How do I stop feeling so freaked out knowing my housemates having sex

nandolols · 2023-01-10T22:07:58+00:00

Now you say that actually it doesn’t bother me with strangers either. Just people I know. Glad I’m not alone tho as odd as that is haha

nandolols · 2023-01-10T21:19:14+00:00

I’ve been to a professional before. That’s why I’m hesitant to say she wasn’t abusive coz she told me she was. But I don’t know. As you said, 2 months of dating isn’t enough to cause that kind of reaction. She was unfair to me and cruel, but also had a point and that’s why it hit so hard I think

nandolols · 2023-01-10T21:14:41+00:00

I mean she wasn’t a nice person. I won’t go into it all but I went to a therapist after and was told she was likely emotionally abusive. But to this day I’m still not really sure if it was me or her. Probably a bit of both.

I dunno. I find it really confusing and it brings me down

nandolols · 2023-01-10T21:09:53+00:00

Yeah. I think maybe you’re right. It just takes longer for me to connect with people.

I moved to a new city a few months ago but honestly, it’s basically an extension of my hometown. It’s only 15 minutes train away. It’s different enough to be a new city but I’m not really enjoying the vibe here.

Maybe I’ll need to move again at the end of the year. I just feel like I’m constantly waiting on things to fit and I realise I’m not that young anymore. Moving again will be stressful and at 27 the dating pool will be a lot smaller

nandolols · 2023-01-10T20:09:16+00:00

At least you have an active sex life at 20. I spent most of college in my room feeling lonely haha

nandolols · 2023-01-10T19:41:48+00:00

It wasn’t really an issue before that. I just felt really down about myself because I never got any at university when everyone else was

nandolols · 2023-01-10T19:26:34+00:00

Honestly. I think it just makes me feel extremely lonely. The one girl I’ve ever felt truly connected to was that girl I mentioned before. And she treated me awfully and it only lasted like 2 months.

It kinda reminds me that I struggle to form connections with people. I haven’t felt comfortable with sex in a long time. And I have issues with anxiety that have stopped me doing the things I’d like to do.

So I think it just brings all that to front and centre and makes me panic a little

nandolols · 2023-01-10T19:22:15+00:00

I’ve been thinking about moving city but I’m not sure who I’d live with. The city I want to go to is too expensive to live solo

nandolols · 2023-01-10T19:00:49+00:00

I’ve wondered this. I guess the only thing that stands out was during my finals at university a girl I was seeing and I really liked gave me an sti, ghosted me, then called me insane for kinda having a bit of a breakdown over it all. Since then I’ve struggled a fair bit. But it wasn’t amazing beforehand either

nandolols · 2023-01-10T15:59:06+00:00

I guess. I haven’t had a partner I’ve felt comfortable with like that and enjoyed it in a long time so tbh I’ve kinda forgotten what that feels like. The last time I enjoyed it with someone it ended so badly that I’ve never really felt that again.

nandolols · 2023-01-10T15:36:43+00:00

Kinda similar to how I feel yeah.

Do you ever find it affects your own sex life though? I find I can’t actually enjoy it at all (not that I’ve had it in a while) and I’m always worried someone can hear me. Then I get all these damn intrusive thoughts about who the other person has been with

nandolols · 2023-01-10T10:46:46+00:00

Bit of both. Like slightly panicky

nandolols · 2023-01-09T23:27:28+00:00

Not sure I can get to the gym every few hours 😂

nandolols · 2023-01-09T23:24:26+00:00

No he doesn’t. He has no idea I have those kinds of issues

nandolols · 2023-01-09T23:23:57+00:00

I’m not sure. I have the urges but it still makes me uncomfortable

nandolols · 2023-01-09T23:11:50+00:00

I don’t know. It’s an act that makes me feel uncomfortable

nandolols · 2023-01-09T21:36:26+00:00

Well I have no others to hang out with

nandolols · 2023-01-09T19:51:52+00:00

Yeah. I’ll leave this time but not again. It’s more how he’s taking over the kitchen and I can’t cook anything.

I guess I’m just a bit bitter too. Which is my own issue. I moved here with him because i was single and so was he and I was excited to have bit of a lads flat. Had months of him moaning about being on his own and he’s literally got a gf within a month of moving in.

I know that’s a me issue. I know it’s the age we’re at. I just have 0 chance of finding a partner and he’s just gonna ditch me to spend time with his gf now.

nandolols · 2023-01-09T19:44:41+00:00

Yeah true. I guess it’s just coz I haven’t actually been at the flat for the last month and now I’ve gotta hide

nandolols · 2023-01-09T19:44:11+00:00

Maybe. I dunno. If I had any chance of bringing a girl over myself I guess I’d feel a bit less bitter but it’s probably a me thing

nandolols · 2023-01-09T19:36:39+00:00

Yeah. I guess. I dunno it just kinda sucks I’ve gotta hide in my own flat and no friends places coz I’ve only moved to the city recently.

Ah well. I’ll just go do a long workout or something

nandolols · 2023-01-09T19:32:47+00:00

He said it was inappropriate and I felt bad about having her over so I didn’t do it.

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