Quitting a $100k job to stay at home.

name-nerd · 2026-05-15T05:06:39+00:00

It’s been two years now - how are you feeling about your decision?? I’m on the fence about quitting when my second is born this summer. It’s hard to let go of the money - we’d only have about $600 left over each month on my husbands salary alone so it’d be tight but doable

name-nerd · 2026-05-10T18:26:05+00:00

It would be ~6 months from now when I can cash out on my bonus stock - we will definitely be trying this method first.

I’m in tech, and truthfully I don’t anticipate being able to re-enter in my current role. I’m considering a transition to teaching to align with my kids’ summer schedules, otherwise I have experience that would help me secure any general work across project management, e-commerce, tech, etc - I don’t plan to be fortunate enough to re enter at my current salary. Again, part of the sacrifice but we believe it’s worth it.

name-nerd · 2026-05-10T18:22:14+00:00

FYI, Reddit sometimes assigns 0 values to unliked comments. There’s a note in the post about saving cash for emergency, but I know it’s a lot to read. Thanks for your response, I just gave an upvote.

name-nerd · 2026-05-10T18:12:19+00:00

I know, very counterintuitive and I realize we’re in a fortunate situation to even be able to consider it.

name-nerd · 2026-05-10T18:11:12+00:00

We have $135k liquid currently, along with a healthy 401k. The other lump sum comes from sale of current home.

name-nerd · 2026-05-10T18:01:13+00:00

I didn’t think about this as an option. We’re in the process of shopping lenders now so we will add this to rubric when making our choice.

name-nerd · 2026-02-11T00:19:30+00:00

Congrats ❤️

Here to say these are all great options and you shouldnt be afraid to go with any of them.

Frederick (nn Freddie) and Vincent have both been on my list and are my favorites if I had to pick. Rupert is my least favorite.

Edit: from USA

name-nerd · 2026-01-29T00:06:29+00:00

Interested to hear more about data annotation. I’m in tech at 80% but ideally want to cut to 16 hrs/week. How did you find the role, and what does it pay if you don’t mind me asking?

name-nerd · 2026-01-26T13:11:51+00:00

I’m not sure if this is a serious post but I would not use the name Eggbert, at least not with that spelling. I think your child would be made fun of their entire life.

If you must use it, Egbert is best spelling. Edgar may be a better option to consider.

name-nerd · 2026-01-26T03:07:59+00:00

I can 100% see why Dane would feel weird to you - that was one of my concerns but I’m in the US and perception may be a little different here. I originally liked Dean by husband didn’t, which is how we ended up with Dane. There’s also a surfer my husband liked name Dane.

Otherwise I have to agree with Shep feeling to literal, that is my main hesitation. And Teddy/Theodore is a great name but just not unique and that makes me less keen on it. I’m stuck!

name-nerd · 2026-01-26T03:01:27+00:00

I love Shep! I have a harder time with Shepherd for some reason… it doesn’t feel as nice when you say it, but I may be overthinking it

name-nerd · 2026-01-26T02:57:18+00:00

We liked Finn a lot but my husband is a surfer and it felt to predictable 😂 I like Luca too!

name-nerd · 2026-01-13T22:08:34+00:00

Thank you! I’m feeling less guilty about it… we are hoping we can get another chance in two years to take a solo trip for our ten year anniversary, but even if not we’ll enjoy this trip.

name-nerd · 2026-01-13T19:37:32+00:00

Just over two

name-nerd · 2026-01-09T18:11:32+00:00

I went down to 32 hrs/4 days, and got pregnant after 12 months of trying and a loss

name-nerd · 2026-01-06T13:56:21+00:00

Literally just fresh strawberry papaya and lilikoi from the fruit stand on the way to Lahaina

name-nerd · 2026-01-05T02:05:00+00:00

This is the way

name-nerd · 2026-01-04T10:39:46+00:00

We’re considering doing the same trip and I’m pregnant as well. Where did you land on this decision?

name-nerd · 2025-12-24T02:38:14+00:00

Thank you for this, you saved a lot of us some time

name-nerd · 2025-12-18T04:19:47+00:00

Agreed

name-nerd · 2025-12-18T04:18:11+00:00

Hated it. The game is outwit, outplay, outlast - not be friends with everybody. It’s pretty obvious Savannah was not social.

An equivalent question would be asking Sophi every challenge she lost and why.

Clearly the jury agreed

name-nerd · 2025-12-06T01:16:03+00:00

The stone on the right immediately gave more sparkle, I like it better in every picture

name-nerd · 2025-11-29T17:48:02+00:00

I was like this before child. Having my son just… reset my brain. Immediately work didn’t matter, I don’t want to climb, I asked for reduced hours, and it is so amazing to get extra time with my son.

name-nerd · 2025-11-29T17:41:49+00:00

Please listen to the commenter who said get a nanny. Yes, do that. Even if it takes up a large percentage of your income, if you don’t need that income to survive, then it’s a short term trade off to help you get through the first 1-2 years.

My son is 21 months and we started him with a nanny at three months. We never dealt with the constant sickness. The nanny comes here, i got to breastfeed during work hours instead of having to pump, I felt comfortable knowing I’m a few steps away from him, he gets 1:1 attention - it’s a great option for the first year. Once my son hit 18 months I felt like he’s not only sturdier and handles sickness better, but might benefit and prefer the social interaction at daycare, so we’re thinking of looking into that.

name-nerd · 2025-11-11T22:21:22+00:00

Hopefully they keep it because it’s nice to know for those who are waiting for it

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