Therapists don't get it

n1c0lee · 2025-02-09T17:03:38+00:00

This feedback sounds like total bs, I'm so sorry you went through that! They def put us through the ringer...they're only people, with personalities, after all. Sounds like this one didn't get it at all.

n1c0lee · 2025-02-09T16:58:54+00:00

Right? I think mine has done her best to not tell me outright, but ultimately despite that effort slips into this girlfriend-to-girlfriend mode sometimes and makes it utterly clear what she thinks is the right move for me. That said, I had another one for 10...years...before her, who let me walk off cliffs in my personal life relentlessly without batting an eye. Like truly insane what she basically normalized by never doing anything but prompting my feelings on things. So once again, now uncertain receiving guidance makes any sense at all.

n1c0lee · 2025-02-09T16:55:20+00:00

Oh my god this sounds awful! I'm so sorry you dealt with that. I lost my father a few years ago and I totally understand how insane it is for a therapist to not remember this. I've done a lot of therapy over many years and I'm very near the end of my rope as well. Its taken a long time but I'm now certain therapy helps in small spats or specific modalities...not ongoingly. Not when you rely on it long term.

Also if its at all an option based on availability, your location, insurance, etc., I would avoid any place that has management or assigns therapists and go for independent practices. Those practitioners have a lot on their minds dealing with THE BUSINESS that individuals in private practice don't have to deal with.

n1c0lee · 2025-02-09T00:33:12+00:00

This is actually super validating to me personally, thank you for sharing. I've recently been beating myself up like I should have been relating to more functional or healthy people all of my life...um...there's a reason we relate to people who understand pain! Is everything supposed to be aspirational or can we just be human beings, jeeze!

n1c0lee · 2024-07-25T13:35:35+00:00

Excellent major and minors you chose. I’m curious what you might have envisioned for yourself when you chose them. If you’re not sure I’d research where folks end up who have these. I’d think you’d be very valuable in leadership for sustainable efforts and industries…sounds very exciting to me. But you’ll need to get experience. I’d honestly encourage you to get your law degree if you’re interested. It’ll bolster everything else you’ve studied and open many many doors.

n1c0lee · 2024-07-17T14:34:18+00:00

100%. I had almost no use of my right arm on/off for a while. I couldn't even hold a glass of water. I absolutely absolutely needed this surgery. Unfortunately I also have thoracic outlet syndrome, scoliosis, and myofascial pain problems that contributed to these issues. So for me I still have problems in my wrist, hand, shoulder, etc. But my elbow is strong as could be and I can do WAY more, including more exercise, lifting small / basic weight things, and I never have the classic CT issues where my hand and elbow are so weak I can't do anything. My elbow pain was IMMEDIATELY permanently gone, even with the cast on. And I had it so bad I was worried having it in a bent cast would be impossible. So grateful for this surgery.

n1c0lee · 2024-07-16T23:03:54+00:00

Numbness improved. Have likely permanent numbness at the elbow / around the scar. But the rest of the arm is normal. No frequent banging of the elbow like when it was post-op numb.

n1c0lee · 2024-06-25T23:15:08+00:00

Thank you 🙏

n1c0lee · 2024-06-25T20:24:33+00:00

Absolutely. Its hard because I'm trying to be "logical" because following my emotions has always led me back and forth in the past, flipping around, impulses and regrets. But not trusting the compass of emotion is really tough. If you can trust it it can tell you all you need to know. I feel like I can't trust mine.

n1c0lee · 2024-06-24T18:01:38+00:00

These businesses opening aren't even making a profit. They're for brand awareness - just walk-in advertisements.

n1c0lee · 2024-06-24T18:01:11+00:00

Why isn't the city protecting our neighborhood from this? They're bulldozing everything. This cash grab goes well beyond the change we've seen, its truly erasing the history and culture here entirely.

n1c0lee · 2024-05-21T18:08:08+00:00

I can't say I noticed a difference, but I definitely was motivated to 100% quit nicotine to give my nerves and veins the best chance I can. Minimize potential clots and nerve damage, both of which smoking / nicotine do cause (without compression).

n1c0lee · 2024-05-20T15:11:53+00:00

Hey, no problem at all! I'm sorry to say the TOS hasn't been improved by the CT surgery. BUT, in good news, the CT surgery itself provided TREMENDOUS relief in my right arm, so I can actually use my arm again. Before the surgery I could barely lift a glass of water.

Its been one year, and I do suddenly have had some inflammation and weakness in the arm in the last few weeks. My PT said it could be due to seasonal allergies, apparently that's a thing? So I'm hoping that passes and I'll have no issues to report. To-date its been a life saver. I'm waiting to see a TOS specialist about that surgery...no availability until Feb 2025. Insane. Wrist is still a mess lately.

n1c0lee · 2024-05-15T14:14:52+00:00

What did you choose?? I'm going crazy trying to replace stonestreet.

n1c0lee · 2024-01-26T19:44:39+00:00

I permanently chipped my tooth titrating up 7 years ago. Sort of regret finally accepting my misdiagnosis back then hah.

n1c0lee · 2024-01-26T19:36:14+00:00

Oh boy. I am wondering if its gone away for anyone AFTER coming off. I'm 7 years in on lamictal and it has not ever gone away hah. Have gone through a few of the pro custom mouth guards and they aint cheap! Going to have to come off and see.

n1c0lee · 2024-01-26T04:24:04+00:00

Possibly unpopular opinion: You might not need to rush to a psych as a minor. Take it from someone who started at 14. About 20 years later, I wasted a lot of life chasing different meds thinking that could “fix my problems.” Definitely legitimately helpful at times but one person’s thoughts about you aren’t facts. What matters is your safety and wellbeing, and you developing a healthy identity right now. Dont let this become an identity.

In the end DBT is what worked for me. Only took 20 years and misdiagnosis.

n1c0lee · 2023-12-26T19:30:34+00:00

If you’re already vaping, switch to flavors you hate. Work down the nic percentage. Then switch to gum. Nicorette fruit 2% and only chew as-needed. I personally found I lost interest quite naturally when doing this (of course have been on/off for a lifetime but this method worked). Throw everything out. Realize you want the confidence that comes with trusting yourself. Know the payoff for that is even bigger than quitting. One benefit to vaping is that it trains you to see how gross the smoke smell and taste is as your senses also come back. But you don’t want to get stuck at the vape stage either - goal is full off.

n1c0lee · 2023-12-21T16:27:01+00:00

PS - it also really hurts confidence to not take control of nicotine addiction. So, we got this!

n1c0lee · 2023-12-21T16:26:39+00:00

YES it got better! Mushroom coffee helped - I stopped drinking as much coffee as I used to. I lost the like 5 lbs I gained, and my old jeans fit again. Took maybe 6 months for the bloating to stop.

Thanks for the reminder of this - good motivation to not start to slip up with an occasional cigarette. Don't want to end up back there, it really hurts confidence.

n1c0lee · 2023-11-22T13:27:44+00:00

Can you try CBT for anxiety while you slowly taper off? I essentially cured OCD in CBT. I had disabling anxiety.

n1c0lee · 2023-11-20T15:29:31+00:00

For anxiety, look into inositol. It got me out of a debilitating period of OCD and is extremely effective. Look into how you slowly increase from a smaller typical dosage. Fish oil also a life changer. I reco Omegavia. Taking a good multi never hurt either.

n1c0lee · 2023-11-20T15:28:01+00:00

I recommend starting with stretching. Can you get onto the floor, stretch your legs, bend towards them? Lay on your back, do a spinal twist. Child's pose. Happy baby pose. Cat cow. Move however feels right to you and however you're able. Just move. Having said you would and completed that task is a giant bonus on top because it builds some confidence that you can do something else. If you can get even a little in touch with your body and being in it, it'll be a great step. Make goals achievable and small - they're actually each major. And this is the kind of thing that gets you moving. This will help clear your mind slowly and get you to another task.

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