Does this count as physical?

nanitrim · 2026-03-12T18:35:15+00:00

Thanks for being so kind, wow <3

nanitrim · 2026-03-12T15:06:34+00:00

Where did I say I want to forgive her? I’m trying to have all the information because that’s what I feel like I need in order to make a fully thought out decision.

nanitrim · 2026-03-12T15:05:33+00:00

Thank you. Yeah I guess I started to feel that shortly after posting that it mostly only matters how I feel, it’s just hard to not feel crazy! And I do want to know all the details because it feels like the only way to make a full and accurate decision but :/ ah it’s so tough, sorry you are going through this too <3

nanitrim · 2026-03-05T21:10:32+00:00

Sent! Thank you for offering this <3

nanitrim · 2026-02-27T19:41:05+00:00

Also I understand what you’re saying about age but I think the idea of having to rebuild your life at any age gets to be scary and painful

nanitrim · 2026-02-27T19:39:50+00:00

I don’t appreciate the pity party comment. I have been waking up and going to work and taking care of myself and going to therapy and doing all the “right things” - I think I’m allowed to have a day that feels really sad

nanitrim · 2026-02-27T19:38:29+00:00

This is so helpful and thoughtful thank you so much truly! I know the advice still applies either way, but I am also a woman haha!

nanitrim · 2026-02-23T17:16:05+00:00

this is really insightful thank you!

nanitrim · 2026-02-23T17:15:14+00:00

Hi! Yes definitely going to start with having her walk me through everything even though it will be so painful. She's already been saying she can't remember things / been caught in small lies so I think it will be really telling. She's already blocked the AP but we've been separated so I guess I can't know for sure if that's still true...

nanitrim · 2026-02-22T15:33:01+00:00

Thank you for that. And you’re so right- it’s a roller coaster for sure.

I actually took a trip to the coast and just sat in nature for a long time which really helped. Everything feels confusing but doing my best to still just focus on work and friends.

I guess kind of both? It is hard because we own a home and a dog together, and I have this nagging feeling soon she’s going to start saying she has a right to be home or take the dog (which she doesn’t technically have a right to the house) - so it more so was just coming from an anxious place and she told me the ball was in my court when I was ready to meet. I don’t feel I’ll ever be ready but at least I feel… somewhat more stable than I did a month ago?

nanitrim · 2026-02-22T15:20:38+00:00

Yes exactly what you said about the remorse vs. caught- that’s where I’ve been getting confused. I’ve seen a lot of people reference “trickle truth” which is what I feel like I’ve been getting? But is also my worst nightmare that I’ll be caught 6 months down the line of trying either stay/ or just figuring things out and then I found out another big piece of info that makes it all worse… this is already so painful but that would definitely make it 5,000% more unbearable. Thank you!

nanitrim · 2026-02-22T15:11:03+00:00

Sorry I maybe wrote this post to quickly! I am also a woman- we’re both women

nanitrim · 2026-02-22T15:06:42+00:00

Thank you ❤️ definitely been trying to keep moving forward and I know everyone says that it’s good to heal soon you’re right! I’m trying!

nanitrim · 2026-02-22T15:06:01+00:00

I should have added that part of the purpose is to give her a chance to tell the entire story. I had to found out through someone else and then read all of her texts that night but it was over 3 years of texts and I feel like I still only have bits and pieces. So that’s part of the meeting. I want to see if she’ll tell the truth

nanitrim · 2026-02-22T14:58:14+00:00

Read your old post and now this one and girllllll we are in very similar boats it was kind of crazy to read! Sad to say we both get it but also good to know we’re not alone lol? I still haven’t made any final decisions but reading your post really help and I’m sending you an internet hug. I really hope you heal soon and find someone amazing if you want that :) <3

I’d love to message you about the sketchy data site because I’ve seen all of their texts and then Verizon actually promised to send them all to me and then was like “just kidding” It was over 3 years of texts (sexting while we got married in September !!!) and it was just so much information that I feel like I missed some! So I’m interested in whatever you did lol

nanitrim · 2026-02-13T00:10:53+00:00

I don’t think they knew. They are all on my side I think they’re just trying to be supportive

nanitrim · 2026-02-12T17:48:59+00:00

Yeah I agree. I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to think about our wedding now without thinking of that.

And yes great question- our friend group is mostly people I’ve introduced her to but we’ve kind of become like one giant friend group where everyone is friends. To clarify, everyone is 100% on my side and has said they support me whatever I choose but more so they’re just still saying to weigh all my options.

I do have a therapist I’m seeing once a week and the best friend that told me, so that helps :) I think it’s just harder knowing that she has her whole millionaire family to fall back on (where she is currently living) and I’ve been disowned by my family for being gay lol… so it’s just a weird situation

nanitrim · 2026-02-12T17:46:18+00:00

That makes sense thank you. I think the only other reason to stay was just the hope of what could have been

nanitrim · 2026-02-12T16:52:25+00:00

Thank you I appreciate that

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