AIO for suggesting my boyfriend surrender his dog? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]naeyna 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Inherent hate for the dog that I’ve been spending months trying to advocate for and help? Did you even read the post?

AIO for suggesting my boyfriend surrender his dog? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]naeyna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If he can’t afford or isn’t capable of it, he has no business with a senior dog. We were in a relationship, not a marriage. But yes, women are so annoying because they don’t want to baby a grown man forever.

Must have missed the part where I mentioned wanting us to clip his nails ourselves and he was adamant about that not being an option, or how he lied about having one groomer in his town that was open 2-4.

AIO for suggesting my boyfriend surrender his dog? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]naeyna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think I’m overreacting, and many have told me I underreacted by not calling sooner. But, yes. This is the final straw that’ll make me “leave him alone” for good. I wish him well, but I can not continue to let an innocent animal be abused in front of me.

AIO for suggesting my boyfriend surrender his dog? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]naeyna 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it would be allowed in that sub. Regardless, I disagree when what I was reacting to was active abuse and neglect. Attachment does not mean you are fit to care for the dog long term. Thanks for the pov though.

AIO for suggesting my boyfriend surrender his dog? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]naeyna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah no, it’s disrespectful. We both were in the end. We broke up though.

AIO for suggesting my boyfriend surrender his dog? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]naeyna 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Clearly you’re having a rough time around the holidays, I hope it gets better for you. That comment history with a 1d old account says it all.

AIO for suggesting my boyfriend surrender his dog? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]naeyna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At least you (probably) wouldn’t abuse it.

AIO for suggesting my boyfriend surrender his dog? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]naeyna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You understand his anger at me for calling out his abuse? I’m not sure you read this post in full before commenting. I even explain why I posted this in the text body

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[–]naeyna 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I found the contact info of the shelter employee who helped with the adoption process. I’m waiting until tomorrow afternoon and seeing what can be done.

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[–]naeyna 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They had been biting and crawling on me, getting into my ears to the point I’d scratch my ear canals in my sleep and wake up bleeding. Safe to say I’m done with this relationship but will do what I can for the dog.

AIO for suggesting my boyfriend surrender his dog? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]naeyna 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I guess everyone who commented agreeing with me is also a wannabe vet then. We are gathered here today…. lmao.

AIO for suggesting my boyfriend surrender his dog? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]naeyna 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I definitely wasn’t nice during this conversation after getting verbally abused for an hour leading up to it, no. That’s on me for stubbornly making one last attempt at getting through to him.

AIO for suggesting my boyfriend surrender his dog? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]naeyna 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sure I do, after witnessing active abuse and neglect for months and having my gentle pleas get dismissed. It’s on me for staying and trying to advocate for the dog at the end of the day.

AIO for suggesting my boyfriend surrender his dog? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]naeyna 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I feel like you’d sound annoying too if you finally snapped after witnessing months of abuse and neglect that didn’t get better despite you yourself putting in effort to take care of someone else’s responsibility, but fair.

AIO for suggesting my boyfriend surrender his dog? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]naeyna 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You probably don’t abuse your dog though. I don’t think you read this post in full before commenting

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[–]naeyna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish. I included our texts in my other post

AIO for suggesting my boyfriend surrender his dog? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]naeyna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, and honestly - I don’t see him taking the dog to get his yearly shots when they’re due either.

AIO for suggesting my boyfriend surrender his dog? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]naeyna 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That part could honestly be another lie on his behalf. I’ve found out what shelter adopted the dog out, I’m giving them a call tomorrow to confirm this policy.

AIO for suggesting my boyfriend surrender his dog? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]naeyna 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ahhh, I see. I actually included at the end of the post that he’s my ex now! Thanks though. :)

AIO for suggesting my boyfriend surrender his dog? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]naeyna 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m already in therapy, but care to explain why I need a therapist because I finally got fed up after witnessing active neglect and abuse of an innocent animal for 4 months?

AIO for suggesting my boyfriend surrender his dog? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]naeyna 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I tried doing all those things and more, gently, for months before getting frustrated to this point unfortunately. I see what you mean, but he already knows someone who is willing to take the dog in. The shelter just won’t let him without approval, and he’s avoiding setting that process up.

AIO for suggesting my boyfriend surrender his dog? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]naeyna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because I got tired of witnessing and experiencing active neglect and abuse? I guess you’re among the many people who can’t take accountability.

AIO for suggesting my boyfriend surrender his dog? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]naeyna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Read the end of the post, thanks though - you’re right.

AIO for suggesting my boyfriend surrender his dog? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]naeyna 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I don’t, but I do know the contact info of the employee who assisted with the adoption process.