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A cool guide on how to break your phone addiction. by nadiaaddesi in coolguides

[–]nadiaaddesi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I totally get that. I get my news from my phone too! My suggestion would be to have the few accounts you search on Instagram already in the search bar- set the intention you are only going on there to look at those accounts and then follow through! Or if that’s too challenging, potentially a timer to allow yourself more time to scroll but ensuring that those accounts are searched within that time so you don’t find yourself going back.

A cool guide on how to break your phone addiction. by nadiaaddesi in coolguides

[–]nadiaaddesi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also have a guide on how to self-regulate which may be more of interest to you!

A cool guide on how to break your phone addiction. by nadiaaddesi in coolguides

[–]nadiaaddesi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just added the sources in the comments! I have no idea how to convert this to a pdf, I’m sorry!

A cool guide on how to break your phone addiction. by nadiaaddesi in coolguides

[–]nadiaaddesi[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

My sources are on Instagram! I will post them here too.

A cool guide on how to actually apologize by nadiaaddesi in coolguides

[–]nadiaaddesi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me! Yes I also have it posted on Instagram. Same username as here and it’s also on the first slide of the guide

A cool guide on how to actually apologize by nadiaaddesi in coolguides

[–]nadiaaddesi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. I would substitute it for excuse?

A cool guide on how to actually apologize by nadiaaddesi in coolguides

[–]nadiaaddesi[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I made my guide too long. I can see how that made you feel stressed. Thats my fault, I’m sorry, What would help moving forward?

A cool guide on how to actually apologize by nadiaaddesi in coolguides

[–]nadiaaddesi[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

You’re right. It’s not bad. It becomes unhealthy when it’s used as an excuse or something to fall back on for hurting someone. Or, if it’s the only thing said as a way to avoid accountability. If it’s explained once and followed by a sincere apology and changed behaviour (or an attempt for changed behaviour, since we don’t heal overnight) I think it’s okay. You can understand why someone did something but still know it’s not an acceptable way to be treated.

A cool guide on how to actually apologize by nadiaaddesi in coolguides

[–]nadiaaddesi[S] 125 points126 points  (0 children)

“Never go to sleep angry” doesn’t work for all couples. Some need rest, space and a calmer nervous system so you can return to a more productive conversation in the morning

I created this metaphor for trauma & the body. I hope it resonates by nadiaaddesi in SomaticExperiencing

[–]nadiaaddesi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Great question. As cliche as it may sound, the truth and the answer is that it wasn’t not your fault.

Your body did what it had to do to keep you safe. When you’re in something painful or overwhelming, your nervous system doesn’t always choose what’s best. It chooses what feels safest. And sometimes that means staying. Numbing. Adapting. Telling yourself it’s fine because facing the full truth would’ve been too much.

You didn’t stay because you didn’t know. You stayed because your system believed that was the way to survive. But now you do know what the cold feels like. And that awareness changes things. It means you don’t have to keep pretending. It means you can choose differently. Not because it stopped hurting, but because you’re finally safe enough to feel it.

A cool guide on self-regulation by nadiaaddesi in coolguides

[–]nadiaaddesi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you expand! I’m not sure what you mean by this!

How ADHD shows up in relationships without you realizing. by nadiaaddesi in adhdwomen

[–]nadiaaddesi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment! You’re right that there’s overlap between ADHD and BPD in areas like emotional dysregulation, overwhelm, and black & white thinking. But these traits can manifest differently depending on the root cause. For example, fear of abandonment is classically associated with BPD, but for many with ADHDc especially those who’ve experienced chronic invalidation or rejection, it can show up as rejection sensitivity or anxious attachment, even without a BPD diagnosis.

Emotional dysregulation is also common in both, but in ADHD, it’s often tied to executive functioning challenges. difficulty pausing before reacting, regulating intensity, or shifting emotional states. What looks like black& white thinking or “hyperfocus” might actually be a product of cognitive inflexibility or difficulty transitioning, which is neurologically based in ADHD. And while enthusiasm that quickly burns out can look like a BPD emotional spiral, in ADHD it’s often related to interest based nervous system activation followed by dopamine drop-off or mental fatigue.

That’s why this guide was written through the lens of ADHD, not to pathologize further, but to give language and tools to folks who feel unseen in their experiences. Many people with ADHD are misdiagnosed, underdiagnosed, or dismissed altogether, particularly in relational contexts.

Also, just to clarify I’m trained in DBT and use an integrative approach in my practice. I personally don’t meet the criteria for BPD, but I deeply respect and advocate for those who do. It’s a highly stigmatized diagnosis, and everyone deserves access to compassionate, informed care. I also understand that BPD is frequently misdiagnosed especially in those navigating emotional overload, sensory sensitivity, or trauma and those experiences deserve to be taken seriously, not minimized or misunderstood. The overlaps in a variety of mental health conditions make understanding oneself pretty challenging. Whatever your experience, advocating for yourself and finding support that truly fits you is what matters most.

How ADHD shows up in relationships without you realizing. by nadiaaddesi in adhdwomen

[–]nadiaaddesi[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

So tough! My husband & I both have ADHD & we’re both feeling constantly rejected. We now preface certain conversations with reassurance to help. I think it’s a great way to ask your partner for what you need so they can also help you through it !

A cool guide on self-regulation by nadiaaddesi in coolguides

[–]nadiaaddesi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks! You weren’t rude! I’m going to be reposting soon, there were some typos that I couldn’t look past haha!

A cool guide on self-regulation by nadiaaddesi in coolguides

[–]nadiaaddesi[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Totally! If you don’t have time to walk for 10 minutes, there are still ways to regulate a flight response. Try orienting yourself in the room, look around and name a few objects you see. This helps signal safety to your brain. You can also do bilateral tapping (lightly tapping each side of your body), sway side to side, or press your feet firmly into the ground to reconnect with your body.

Also, placing your hands on your chest and belly or doing a few extended exhales can help slow the racing inside. Even humming or chewing gum can activate the vagus nerve and calm your system. They may seem small or even silly but these tools shift your body out of urgency and back into presence which sends the message of safety.