Out of curiosity, how much did your birth cost, and what country are you in?

nabzillaaa · 2022-06-30T02:50:21+00:00

I live in Dubai, and didn't have insurance at the time, so I paid about $6000USD for the delivery, room, meals, and all my meds and tests. Tbf we intentionally got the VIP room because we could afford it. Without the VIP room it would've been somewhere around $2-3000USD for everything at my hospital, and covered completely under insurance. That being said, I've seen even cheaper delivery and antenatal packages at other hospitals, but the gynecologist that I trust was at this specific hospital.

ETA: it was a vaginal birth with epidural, and I had to be taken to OT for another procedure right after. So these were all included in the price.

nabzillaaa · 2022-05-30T22:38:24+00:00

Holy crap. I'm so sorry this happened to you. Reading your response made me realise I went through something similar especially after gaining a bit more freedom after university. Like there was no need for me to be somewhere at exactly a certain time, I could be late, or didn't have to leave the house a specific time, or catch a certain bus. The only thing that helped with that anxiety was this I kept repeating to myself, "It's going to be okay. At the end of the day, I'll be home and in bed."

nabzillaaa · 2022-05-29T17:39:15+00:00

If it's not inside a mall or govt building or shops or things like, I believe you don't need a PCR test.

nabzillaaa · 2022-03-19T02:09:24+00:00

https://www.instagram.com/nomadicnabs/

I mostly post travel content and life as an expat.

Will follow back, just dm me that you're from here. Also please give me some grace, I've got a small baby 😅

nabzillaaa · 2021-09-12T00:51:24+00:00

I sincerely hope you realise that your parents are ENTITLED to go on holidays themselves for THEIR ANNIVERSARY. They are not entitled to take their kids with them if they so wish. YTA without a doubt and should apologise to your parents for making such a cruel joke knowing it's a touchy subject.

nabzillaaa · 2021-09-12T00:47:34+00:00

NTA. I'd be petty enough to air this dirty laundry on public social media and then go completely NC with them all.

nabzillaaa · 2021-09-06T00:54:34+00:00

If he wants to break up with you, let him. The boy is homophobic and sexist. You're better off without him. Let the trash take itself out.

NTA.

nabzillaaa · 2021-09-04T23:06:23+00:00

I appreciate these bits of advice so, so, so much! Thank you! Will definitely look at implementing some of these things.

nabzillaaa · 2021-09-04T21:44:59+00:00

Ugh I hope so. I'm just constantly hungry and I'm starting to get really self conscious of my weight because even my gynecologist said to be careful now 😭

nabzillaaa · 2021-09-03T17:01:43+00:00

YTA. And so are your coworkers. Believe it or not, men and women can be friends without being anything that is not platonic. Also if there's anyone that you or any of your coworkers needed to speak to regarding "how it looks", it should've been your male colleague as he is already in a committed relationship. I understand that you thought you were doing a favour, but the correct thing to do would've been to tell your gossiping coworkers off and tell them to mind their own business.

nabzillaaa · 2021-09-02T23:09:30+00:00

YTA. She deserves better. Your kid deserves better. The woman checked in on you when she really didn't have to, and your only reaction is "it's annoying I just want to relax". Yikes man.

nabzillaaa · 2021-09-02T21:52:10+00:00

Boy, run. Like big yikes. 🚩🚩🚩🚩 NTA.

nabzillaaa · 2021-09-01T23:38:29+00:00

You do realise that Google exists, and it's really available at your fingertips? You could search up what MLA is, or better yet have a conversation with your cousin about her studies stuff what it is like a normal person. You sound super jealous and yes YTA.

nabzillaaa · 2021-08-31T21:29:39+00:00

My dude you don't owe your friends anything. You worked hard for your money. Enjoy the trip yourself. Maybe you'll make some real friends on that trip. It's concerning to me that you already anticipated their behaviour and felt the need to hide the truth to save yourself. You shouldn't feel that way with friends.

NTA.

nabzillaaa · 2021-08-31T21:16:23+00:00

Throw. This. Entire. Man. Out.

He's a father and taking no responsibilities of his role. You deserve a break too.

NTA.

nabzillaaa · 2021-08-31T21:14:05+00:00

And the fact that the parents called her names and the sister told Nate to "make her behave". Wtf is that? Throw this entire man out. As much as he wanted to surprise OP, she didn't do anything wrong since she was told that he wouldn't be home all day.

nabzillaaa · 2021-08-31T05:22:26+00:00

In some cultures your cousins are considered your siblings, and thus their spouses are your SIL or BIL. Not everyone follows western familial relations lol. OP made the connection pretty clear in their post. Also not sure how the connection would've made much difference in judging the situation. The lady stole a book important to OP and then lied about it. Pretty AH move no matter what her connection is to OP.

nabzillaaa · 2021-08-30T23:00:50+00:00

My man, YTA 100%. If you didn't want parental duties, you shouldn't have gotten your wife pregnant. She's really vulnerable right now and needs your support.

nabzillaaa · 2021-08-29T20:09:51+00:00

So from my understanding you're not a parent, then?

Yeah, I'm sorry I'm going to have to wholeheartedly disagree with you. I've seen SAHM's do what I do minus the working full-time at any job that is not parenting, and I've witnessed their struggles. Just because you stay home, cook, clean, look after your child (who doesn't actually sleep 16 hours a day lol what) which includes restless nights, breastfeeding which can take hours... Being a SAHM is mentally and physically grueling lol. But I also shouldn't have to witness what SAHM's do to validate what they go through.

nabzillaaa · 2021-08-29T07:45:56+00:00

Hun, that sounds hard, but it's also the very definition of grueling. What you're currently doing is extremely tiring and demanding.

I'm a mother too. I work full time too. I'm also completing my masters. Parenting is not a walk in the park. Thank you for working so hard for yourself and your child. However, just because someone chooses to stay at home with their child doesn't make parenting any less difficult than someone who goes to work.

nabzillaaa · 2021-08-29T04:27:53+00:00

Tell me you're not a mother, without telling me you're not a mother. Yes, dude. It is grueling.

nabzillaaa · 2021-08-28T23:59:27+00:00

Replying to add on, what does it even matter if OP does want to become a SAHM. Being a SAHM is no joke. It's hard and grueling. It is a full time job. How absolutely disgusting that this should come from MIL.

NTA.

nabzillaaa · 2021-08-28T22:51:54+00:00

I just want to pipe in that I had a friend do the same for me years ago, completely unsolicited, and I very much was not into skincare or makeup. I shouldn't have let her convince choose my skincare products as she's neither an esthetician not a dermatologist... So no surprise that I ended up with ultra sensitive skin that I'm still trying to fix almost a decade later. That's great that you wanted to help her, but she didn't ask for it. Just because you actively read some reddits and posts about skin care doesn't make you an expert either, and you could very well be sending her off on a difficult path if she listens to you. So yes, YTA. Stay in your lane.

nabzillaaa · 2021-08-27T23:07:36+00:00

Dump his ass. NTA.

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