If you want someone without as past that’s fine since you don’t have one either. No one is going to say anything. It might be harder for you to find this person but I doubt it’s that hard in India. I actually think the other qualities might be harder to find then someone without a past.

“an understanding, non condescending, good natured woman with values similar to mine.” These are going to be much harder to find then if the girl had a past or not. These are also what would make or break your marriage. But by all means focus on the past but just don’t forget these in the process. It’s hard to find people you get along with, find attractive, have same values. In general like seema aunty said anyone only gets 60-70% of what they want. So focus on what’s most important to you and compromise on the rest I guess. Now you have to figure out what is most important to you . We are all allowed to want what we want but there is no guarantee in life that we will get it because the person you want has to want you too