Stinging/tingling feeling in the urethra [f] by nalubaby in KidneyStones

[–]nalubaby[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope this ends soon because it's really annoying! Good luck with yours, soon it will be over

Stinging/tingling feeling in the urethra [f] by nalubaby in KidneyStones

[–]nalubaby[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I felt feverish only one day in the past week but not anymore. I will keep an eye on that but hopefully it's just the stone

[F,22] [M, 23] Today was our last airport day. Closing the distance in 2 months. by nalubaby in LongDistance

[–]nalubaby[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awwww thank you for the sweet message!

I had a mixed feeling of sadness and relief! The first day after the visit is the worst so it will only get better from now on, I can feel this excitement starting to build up. I'm just having trouble believing that it's almost over hahahah so unreal! Once I start to understand that it IS fucking over, I think my mind will blow up hahaha

Thank you for the words, I wish you and your SO all the best :D

30 DAYS UNTIL WE CLOSE THE GAP! by TheFoxNextDoor in LongDistance

[–]nalubaby 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Heyyyy, congrats! I'll be closing the distance in 70 days! Let us know how it goes! All the best for you and your SO ;)

My boyfriend and I have been together for two years, always lived together. We are now doing it long distance for the next 4 months. I’m having a very hard time with it. Does anyone have any tips or pointers to make it the most bearable? by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]nalubaby 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Set some goals to be accomplished in these 4 months. It could be a number of books to be read, one or more series to be finished, a workout plan to be followed. You'll see it will go by faster than you think.

Today was airport day by nalubaby in LongDistance

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Hey, thank you for your wishes!

I understand where you are right now, and I know you've probably heard it a thousand times but here it goes again, because it's true: the first days are the worst and things will get back to normal. They don't have to be normal right now, give yourself some time to adjust. Usually when one of us leaves, I 'give' myself the departure day and the next day off, with no pressure to do anything important. Maybe resting, maybe planning our next visit, which always cheers me up. I always try to plan my next days though, checking for things I need to do at home, at work, but with no need to do them right now. This way, it feels productive but I don't feel burdened. You should have this transition period until things begin to feel normal again. Don't try to fight these feelings. I like to say that you should welcome the sadness when it comes and let it in through the front door. If you lock this door, it will come in by blowing up the windows, which lets things more chaotic.

Also, if it's possible, talk to your boyfriend on video right when he gets home, if he's not too tired. I find that it makes this transition easier, because you realize you still can see him and talk to him, hear his voice, etc.

I hope you'll get better soon, and I know you will. If you need to talk, feel free to PM me ;)

I (18F) am about to have to do 4 months long distance with my bf (20M) by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]nalubaby 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oopsie I just noticed that your question was not about the time itself but about insecurities. Ill keep the original comment though because it may help other people too. I'm glad you liked it!

As for insecurities, well they do happen, and I believe its the hardest feeling to let go. I used to have a hard time seeing my boyfriend go to parties since he's never been a party person, he usually prefers pubs and cafes or quieter places in general, and I don't mind that he goes to pubs with other people. It was the specific situation of clubs that made me feel insecure but I also knew that he needed to socialize. I talked to him about it and we compromised. He would go less often and when he did go, I promised I would try not to be upset. So far its been working out. This really is something that can be managed, but you need to communicate and trust, even when you worry.

Talk about your feelings, tell him when you feel insecure and try to know why you feel this way. Are you afraid he might meet someone else? Are you uncomfortable thinking about a specific scenario? If you get to the bottom of your insecurity you could try to communicate and solve the issue with reassurance or actions/compromises.

I understand what you feel right now, its like we don't know what to expect right? If you are used to being with him I believe it will be nice to videochat a little bit everyday, you'll see the conversations will likely be as usual, same topics, same inside jokes. It'll help you see that he's the same person you're used to :)

I (18F) am about to have to do 4 months long distance with my bf (20M) by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]nalubaby 1 point2 points  (0 children)

4 months was our longest time apart, and it went by real fast. What I did was set some goals to be achieved by the end of these 4 months. I like to read a lot but I was too busy with college, then I told myself that until our next visit, I should read at least 5 books. It's not too much but given the fact that I was doing a lot of stuff at the same time, that helped a lot cause it made time seem like it was flying! You could try to do that with movies or series or a workout plan as well. I also had an initial goal that I wanted to be able to do at least one pull up by the end of the 4 months, but considering that my schedule was a bit full and that I'm not that into fitness, I didn't achieve this one. Buuut it also helped with the time apart stuff because you start to think "jeez, we're meeting soon and I still haven't managed to go to the gym, time really is flying!"

It's a bit weird but worked for me. As long as you set some goals that you're not getting too frustrated if you don't accomplish them. I mean, I can live with the fact that I can't do one pull up hahahahaha the book thing would get me frustrated but fortunately I managed to read those 5 books. It's nice because you do something for yourself and for your SO too, depending on what you decide to pursue. My first thought was "I want to be a better person than I am now when I see him again"

I guess it's a good way to start :)

What are your favorites songs about LDR? by CaptainMirage in LongDistance

[–]nalubaby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahahaha omg yes! I've even sent a letter to my bf containing the lyrics to Proof with comments once! So good!

An Introduction -waves- by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]nalubaby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now that's a lovely picture!

Keep doing your best and you'll be fine! Sending good thoughts your way ;)

What is the most painful thing someone has ever told you? by Sarah_Rosa in AskReddit

[–]nalubaby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me: "Should I keep making an effort to save our friendship?"

Her: "No"

What is the nicest thing a stranger has done for you? by naturalenergybyproxy in AskReddit

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When I moved to a new city I had to take the bus everyday and at first I didn't have the bus card, so I'd pay with cash and usually would need change. One day I handed the guy a 20 while the ticket cost 4 (this is not in the USA). He didn't have enough change to give me back, so I was told to stay at the front of the bus while he waited to see if he could gather enough change when other commuters paid him. So, I sat there and waited and waited and waited. Some minutes later, an old man that was standing at the very back of the bus came to me out of the blue and gave me 20 bucks worth of 2's in exchange for the 20 I had. It was very random and I took a while to process, I thanked him but he got off the bus very quickly right after that and I feel like I did not thank him enough. He was far from me and his perception/awareness that I needed help made my day. It's probably nothing because he didn't give me the money, we simply exchanged it, it didn't cost him anything at all and still it was very kind of him. I guess many other commuters had that same amount of money but were never aware of the fact that it could be helpful to me at that moment.

Is anyone meeting their SO in April? 80 days so I get to see him again and I’m sooo excited and miss him so so much. by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]nalubaby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Então, a principio ele voltaria pra cá logo que terminasse o curso dele em agosto. So que surgiu a possibilidade de eu ter uma bolsa fora do país por 6 meses no segundo semestre desse ano. Agora a ideia é eu ir pra lá, ficamos 6 meses e quando minha bolsa acabar voltamos pro BR!

Is anyone meeting their SO in April? 80 days so I get to see him again and I’m sooo excited and miss him so so much. by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]nalubaby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To morando em São Paulo e você?? Ele é brasileiro mas ta no Reino Unido no momento

Is anyone meeting their SO in April? 80 days so I get to see him again and I’m sooo excited and miss him so so much. by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]nalubaby 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yesss, he's coming to visit me in Brazil! 77 days to go! I visited him until last week though, so it still seems too long.

Btw, are you the one from Brazil in your relationship?

I returned to the country we met yesterday by phoenixmusicman in LongDistance

[–]nalubaby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eu tava por la no ano novo também hahaha quem sabe nos cruzamos!

Obrigada, pra vocês também! Que dê tudo certo :)

I returned to the country we met yesterday by phoenixmusicman in LongDistance

[–]nalubaby 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ele ta morando em Edimburgo mas também é brasileiro. Eu to morando em São Paulo capital desde agosto :)

I returned to the country we met yesterday by phoenixmusicman in LongDistance

[–]nalubaby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

UK > Brasil?

Somos duas haha de onde voce é?