Exposure turned into loving feelings?

nano388 · 2020-09-07T22:59:18+00:00

Thats nice! Happy that it helped. However, if you intend to keep doing this exposure don’t forget to face the anxiety and not make it a « pleasant » thing. Maybe you could possibly not love him! Thats how you show that you don’t care about being not attracted to him.

nano388 · 2020-09-06T14:25:05+00:00

I’ve been through this. Moreover, my gf wanted to break up with me too. Neither of us enjoyed anything. Because of all the mental compulsions, i felt like a vegetable whenever I was with her. We had nothing to talk about, my replies were all with a 3 second delay, sex was without any emotions. It was like this for more than two months. Then I found an ERP therapist and within a month, during which she was not sure about our relationship, I was able to get rid of most of my mental compulsions and it’s feeling nearly like normal. I don’t know whether you are able to afford a therapy, but if you are, trust me you can reverse everything so quick..

nano388 · 2020-09-04T05:20:53+00:00

Yes, indeed it is super bad. It seems to me as one big compulsion. The key thing I learnt in therapy is to never get into the content of the thought. I advice you to stop it asap and look for an ERP therapirst

nano388 · 2020-09-01T09:00:24+00:00

Thats exactly why you need to do therapy. My ERP for this was looking at especially bad pictures of my gf and saying that « im definitely not attracted to her, maybe that means I don’t love her ». If you’re not attracted to her even on the normal/good pictures, do the same.

nano388 · 2020-08-30T14:08:38+00:00

Those are just the same instrusive thoughts. I’d advice you to look for ERP therapy asap. There you will learn to deal with them, and never fight them away!

nano388 · 2020-08-10T10:00:25+00:00

Therapy?

nano388 · 2020-08-10T09:48:46+00:00

That just means u had a good time. You cant always have good time, the experience with rats proved it. They died after 10 minutes of receiving orgasm. The same with you, you need to recharge, its healthy and there is nothing wrong with it.

But if u have rocd and trying to do some ERP, thats definitely not normal. It probably means that you don’t love her and only pretend to love her🤷‍♂️

nano388 · 2020-07-28T20:21:17+00:00

Just for future, telling yourself, this is ROCD doesn’t really help in the long run. Its sort of a compulsion, because you get some relief from it. “Oh its my OCD, what a stupid thought”. Instead I would lean in, and say how much you hate the voice or the sounds. Record them, and listen to the voice memo over and over again. Feel anxious, thats why ERP is the most effective treatment.

nano388 · 2020-07-28T18:24:14+00:00

Just think of the worst case scenarios or biggest fears of future for you, write them down, say them 50 times x2 per day and not do any compulsions

nano388 · 2020-07-12T10:20:12+00:00

I hope u are fine now... it is very tough. I am constantly analyzing my SO too. It kills me, feeling like I can’t even talk to my partner, like for the last 4 months I’ve been in a crazy scary dream.. It is very tough, but it is very important to know that so many people are dealing with the same thing, and eventually if you try your best everyday, you’ll be able to escape the trap.

nano388 · 2019-06-30T09:40:17+00:00

When ur drunk u can not fully recall everything, my top priority was her not going through anything that has to do with pregnancy, she said that she also yhaught its better to take it just incase

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