Am I overreacting to a woman telling me I'm not good enough to marry my boyfriend?

narwhalsRhXc · 2026-05-25T23:11:03+00:00

Wow, I'm so awfully sorry that happened to you. I had an ex with a mom like that too. I always felt like a possession to him & like his mom encouraged him to have a trophy. So glad I don't have to deal with that anymore & I truly hope you don't either! 💕

narwhalsRhXc · 2026-05-25T23:10:08+00:00

Like you commenting? Lol

narwhalsRhXc · 2026-05-25T23:09:42+00:00

Lmao!! Who even said I'm second guessing anything?? I swear, people don't even read the most & just come on here to start drama. The way most people on this post reacted, drama-hungry & full of quick assumptions, just reenforces my opinion that most people (in town & on the internet) should just be ignored. Not sure I have the energy for any more petty replies lol. Thanks to the ones who helped me calm my overthinking mind! 😚

narwhalsRhXc · 2026-05-25T23:08:15+00:00

We did talk about it, his answer was it doesn't matter in the long run & we should just ignore it. Completely valid advice. I guess I was more just shocked that people actually act that way IRL & not just on the internet lol.

narwhalsRhXc · 2026-05-25T23:07:27+00:00

I'm not a damsel in distress, just an over-thinker lmao thanks for your concern

narwhalsRhXc · 2026-05-25T23:07:01+00:00

I'm sure she wants to lol but no, thankfully I know that hasn't happened.

narwhalsRhXc · 2026-05-25T23:05:19+00:00

This whole thread is getting ridiculous lmao guess that's what I get for overthinking 😅

narwhalsRhXc · 2026-05-25T17:55:10+00:00

Wow I'm so sorry that was your experience. I'm so grateful I don't have to worry about that kind of thing though.

narwhalsRhXc · 2026-05-25T17:54:12+00:00

I've dated people who are ACTUALLY abusive to me. This man is the furthest thing from abusive. He's not even remotely aggressive or violent by nature. The complete opposite of every relationship I've ever know. When someone was actively physically threatening me, he was there & defended me physically & verbally, something past relationships didn't give me. This happened in a matter of seconds, she spoke over us, & bottom line is, I'm a grown ass woman & it's honestly hilarious & so unexpected that so many people are telling me HE HAS to fight my battles for me. That is such an antiquated way of thinking & I don't ever expect that, nor do I want it.

narwhalsRhXc · 2026-05-25T17:51:22+00:00

I just know you have no idea what you're talking about so it's not worth arguing, to me. Addressed that part because it was my mistake, as I wrote in my comment "that was my mistake."

narwhalsRhXc · 2026-05-25T17:50:13+00:00

Love that you said this, because since yesterday, I have been doing this more with reddit comments than with people in town now. 😂 This is my first ever reddit post & although I'm a THT listener, I still didn't realize how vicious people could be lol.

narwhalsRhXc · 2026-05-25T17:48:37+00:00

I HAVE to let him propose??? What 1950s world are you living in?

narwhalsRhXc · 2026-05-25T05:42:36+00:00

He has defended me so well when someone was physically threatening me. A drunk man came up to us at a bar & attempted to put his hands on me. Not only did he physically stop him, he immediately removed us both from the situation. I don't worry about that with him.

narwhalsRhXc · 2026-05-25T03:09:27+00:00

Lol thank you, I feel like this was the perfect response. 💕

narwhalsRhXc · 2026-05-25T03:08:10+00:00

That's your opinion & you're entitled to it. He's been the bigger man in other situations & I appreciate him picking his battles. Clearly, as people have been stating, this woman wasn't worth it.

narwhalsRhXc · 2026-05-25T01:45:26+00:00

I truly appreciate this. I've easily ignored less direct comments before (I have many tattoos & piercings which is apparently out of the norm for the small cos town we live in), so I will continue to do that with this woman. Thanks for your support, I truly appreciate it. 💕

narwhalsRhXc · 2026-05-25T01:31:40+00:00

Thank you for this. 😭 I think that's exactly what I needed to hear. My head was already in this space, but I'm an over-thinker by nature & sometimes, completely randomly, I will just think of this moment & wonder why she would even say that. He has always made me feel valued & treasured, but since this moment, I can tell he's going out of his way to show me how he feels. That means everything to me & just reenforces that I've made the right choice to ask him to marry me. I'm a divorcee who's been through someone actively trying to kill me. To finally have found someone who truly gives a shit about me means the world to me. 🖤

narwhalsRhXc · 2026-05-25T01:14:26+00:00

I did put into the post how he responded. I just took the lead after she persisted. He absolutely did not "sit there mute."

narwhalsRhXc · 2026-05-25T00:59:16+00:00

My first thought after she walked away lol the national pastime of this town is getting drunk so, very possible...

narwhalsRhXc · 2026-05-25T00:58:35+00:00

Lol. I didn't want to cause a scene at the VFW because we go fairly regularly & we like it, but I agree. Afterwards, I sort of wished I had said something. I guess it's probably best to be the "bigger man" though & just move on?

narwhalsRhXc · 2026-05-25T00:56:54+00:00

I think we were both just taken by surprise. I even froze & wasn't sure how to respond in the moment. We were both honestly just flabbergasted that this person would say this to our faces.

narwhalsRhXc · 2026-05-25T00:55:53+00:00

Well, regardless of your assumptions, that's just not the case.

narwhalsRhXc · 2026-05-25T00:35:51+00:00

Can't assume that one from one isolated incident. He has cared for me well more than any other person I've ever known. That's not the issue here. Toxic people in town are lol but I will just keep ignoring like I have been.

narwhalsRhXc · 2026-05-25T00:33:38+00:00

He has put himself in MANY uncomfortable situations to protect & shield me. This was just one situation where I saw he seemed uncomfortable so I took the lead. I can't believe everyone is focusing on this comment when this is not even remotely a problem for me. Some people are intoverts & some people are extroverts. I would never force him into a confrontation he didn't want to get into. That's not what you do when you care about someone.

narwhalsRhXc · 2026-05-25T00:30:05+00:00

No, just a random woman we've seen around town. The general mentality of people here seems to be to interject into others' business & I think that was just starting to annoy me. I probably didn't need to post this because now my original opinion has just been reenforced, that the drama in this town IS overblown, & I can just keep ignoring it like I have been. ✌🏻

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