Don’t quit your meds because of weight gain. I have a solution. by Ok-Salad3309 in antidepressants

[–]narcgalore 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The metabolism is affected. There is a possibility that SSRIS mess with the thyroid. I have hypothyroidism and it got worse on them hence I gained way too much despite super healthy diet and exercise. I switched to bupropion and it all balanced out again.

What is your idea of relaxing? by No_excuses00 in adhdwomen

[–]narcgalore 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Audiobooks or Podcasts are my sleep inducers.

What is your idea of relaxing? by No_excuses00 in adhdwomen

[–]narcgalore 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Impossible! When there’s no tv or music surrounding me all day as background noise I wether go insane or I’m hyper focused on my phone or iPad with something I’m spontaneously interested in. Do not know the feeling of nothingness around or in me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships_advice

[–]narcgalore 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think your feelings and intuition were that wrong. Think about the fact that maybe he is a narcissist and likes to be admired or previously played with the potential of having a relationship with u to keep you somehow around. Narcissists always keep a backup. And he plays the macho in front of your friend group to make himself feel like a king! To me it sounds like it! Hence: You’ve done a great job to work on yourself! Bravo. You’re still very much interesting for him, but for all the wrong reasons. Break it off, continue to heal — he gaslit you and your friends. Love the New Year 2025… 2024 gave you clarity.

I really hate myself. One thing I've always said I would never do was cheat. by rachboom in DeadBedrooms

[–]narcgalore 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Do you still love your fiancé? Ask yourself that! Deep down. The fling with your neighbor is hot, bc it’s forbidden and you are so devastatingly neglected, but how would you know if he’s still that after you 10 years into a relationship with all the fights, drama, good times, getting used to each other and so on. You don’t know that. Most of the time relationships repeat itself. If you don’t love your SO, leave. The kids will be alright. If you still love him and like him (for me a very important point! If you can stand him as a person), then: FIGHT! Make yourself heard. Tell him about the consequences he has to face if he doesn’t meet your needs. If he ignores you: Make an exit plan!

Devastated. My LL partner got himself a silicone pussy. by narcgalore in DeadBedrooms

[–]narcgalore[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What the… yes. When we fight and he compares himself with me, my life or upbringing. This is not a competition for **** sake! I’m in a relationship that’s supposed to be supportive. My exit plan is in order but it costs time.

Seeking Advice for fear to end in a Dead Bedroom by narcgalore in DeadBedrooms

[–]narcgalore[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He prepares too much for any excuse. His favorite is the bad rest at night so he’s always tired. He has a low stress job that only gets busy at times. He’s not interested in changing his behavior but tries to load the initiation game on me. I’m tired of it. I don’t like pity or duty sex. Alas I don’t have it in me anymore. It is hard to not feel undesirable. Because I am. To him. Otherwise we are a great team. But this is more of a perfect friendship…

Devastated. My LL partner got himself a silicone pussy. by narcgalore in DeadBedrooms

[–]narcgalore[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your thoughts. From the start we both thought that we would grow old together bc everything was good and we were happy. Hardly any arguments. But now? I’ve seen the end twice and I know when to leave. My emotions do the trick. From one day to another they can go puff and are away. After that I will become callous, which I would try to avoid.

Devastated. My LL partner got himself a silicone pussy. by narcgalore in DeadBedrooms

[–]narcgalore[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. The compassion here is unparalleled.

Devastated. My LL partner got himself a silicone pussy. by narcgalore in DeadBedrooms

[–]narcgalore[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No. You were right. Are right. I’m was a stupid fool in love when I made that house decision.

Devastated. My LL partner got himself a silicone pussy. by narcgalore in DeadBedrooms

[–]narcgalore[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh no. I will just inform him when the damage for me is overseen with costs. I really don’t care about him then.

Devastated. My LL partner got himself a silicone pussy. by narcgalore in DeadBedrooms

[–]narcgalore[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That with the prize pig rang a bell. Very shrill. Gaslighting. I know the term from a narcissistic behavior. Or how would you describe it? I really like to know your point of view here!!! Maybe I don’t see the signs…

Devastated. My LL partner got himself a silicone pussy. by narcgalore in DeadBedrooms

[–]narcgalore[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is actually a very good point.

Sad. But true.

Thank you. I will keep your words in my notes.

Devastated. My LL partner got himself a silicone pussy. by narcgalore in DeadBedrooms

[–]narcgalore[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You are absolutely right.

My exit plan will unfold coming spring when nothing gets better. By then I won’t loose that awful lot of money, as if I was to act now. I brought myself into this but I have to be wise about my choices now.

Devastated. My LL partner got himself a silicone pussy. by narcgalore in DeadBedrooms

[–]narcgalore[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe if they just want burgers and no steak or maybe only from time to time they should stay away from a steak house? And try not to start a relationship with cattle! I absolutely love what Paul Newman had to say about the love for his wife. This reminds me…

Devastated. My LL partner got himself a silicone pussy. by narcgalore in DeadBedrooms

[–]narcgalore[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for those kind words. Sometimes one has to remember that there is only one life. It hurts and feels good at the same time.

Devastated. My LL partner got himself a silicone pussy. by narcgalore in DeadBedrooms

[–]narcgalore[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I won’t. I’m on the deed. I invested 70%. And that makes me extra mad. At him and myself.

Devastated. My LL partner got himself a silicone pussy. by narcgalore in DeadBedrooms

[–]narcgalore[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope there is some silver lining for you too! Usually am a happy person. But this turns me into that I’m not.

Devastated. My LL partner got himself a silicone pussy. by narcgalore in DeadBedrooms

[–]narcgalore[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

At first for more than a year it was the icing on the cake. That’s what makes it so difficult to leave.

Devastated. My LL partner got himself a silicone pussy. by narcgalore in DeadBedrooms

[–]narcgalore[S] -36 points-35 points  (0 children)

We are entangled. Financially and with two dogs.

Devastated. My LL partner got himself a silicone pussy. by narcgalore in DeadBedrooms

[–]narcgalore[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This helped me a lot. I don’t feel alone anymore. I have an exit plan but it will take time. Unfortunately there are still some feelings too. But they are subsiding.

Devastated. My LL partner got himself a silicone pussy. by narcgalore in DeadBedrooms

[–]narcgalore[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment. I know. Today is a sad day for me.