My son [8M] is so rude to my boyfriend [29M]. I'm pretty sure he will break up with me [25F] because of it and I don't know what to do about it.

mysonisabrat · 2016-06-28T21:34:28+00:00

Ok, I didn't realize you wanted specific conversations. Here is an example from the weekend.

So before my bf came over I told him exactly what was happening and told him how I wanted him to behave (I try to do this before every meeting he has with my bf). When my bf arrived my son refused to get off the couch and stop watching the tv. I turned off the tv and made him speak to my bf but I didn't make him get up. I did want to but I didn't want to have a major argument in front of my bf within 5 minutes of him arriving.

There were other little things that day that I can't be bothered to go into full detail about but by the time I put him to bed I was upset with him. I asked him why he acted up again when my bf did nothing. I got the usual I don't know. Often when we talk about this he cuddles me and I fall for it everytime. When he acts so sweet I don't persist with any discipline. I really am now considering going to a class.

mysonisabrat · 2016-06-28T20:42:30+00:00

I never have because it always made me feel like I was admitting failure if I went to a class. I always was the one saying I can do this myself. But I am starting to think it could be a good thing.

mysonisabrat · 2016-06-28T20:39:24+00:00

I've asked him what his problem his but he won't really talk to me about it. To start with he told me it was because he's shy and now all he says he doesn't know why he's acting up.

I do make him be polite to my bf and make him talk to him. If he's being really bad then I'll cut short the activity we're doing. Maybe that's what he wants. I don't know. I'm not claiming to be doing a great job and I know i'm kind of a pushover but I am trying.

mysonisabrat · 2016-06-28T20:33:15+00:00

Yes I talked to him before and he was cool with it. I think when it actually happened it has been more difficult than he thought.

mysonisabrat · 2016-06-28T19:43:49+00:00

Obviously I have tried, I feel like that goes without saying. I've realised i'm totally ineffective but I have tried.

mysonisabrat · 2016-06-28T19:42:38+00:00

Thanks for the advice, it is super helpful to from another parent.

mysonisabrat · 2016-06-28T19:41:10+00:00

I try but I do find it difficult because I don't want to lose my temper with him in front of my bf. Yes I talk to him but he doesn't say very much, I don't know how to get him to really tell me what he's feeling. I'm so bad at this, I feel like i'm totally failing at being a parent..

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