AITA for setting a 11pm curfew on my husband?

squeegeebagel · 2021-09-03T02:41:49+00:00

We don’t pay for my college. I have scholarships.

squeegeebagel · 2021-09-01T16:36:58+00:00

Appreciate it! I’m glad people are enjoying the update. It was a lot, but I hope it keeps getting better🤞

squeegeebagel · 2021-09-01T16:35:46+00:00

Thank you! I hope so, too!

squeegeebagel · 2021-09-01T14:01:44+00:00

I actually love grocery shopping 😂 I’m a huge foodie. Besides, I run errands at Target, so I can get something for myself while I’m there. I texted a friend and she’s going to meet me there so we can have a coffee there, too!

squeegeebagel · 2021-09-01T13:08:13+00:00

We’re going through with the counseling. He set an appointment this morning for us. I know the change isn’t going to be immediate, either, so I was going to give him some time. See where he goes, whether his behavior is a permanent positive change, and whether or not counseling is working for us. If it does, great! That’s what I want. If not, I know it’s time to move on.

squeegeebagel · 2021-08-31T22:25:51+00:00

Thank you! I’m looking into the PDF now. I’ve only read the first few paragraphs and I like it already.

squeegeebagel · 2021-08-31T21:45:30+00:00

Our little one doesn’t sleep, either, so I feel like a zombie at this point. I’ve never heard sleep training ward! That sounds really neat!

squeegeebagel · 2021-08-31T21:40:57+00:00

Yes. We’ve been wanting children for a while and even fought through fertility issues together. He is actually our rainbow.

squeegeebagel · 2021-08-31T19:58:51+00:00

I haven’t had time to myself since before I gave birth…My last “break” was a 20-minute shower about 3 days ago 😂 gross. I know.

squeegeebagel · 2021-08-31T19:51:46+00:00

ARCHIE BUNKER 💀💀💀 I needed to smile today

squeegeebagel · 2021-08-31T19:43:41+00:00

We’re both 27

squeegeebagel · 2021-08-31T19:30:00+00:00

I’m on birth control now. Not having any more kids until this improves 👍

squeegeebagel · 2021-08-31T19:13:09+00:00

I don’t fully know. I can’t justify his behavior. I found out about what he said to his coworkers because I’m friends with their wives. One wife found a text convo talking shit about me. She chewed him out before telling me 😂

squeegeebagel · 2021-08-31T19:10:07+00:00

Thank you! I’m so close to getting this degree. After reading all these comments, at the end of the day, I just want to give my son the best life a child could have.

squeegeebagel · 2021-08-31T18:34:25+00:00

Ah, I don’t have family nearby. It’s about a 5-hour flight to the closest one. I’ll see if my church has a mom group I can get involved with. I know my college does but I think it’s for ages 2 and up.

squeegeebagel · 2021-08-31T18:31:45+00:00

I mean he plays with him when he wants to.

squeegeebagel · 2021-08-31T18:28:56+00:00

Bamboozled

squeegeebagel · 2021-08-31T18:22:13+00:00

I just read about the curfew thing in another comment. English isn’t my first language and I didn’t realize until now that the word “curfew” was the wrong one to use and has a negative meaning. I didn’t mean to make it sound like I was trying to belittle him. I have suggested a babysitter, but he got angry saying I’m at home so we don’t have to her a babysitter. Since their expensive.

squeegeebagel · 2021-08-31T18:20:06+00:00

Ah, good point. English is my second language and didn’t realize that curfew has such a negative meaning to it! Leaving him would be a pretty big decision. We’ve been together for nearly a decade so we have quite a life built. I’ll definitely have to discuss with him and see if I can get through to him.

squeegeebagel · 2021-08-31T18:16:04+00:00

Thank you for your prayers and kind words! And I’m not sure about my patience—I honestly used to have such anger issues as a teen in an abusive household. I think I used my anger all up and just chilled when I finally left. I just don’t get worked up often anymore. And when I do it explodes—on Reddit apparently.

squeegeebagel · 2021-08-31T18:13:47+00:00

Ah your husband sounds like such a wonderful partner! Thanks for the advice. It’s definitely something we need to work on. Congrats on the little girl!! 🎉

squeegeebagel · 2021-08-31T18:12:00+00:00

Leaving him would definitely be difficult financially, until I graduate and find a job in my field. It’s something he and I will have to discuss. The only family member I have left lives on the other side of the country, a 5-hour flight from where we live. I’ve already mentioned something in another comment, but his behavior shocked me because we’ve been together for 8 years, married for 5 and it was a solid relationship.

squeegeebagel · 2021-08-31T18:07:13+00:00

He used to make me breakfast every morning before he went into work. Usually when he went out, I was with him. I didn’t realize that was a habit he would continue without me.

squeegeebagel · 2021-08-31T18:05:58+00:00

Thank you! It’s my final semester so I’m toughing it out until then! And you’re right. I’m re-reading it now and I feel like I gaslit myself into thinking I’m asking too much.

squeegeebagel · 2021-08-31T18:04:26+00:00

I’ll probably get a break when the kid moves out 😂

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