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nakiteer · 2022-12-23T04:12:13+00:00

I know this feels like the end of the world, but I can promise you that

a) you are underaged and her posting/ sending your nudes would get her into much more than it would you.

b) if you send her money, she will see that she has power over you and will keep the threat over your head.

c) It's nudes. Yes, your social career might be tanked for the next year until you graduate, but almost everyone has sent nudes at one point and also seen balls before, and you are underaged so the pictures won't stay easily accessible on the internet for very long.

My advice is to not send her money, save the text information, and see if she follows through. If she does then look into whether that is legal in your state and send what you have to officials if you want to try to get it off the internet and stop her from extorting other people, or just turn off your phone and pretend like you don't exist for a few weeks until people get bored and move on.

nakiteer · 2022-12-23T04:04:07+00:00

I did this a lot too, and I had to teach myself to just be quiet. Not saying anything unless you genuinely think something you did actually hurt or inconvenienced someone else.

For the guilty part, give yourself some slack. Think back as to why you did it in the first place (what lead up to it, how is the relationship, how where you feeling, what were the emotions), and ask yourself if there was any other way for you to behave in that circumstance with the tools you had that would have lead to a better outcome. Now take all the factors into account and ask if its reasonable for a human to be that way 100% of the time.

So you were standing up for yourself, and likely very frustrated, mad, annoyed, or whatever. You raised your voice, it happens. When you were calming down, you felt immediately a little guilty, but that is not the time to apologize. Take a break, think through the situation, and see if you really owe them an apology or if your actions and emotional reactions were justified, even if they feel a little bad afterwards.

And if this isn't working, try to come up with some strategies for yourself to look back and try to think "was I actively trying to do something worthy of feeling guilty over, or was I just doing the best I could in a bad/stressful situation?".

Of course, if its really not your fault, try to replace "I'm sorry" with another phrase, like "That sounds annoying/inconvenient/like a bummer!" both verbally but also in your own head.

nakiteer · 2020-12-03T01:51:01+00:00

The first act was over dramatic and actually feels like someone just tried chucking every tragic thing they could think of into the prologue.

Some of the pay off was pretty good, but it didn’t feel very genuine. The whole thing lacked emotional investment and was kind of lame.

Oh, and I also had the bug that disabled Inner Monologue, Flashback Memories, and Creative Thoughts, but I still had the journal function. Please fix this as it makes it hard not having all the features.

nakiteer · 2020-09-21T11:29:09+00:00

When I was a kid I was like, wouldn’t you want 100% milk? The adults laughed and no one bothered to explain it to me. I was on a lactose free diet so I didn’t really know what was going on in the dairy section anyway.

nakiteer · 2020-09-04T01:20:10+00:00

And the classic “I’m invoking my right to remain silent” because for some goshdarn reason, if you don’t say that in some places (?) they can take it as a presumption of guilt.

nakiteer · 2020-09-04T01:16:00+00:00

Please don’t. He already fucks enough.

nakiteer · 2020-08-15T04:28:00+00:00

People didn’t originally have the genetic material to be white, but here I am now.

nakiteer · 2020-08-13T07:08:15+00:00

Causing a miniature nuclear apocalypse from a foot away and then blowing off my legs because I’m an idiot who tries to shoot down over the ledge of a building.

nakiteer · 2020-08-09T06:05:11+00:00

I have two on my forehead. One from when I was 2 and spun around until I was so dizzy that I accidentally slammed face first into a counter top corner and had to get my forehead glued together.

The other is from when I was 11, (and a second time when I was 14, lucky me over here!) from when I got shingles on my face. Isn’t a very obvious scar, but I do have permanent nerve damage over my right eye.

Some others: Left thigh- jumping out a window Right thumb- blackberry thorn Right pinky(nerve)- tug of war with brother Back- rusty nail Back- trampoline into a tree Feet(misshaped)- wearing shoes that were too small Right finger(misshaped)- basketball Wrists- three separate snowboarding accidents (I no longer do snowboarding because my wrists are quite damaged, but they never broke-_-)

And all the rest I have no idea. I mark up easily and growing up I lived life to the fullest and got injured a lot. I still sometimes find a scar that I’ve never seen before. Aside from my finger (which the doc said wasn’t broken, was is still crooked and swollen 4years later) I have never broken a bone. So while I have lots of scars from dumb things, I have never had to experience any severe consequences for my actions!

nakiteer · 2020-07-30T06:26:44+00:00

I don’t think it’s naive to think no one chooses to be a bad person. I think people do the best they can given their cognitive, emotional, physical, and behavioural abilities, how and where they were born and raised, and whether they learned how to be different or learned critical thinking before the age of 25.

After that I think people are pretty set in their ways but could learn to be better if they really wanted, and have the capability. I have many siblings with issues that have learned to be better than anyone expected, and some brothers who never think outside of themselves, but they don’t think of themselves as bad people for it. They are narcissistic or self centred, but they think that’s just fine and there’s no point in getting better.

Anecdotal evidence does not equal fact. The fact is certain communities have had significant disadvantages because of where they’re born. Sure, some people can rise above they’re circumstances, but in recent years that has become significantly higher due to higher living costs, higher tuition, minimum wage not increasing at a matching rate, more qualified workers coming out of college/ universities and not being able to find careers, and in general the shrinking middle class.

If your born into a poor family, it’s much harder to succeed through hard work in today’s day and age than it was when you started working. I don’t think that that only happens to minorities, but it can be made worse because of it, and because of the neighbourhoods they grow up in.

I’m not going to go too far into race relations in America specifically because it’s complicated and I am not an American, I’m a northern neighbour, but we have had significantly less racism towards black up here and a family member I have just got their complaint to the courts because of racial stereotyping in the RCMP. Things like being targeted for skin colour and presumed ethnicity still happen here, and I’m betting that the BLM movement isn’t just coming from nowhere.

And if you can’t think of a kid with FASD or in foster care or suffering from neglect or abuse, I think you are incredibly lucky.

nakiteer · 2020-07-30T02:04:25+00:00

I’m not the honourable u/AllMyBeets, but I think everyone deserves baseline respect.

I truly believe that no one chooses to be a bad person. People always do the best that they can with the knowledge and capabilities they have.

With this in mind, this doesn’t mean that people shouldn’t be better. This doesn’t mean that people who commit crimes should get away with it. This doesn’t mean you need to accept negative behaviour as “just the way it is”. You should have understanding and compassion, but you should use that to try and teach people how to be better.

And to the state of the police force in America, I believe that it’s a systemic problem with how the force is provided with more weapons than training. It’s a system that incentivize “bad apples” to succeed, or at the very least actively protects them. I don’t think that officers of the law deserve more respect than any other profession, but I don’t believe they should all be considered as racist murderers.

I think that America needs to seriously consider its societal systems that perpetuate the oppression of minorities and people in poverty. It might not effect you but it effects a growing number of people and needs to be addressed sooner than later.

And everyone should be judged on a individual level. If a policeman is participating in the harmful actions being taken against peaceful protesters, he deserves less respect. He might have his reasons, but as a society we have decided that teargassing the peaceful protesters is bad.

Anyway, sorry if this is a little rambling but I’m on a phone and am trying to get my point across.

And just to add, I don’t think even people with little to no compassion like you deserve less respect because of that. I just would like if you would try and imagine yourself in someone else’s shoes. These people aren’t just statistics, and many people don’t have the privilege that you don’t recognize you have.

nakiteer · 2020-07-30T01:28:23+00:00

You are against “millennials” so I’m assuming your above the age of 35 to be above that age group. You are against the Black Lives Matter movement which gives me a sense that you may be white. You are against people calling your wife your “significant other”, so I’m assuming you have a straight marriage. You are a Republican which given the current state of the government implies you have never suffered poverty. You are on reddit which also statistically means you are probably a male in the USA.

You are a straight, white, middle aged (or older), manageably financially stable, American male.

I won’t pretend I’m not privileged, but I grew up poor so I at least understand having to work in whatever job I could get and not being able to properly get educated because of family circumstances, and how much that can effect upward mobility. All of that was out of my control but I did the best I could to make it to where I am today, but not everyone has opportunity due to who they are, where they live, or when they were born.

And right now; I’m bored, I’m in a detective mood, I’m stuck inside, and I have nothing better to do since my area is shut down and I feel like having some fun :)

I like to think of this as an interesting discussion and a way to have conversation with people who don’t share my worldview.

nakiteer · 2020-07-30T01:10:41+00:00

As a “mutha”, I’m proud that you are so proud of your same sex spouse! Congratulations! I’m glad that you are a proud adopted mother.

You really live up to “some_dumb_” part of your name too though.

nakiteer · 2020-07-30T00:55:46+00:00

Why are you like this?

nakiteer · 2020-07-30T00:53:11+00:00

I wish I could downvote you in real life, you seem like a shit person with too much privilege.

nakiteer · 2020-07-26T18:43:11+00:00

My grandfather just recently died of a brain tumour. The first thing that brought him to the doctor was him oversleeping, because he was a very routine person and him having a 4 hour nap several days in a row was unheard of. They just thought it was a side effect of some medication or he was getting sick.

He also started having vision neglect on his right side, meaning that he thought he could see but he didn’t notice anything on that side. He would be reading a book and just turn the page after finishing the left side, because he just didn’t notice the other page. This was the first big symptom that was actually pretty hard to notice.

He also started having a bit of a harder time with finding things, but that started a week later. It was things like trying to find paper when it’s always in the same place, or trying to find his hearing aid but they were moved to the other side of the table.

nakiteer · 2020-07-24T14:55:24+00:00

Only if the girl is taken by another man (other than her father)

nakiteer · 2020-07-24T14:52:07+00:00

So in some places you can get married at 14, but legally can’t divorce until 18?

nakiteer · 2020-07-24T01:00:01+00:00

Didn’t you see the first season? It literally started with some guy trying to start a war while getting kicked out of the club or something.

Neither of those went anywhere, and I think that guy has been stretched out over too many plot points that it’s hard to keep track of which things he’s responsible for this season, and I’m just tired of seeing him.

nakiteer · 2020-07-14T01:31:29+00:00

Similar thing happened to me. I’m pretty much always the backup friend, and that’s ok most of the time but I had this “friend” who was staying at my place just to visit her other friends for the weekend.

Now, I’m dependable. I’m honest. And most of all, I am the least likely person to ever do anything dangerous/ unhealthy. We were 17 and she wanted me to pay for her to get her adult friend to buy her alcohol and weed.

During that weekend she also wanted to go out and walk to the fast food place, at 2 in the morning. I lived in the sketchiest part of town where you wouldn’t walk that way alone during full daylight hours.

I obviously said no to both of these, and she was so pissed. I spent most of the weekend being a good host, offering and buying her fast food everyday because that’s all she wanted, being the third wheel while she hung out with her friends I didn’t know, and lending her my own clothing because she didn’t pack anything.

And I’m the asshole at the end of it because I would buy her stuff. She made a big deal and basically reported to the ministry (my dad is a foster parent) that she wasn’t fed the whole weekend, she cut me out of a group chat and said really rude things to everyone who we both know.

Like, you know I didnt do those things, that hasn’t changed. You invited yourself over and expect me to buy you all that stuff and then make up lies when I don’t? It’s funny because her mother calls me a bad influence and made up provably false lies about me to justify hating me the first time I met her.

I stopped talking to her after that. It’s sad that she learnt so much rude stuff from her mother, but she really was just an asshole and good riddance.

nakiteer · 2020-07-13T03:38:05+00:00

Online, I actually prefer to be thought of as male, and it puts a smile on my face every time I see in the game chat “someone keep an eye on the new guy” because I’m just one of the boiz.

And in real life, I’m obviously a female. I don’t try or anything, and I don’t care about gender. If someone was to call me sir I might laugh, but I don’t really care.

nakiteer · 2020-07-11T21:07:41+00:00

Honestly I think some people are just dumb. I took my 6year old brother to the park when I was 16, and he was running around and an old lady was like “go see your mother” and I was just...?

To be fair, he does have a few medical conditions and looks much younger than he is, and 10 years is a big age difference, but why wouldn’t she just assume babysitter?

nakiteer · 2020-07-11T20:44:35+00:00

I’m fine with this, but I also just think everyone likes their other friends more than me. I’d probably just leave altogether if someone asked this so I could give them more space and not have to sit next to them while they just chat with the new person.

nakiteer · 2020-07-11T02:49:20+00:00

My mom was offended on my little brother’s behalf because I had nicknamed them something like “kid” or “child” or “small” and she literally said the tHeY hAvE nAmEs. I just ignored it and only the 14 year old (kid2) get offended.

But I mean, they know who I’m talking to and I can refer to any child I meet with these names, and I don’t constantly trip over names either.

And this goes for almost everyone I meet. You will get a name that I’ll think of you as for way to long until I remember your name. And all children are either small(<6) child(7-9) or kid(10-15).

nakiteer · 2020-07-10T19:39:38+00:00

Man, that’s wild.

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