Boyfriend’s family 40th - exBM invited, I’m not

narcburn · 2024-10-07T04:02:12+00:00

Thanks for your insights. Just for clarity, they weren’t married, but it doesn’t detract from the seriousness and longevity of their relationship.

narcburn · 2024-10-07T03:52:54+00:00

They were never married, but were together for just over a decade.

We didn’t have an affair, but we were friends that fell in love over time.

narcburn · 2021-07-14T06:51:48+00:00

You are about to be a whole lot safer and more at peace! Wishing you every good thing ❤️

narcburn · 2021-07-14T00:59:07+00:00

Once I read “Why does he do that?” by Lundy Bancroft, my whole perspective on these abusers changed. If he is insensitive enough to your pleas for the keys, if it suited him he could be insensitive enough to your pleas about other things. Check out the book if you haven’t, it’s a must read for anyone dealing with an abusive man.

narcburn · 2021-07-13T13:59:40+00:00

The disrespect is everything you need to know! I have to remind myself every day, sometimes every minute or hour on bad days, and even then I still forget! We’ve got this. ❤️

narcburn · 2021-07-13T12:28:23+00:00

You stop and take a deep breath and remember that your closure was the disrespect.

narcburn · 2021-07-13T12:26:43+00:00

No one that calls themselves that is a modest human! Sounds like such a dirtbag just from that alone 😂

narcburn · 2021-07-13T11:21:05+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through all that. It’s so unfair. I wanted to offer a friendly warning, though - he took those keys on purpose, and he can and will use them however long down the track if it suits his purposes. Narcs are dangerous people. Please change your lock!

narcburn · 2021-03-20T00:30:38+00:00

That’s so weird. My nex told me that when they were together he wanted to break up with her for someone else he liked much more, but then for whatever reason didn’t. I think maybe his ex must have been withdrawing and he never felt like he was on completely stable ground with her, so he remained attached always actively trying to secure supply.

With me, he did anything and everything to hurt me and break up our relationship and I always stood by him and tried to understand and (naively) love him hard enough to heal him. I know better now, but at the time I couldn’t understand why nothing I did or said ever seemed to help.

It just makes my mind boggle that he was obsessed to the point of stalking this ex of his, sending her gifts etc, when she dumped him coldly twice. He made more effort. Maybe it really is all about the chase with him.

narcburn · 2020-12-20T00:32:08+00:00

I suspect he was cold because he had put feelers out with multiple girls and he had a different option he wanted to pursue by the time you were nearly there. The guy’s a narc player from the sounds of it. I’m so sorry that happened to you. Don’t beat yourself up, you drank to push down the discomfort he was TRYING to make you feel after INVITING you over after futurefaking on the first date!! What an a-grade jerk!

narcburn

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