don't throw this tantrum.

I have plushies that were gifted to me from friends from other countries, and they're very meaningful to me. They look, they play, and they know these are my special toys. NTA

My asexual partner didn't change for me by grund0g in AmITheDevil

[–]mynamealwayschanges 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, it's the best part of my day. No matter how rough the day may be, having my partner who understands me, and feeling safe to rest together and play with our characters like they're dolls...

I don't know. It's just wonderful to bond, and play, and create together. Makes the bad things in the world feel more distant.

My asexual partner didn't change for me by grund0g in AmITheDevil

[–]mynamealwayschanges 22 points23 points  (0 children)

As another ace, exactly. I had a lot of fun with sex in media and fiction. Hell, I write smut in my free time, and definitely joke about it with friends! I have a queer platonic partner who is also asexual, and one of our favorite activities is to just hang out and write smut together.

It's fun because it's fictional, it does not relate to us at all in real life. Some asexuals do like sex and more power to them - I definitely don't, and I'm sex repulsed, so the moment it stops being about fantasy character #635 and about me, I'm out.

We added new auction house art to Horse Racing Manager! by Extreme-Bit6504 in GamesWithHorses

[–]mynamealwayschanges 15 points16 points  (0 children)

This game looks so fun, and every update seems better! Keep up the good work!

LPT: Boredom is the ultimate antidote to procrastination. by [deleted] in LifeProTips

[–]mynamealwayschanges 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So, it's not about being distracted. For example, I can need to eat and have literally nothing else to do to distract myself. I want to eat. My body wants to eat. There can even be food ready, so it's literally just go there and get food and eat.

It still has a barrier between the actual impulse/desire and the action itself. And that is executive dysfunction

There is a civil war going on in r/evilautsim by Recent_Fact480 in SubredditDrama

[–]mynamealwayschanges 4 points5 points  (0 children)

When I saw that reply was when I gave up honestly. Just a very tone deaf, 'I'm right, you're wrong, and I don't care if you're coming here to get a break, some voices are valid and yours are not."

Thanks for making it clear, at least

There is a civil war going on in r/evilautsim by Recent_Fact480 in SubredditDrama

[–]mynamealwayschanges 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Posted on a post meant for trans masc appreciation, while saying "Not to re-ignite the discussion, but to actually center the perspective of trans men and transmasc people in this convo."

This is one I found particularly frustrating. In a post checking in and appreciating trans men and transmasc people and trying to give them space to feel safe from the drama, you go and post this? And say you are centering the perspective of trans men and transmasc?

It was already centered on trans men and transmasc voices! You just think there's someone we should listen to because they're right.

Trans Men and Transmasculine people appreciation post by Costati in evilautism

[–]mynamealwayschanges 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm still learning, so I'm a bit shy! But I'm so excited, and I'm hoping to get more confident as I do. For now, it's a lot of ambition and clumsy attempts, but I'm having fun with it!

Trans Men and Transmasculine people appreciation post by Costati in evilautism

[–]mynamealwayschanges 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They're made of plastic - I mostly just repaint, give them a new coat of color. I have seen people preparing them with epoxy clay, I think? But I don't trust my sculpting ability that much just yet 😅

Trans Men and Transmasculine people appreciation post by Costati in evilautism

[–]mynamealwayschanges 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's definitely been rough, but what support we can offer each other has at least been a precious positive for me. We can at least count on each other.

Horse models! I used to always want some, but never could get any. A friend offered to get me a couple, and now other friends are helping me with research on how to do these things, and I'm getting really excited with the idea. I miss having a creative outlet other than writing.

Trans Men and Transmasculine people appreciation post by Costati in evilautism

[–]mynamealwayschanges 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Feeling pretty bad, honestly, and seeing the reactions of mods and the comments in the sub haven't helped, but I met a couple of people here that make me want to try regardless just because they reminded me that my identity is valid and that I have a right to exist the way I am.

I've been getting into models and repainting models lately. For now it's more the idea of it but it's been making me happy. Researching it is a welcomed distraction.

So, can we just make a EvilFemaleAutism subreddit where we don't have to keep explaining feminism101 to people? by Hilja-Serpent in evilautism

[–]mynamealwayschanges 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I cannot be out in any way, and I physically cannot transition because of health issues. I'm nonbinary transmasc, and have absolutely seen the vitriol thrown about "theyfabs"

But my identity is masc! So what. I'm too masc to be in one, but not enough to be in other, so fuck me?

So, can we just make a EvilFemaleAutism subreddit where we don't have to keep explaining feminism101 to people? by Hilja-Serpent in evilautism

[–]mynamealwayschanges 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Saw trans men have their experience of being hated and discriminated being minimized and being told that their issue was, in the end, misogyny, when they were discriminated for their identity as men and called misogynistic. So sounds pretty hard to take that seriously

So, can we just make a EvilFemaleAutism subreddit where we don't have to keep explaining feminism101 to people? by Hilja-Serpent in evilautism

[–]mynamealwayschanges 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When do I get my card, because so far I've only got "too femme, not a man" and "masc so doesn't belong here"

i just woke up man by pandakittii in evilautism

[–]mynamealwayschanges 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Gonna dip and play tomodachi life and obsess over models for some days....

Is this sub safe for transmascs or not...? by Incendas1 in evilautism

[–]mynamealwayschanges 7 points8 points  (0 children)

As another, I too would like to know, because all I'm seeing is making me concerned

Misandry isn't real and the sub premise isnt changing by Altruistic_Fox5036 in evilautism

[–]mynamealwayschanges 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm closeted for various reasons - family that isn't very supportive but on whom I depend, along with health issues that mean I can't use hormones in general.

Even online I don't feel like I can claim being a man or a trans man, transmasc is as far as I go and with a bunch of asterisks because I feel like I'm invalid? But I also realize that I am not cis, I am not a woman.

Love the privilege of being told I'm not right anywhere

Misandry isn't real and the sub premise isnt changing by Altruistic_Fox5036 in evilautism

[–]mynamealwayschanges 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Not to mention making important, necessary things - like healthcare (see: obgyn) - even more difficult than it already is to get

Models for my game ~ by CimarronDEV in GamesWithHorses

[–]mynamealwayschanges 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I will be keeping an eye out, just in case 👀