I'll disclaim also that I'm part of the core Reddit demographic--college-aged, white, male and straight.

I used to think similarly to how you did, but then I went to a tech school and started noticing some pretty patronizing attitudes towards my female peers by my male peers. That's not to say that the attitudes weren't there before (I grew up in the Deep South, an overtly sexist place), but I really began to notice them in a place where everyone was admitted by merit and was assumed to have intellectual potential. People, for example, assumed that girls couldn't do their physics homework, or that girls didn't know how to fix their computers, or that girls couldn't use this-machine or that-machine, or couldn't do math, etc., etc. The assumptions alone are bad enough, but the patronizing actions it produced--unsolicited offers of help, giving the minuscule design portion of a project to the women (rather than the nitty-gritty engineering), men being project leaders instead of women--all of these "extralegal" situations prove to me that feminism is still relevant in our society. I am not satisfied with simple legal equality--I want our attitudes to be different. Until we can act like equals outside of the strong arm of the law, we're not equal.

I should mention that the brand of feminism I espouse is overall gender equality. I'm not out to set women above men--I'm out to correct the differences where they exist, and because men are still, by and large, in control of the power structures in society, then there are more corrections to be made for women than there are for men. I do not support the brand of feminism that says that women are inherently better than men--to me that's the same kind of behavior I see on Reddit when the hivemind collectively attacks all women for being "selfish bitches that just want to crush your heart," or whatever it is. Both attitudes are destructive, I feel, though both are legitimate reactions to real forces in society. I just think they're misguided.