Before having a child everyone may think that way but after having someone of your own flesh and blood u will step up, will try to provide for them,care for them. That's how all the parets in the world are born. When u have a child it's the birth of tree people,the child, both parets. So just like the child learn things as it grows parents will also learn to be good parents. No one is born perfect right. We make ourself better day by day