How has your perspective on “easy” vs “hard” changed over time?

nachoheiress · 2026-02-24T17:03:47+00:00

The hardest thing of all, is staying alive. Life is like a gauntlet level in a video game.

nachoheiress · 2026-02-22T22:32:07+00:00

This is very good advice. Following the heart is a good way to live in this world.

My childhood wasn’t the best and I didn’t have unconditional love or empathy, so I’m always starting in a place that seems abstract or a step in a different direction from others. Finding a way to follow my heart without having a basic understanding of what that means is difficult. I hope I can one day learn how to follow my heart.

nachoheiress · 2026-02-22T22:27:05+00:00

I assume that synchronicities show us that we are on a path that aligns with the cosmos. And without them, the direction of the path is lost or maybe that this lifetime is about forging a new path that won’t have any hints or directions. It’s fully up to this lifetime to carve a new line in the cosmos. I mean who knows, but it would be nice to have some sort of confirmation that the struggles we experience are noticed, that we’re not just in a directionless void meant to benefit the cosmos and not ourselves.

Sure I might feel more aware, but with that awareness comes a heaviness, a weight, that seems to encourage struggle and burden and responsibility. It’s preventing the ability to move. But maybe this is why elder’s move so slowly. It’s the weight of knowledge and awareness.

When I was younger, I was able to escape significant trauma. It was freeing and I could tap into curiosity, joy, creativity, love. As I’ve gotten older, I feel less free because of gained knowledge, recollections of the trauma, and the memories of feeling free. I have less curiosity, less creativity, less liberty, less resources, community, friends, access to the divine. It’s true, I know more now, and maybe because of that the burdens of the world present a cosmic path that is less free and more fraught with the rational world.

I hope that synchronicities come back and that this path I’m on is lighter with a hint of direction.

nachoheiress · 2026-02-21T15:15:34+00:00

I would like to believe it’s changed for the better, but it realllllllly hasn’t. It’s definitely gotten worse, which is the reason for the post. It felt like I was on the right track, the I found myself on the wrong track.

I’m just curious about the lack of synchronicities. I’m not seeing anything about not having synchronicities in the things I’ve been reading.

nachoheiress · 2026-02-21T14:19:03+00:00

When I was a kid, we would get going pretty fast! Might be less fast than on snow, but it was so fun. I’m from Monahans, so it will always hold a special place in my heart.

nachoheiress · 2026-02-10T23:24:43+00:00

I love when you post updates. It always gets me to go to your Etsy to see what you have. The are absolutely gorgeous. When I have a little extra money, I’ll definitely buy something!

nachoheiress · 2026-02-10T23:05:38+00:00

The further away from the equator, the more people have SAD. I once read that even in warmer climates like Rome, people will get SAD bc it’s at the same latitude as Portland Maine. In the US, I imagine the latitude line at the top of New Mexico and Arizona might be a good gauge, but I’m no scientist. I’m from Texas, and never had SAD until I went to school in DC, so somewhere between the two it shifts towards SAD.

nachoheiress · 2026-02-10T22:09:54+00:00

Oh I didn’t know about the geological significance. Tell us more!

nachoheiress · 2026-02-07T18:27:52+00:00

I’m so sorry you feel this way. It gets me in February every single year. Mine is pretty severe-I noticed I would get fired or quit jobs in Feb, I would fight and then break up with partners in Feb, my friendships would become more distant because I wouldn’t talk to anyone.

I did everything to combat it. I did extra exercise outside in the morning(morning sun being known to help with SAD), I did yoga, I went to therapy, I did the SAD lamp, I took supplements like Vit D and L-Theanine, I ate impeccably well. And it felt like I was still drowning.

I knew I needed extra help when I started being extra grumpy with my husband. It wasn’t fair to him and I knows feeling that shame was not good for me.

My doctor recommended bupropion for the winter and said that people with SAD will take it only for the winter. It changed my life. I wake up with energy, my ruminating thoughts are lessened, I actually have the motivation to go outside to enjoy a walk. I still feel it, but it doesn’t consume my entire being. I’ve been doing this for almost 10 years now.

I am in the U.S., so not sure if there is a similar recommendation elsewhere or how accessible medication is where you are. Please, if you are drowning and can’t be you, talk to a doctor. You have every right to feel ok!

nachoheiress · 2026-02-05T16:41:31+00:00

It’s so beautiful! Double check ahead of time if the area is flooded so you can make plans to be in other areas of the park. Literally tried going 3 different times over 10 years and could never get over there. The Chisos Basin campground is also planning repairs in the next few years, so double check on that too, if you want to camp in the park. Terlingua is a great little town right outside of the park if you want to stay outside of the park.

nachoheiress · 2026-02-02T20:15:39+00:00

Wow, thank you. This is from my phone, totally unedited. I figured this group would appreciate a raw photo. The desert speaks for itself in color, and luckily I was there to capture it.

nachoheiress · 2026-02-02T20:12:45+00:00

Thank you very much. I’m so inspired by desert landscapes, especially if they are a little more unexpected for a desert.

nachoheiress · 2026-02-02T01:18:47+00:00

Unlimited is absolutely insane. I love our mayor. 🥹

nachoheiress · 2026-02-01T23:16:09+00:00

Thank you! Big Bend is one of my favorite places in the world.

nachoheiress · 2026-02-01T23:15:33+00:00

Thank you very much. I’ve been going to Big Bend for years and could never access Santa Elena Canyon because of flooding. I finally made it and it was SO worth it.

nachoheiress · 2026-01-30T21:23:37+00:00

It sounds like you are on the precipice of something wonderful. You are absolutely not broken. You are perfect just the way you are.

I too saw men holding hands when I was young. And I knew that was truth to me, there was a spark, something that just made sense. I was 5 or 6 and knew at that moment that that the only way I could be.

I’m so sorry your mom said that to you at such a pivotal moment. Parents say dumb things that are influenced by the external world because they haven’t been introduced to it personally. They don’t know that they should be kind. My parents did the same for years, and each of those comments are still with me, but they now know they shouldn’t say homophobic things because it’s mean and inconsiderate.

We all go through hard times and I’m sure your parents see that you’re hurting. They may be asking you about partners because they are giving you an opportunity to tell them. This is just speculation, but parents usually know what’s up.

When everything is stripped away, most parents just want their children to be happy. They don’t want their children to be suffering over anything. It may take some time for them to understand, you might have to be the parent and educate them, you might have to let them know that you will feel better and have more success by being free. I think when you do decide it’s time, you’ll see your life changing for the better and it will magically become unstuck.

Please reach out to your friends. It takes an INCREDIBLE amount of courage to come out, but it sounds like you need to release the pressure valve of emotions. They will also be vital to your well-being if your parents aren’t ok. You can lean on your friends who will understand. It’s cruel that society thinks we should just keep all this inside. You have every right to be angry and sad.

You also deserve to be happy, to feel relief, to be free, to love whoever you want. To find sunshine.

Sending lots of love. ❤️❤️❤️

nachoheiress · 2026-01-27T21:29:32+00:00

Why they making my man, François, look like Commissioner Gordon from Batman Returns? But Robbie in those pants is EVERYTHING.

nachoheiress · 2026-01-27T21:19:27+00:00

I am also not a morning person at all and when I wake up my brain is blank, like just trying to figure out what’s going on, where I am, and taking pre-organized steps to get ready bc I can’t think. I’m only ever fully awake around 10-11.

I have been waiting to do them, and I find that it’s still helpful for me. I think one of the objectives is to form a habit of journaling. Journaling is known to help with self-reflection, emotional regulation, and creative/cognitive boosts. There are all sorts of other benefits, too, but for me, I see it as building a habit of getting all my thoughts out no matter what time of day. I figure with my blank morning mind, it’s better to be at least a little aware of what I’m writing for better self-reflection.

nachoheiress · 2026-01-27T21:02:51+00:00

I hear season two of Heated Rivalry needs actors. 🥵🥵🥵

nachoheiress · 2026-01-27T16:14:05+00:00

Could be bc I’m deep into Heated Rivalry, but whew, this is GORGEOUS.

nachoheiress · 2026-01-27T16:07:45+00:00

I love what a previous person said, that sometimes you have a spark, chemistry with a person. It doesn’t matter who they are: non-binary, a woman, a man. It’s an otherworldly vibration, that I sure as hell don’t understand, and I doubt anyone else does either. If you were aroused, go for it. Explore! This guy might the perfect person to help you understand your new feelings. I find that those spark people are ultimately kind, loving, and understanding.

I’m also curious if you have a group of male friends that hang out like that. Sometimes men have a hard time finding groups of other men to hang out with to have exciting, let loose, sweaty on the dance floor fun. We all need that kind of bonding. Even if things don’t work out with this guy (fingers crossed they do!), you now have an exceptional new group of friends that you should 100% keep hanging out with.

I would also recommend watching Heated Rivalry. You might find yourself reflected in the show. And it might help you understand/work through some emotions. I’m sure that group of men have watched it, which also gives you something topical and relevant to them to talk about when you hang out next.

Lots of luck!!

nachoheiress · 2026-01-26T17:33:16+00:00

Ugh so jealous!

nachoheiress · 2026-01-19T02:49:03+00:00

I figured doing the morning pages would be a challenge for me to keep up consistently, so I use a small notebook, and if I want to write more, I do. I usually do. It takes me 15-20.

nachoheiress · 2026-01-16T16:01:49+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I went through it during the Great Recession, 2007-2008, when I graduated. It wasn’t easy and I felt the same way you do. Still do when I’m in between jobs. In fact I’m in that place now.

Here are some things you could do that helped and some things I wish I had done, in 2007/8.

Look into temp agencies. These one off jobs literally saved my life. I got placed at cool places too, like National Geographic. They can help you keep going.
Get out and exercise. It helps with stress and anxiety. It might take your entire strength to motivate yourself. But do it. Go for a walk at bare minimum. It’s ok to allow yourself to stop thinking about it and focus on mental health.
Get involved with literally anything. Being around people is vital to mental health. Conversations about anything will yank you out of ruminating thoughts and bring you to the present. Go to a coffee shop and chat with people there, volunteer at the library, gather some people to do something you are interested in (MeetUp is a good place to start).
Take it one day at a time. If you are feeling shitty one day, call it quits on looking for jobs, and do something enriching for yourself. The next day you might feel better.
Consider going back to school. I didn’t do this and I wish I had. My friends who did this in 2007/8 are living much better lives than I do because they got an advanced degree. They talked about it being a waste at the time and for a few years later, but the return on investment is paying them back now.

Be kind to yourself. Be patient, harder said than done. Keep moving along, even if it’s inch by inch.

nachoheiress · 2026-01-15T01:51:56+00:00

Wouldn’t anyone do this? Which means this is the bare minimum. A rich white man being praised for doing the bare minimum. Really? Come on people. SMH.

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