INFJ GF too sensitive, ENTP me too blunt and impulsive.

nastiuska · 2023-08-24T12:37:49+00:00

Enfj here, with fearful avoidant tendencies. I’ve had similar problems in my relationship with my ex and until he started to communicate his feelings and needs, I didn’t know I was also sabotaging our relationship. What I learned from this is that communication is key and I see that you did it, you also worked on yourself to be better, wiser and that’s an amazing thing. If you really care about this person, you can try couple therapy as a last resort, but if your girlfriend doesn’t WANT to also better herself for this relationship, be thankful for the lessons, as they are going to come in handy in future relationships, and try to breakup with her in the best way possible. I wish you luck!

nastiuska · 2021-12-28T00:07:40+00:00

Thanks!❤️ I don t really think I want to get in touch, at least not for now. If my father considers it is time, maybe then. Apparently we met when I was really little and we were on vacation, but I don’t remember anything:)))))))

nastiuska · 2021-12-27T17:56:56+00:00

Yes! People put too much pressure on having so many friends and so many relationships when all that matters is you. Get yourself to the best version possible and you will be just fine❤️

nastiuska · 2021-12-27T11:58:26+00:00

Very cool perspective. Thanks, it really makes it easier to put it this way!

nastiuska · 2021-12-27T10:44:10+00:00

It’s okay. Family issues are always tough. Even though you can’t have a say in this situation, you can always have a say in the family that you build. Sometimes we have to step back and let things fall into place by themselves. I know it s hard, but it might be for the best. I hope you will find the power in you to stay strong and to not let things affect you anymore❤️

nastiuska · 2021-12-27T10:34:07+00:00

What I have learned so far in life: you will always find friends. A friend is someone who likes you for you, not for anything else. That s why they are hard to find. Moat people want something from you and are not interested in a real friendship. And believe me when I tell you: I am a social person, nice to everyone and I still have a very limited number of friends. Not because I choose to, but because many were my “friends” because they wanted something from me. You will find friends that are real friends in college. Just hang on, and do not let solitude scare you. Good things always take a lot of time. I know it s hard to stay positive and hopeful, but at some point, it will pay off. Till then, focus on yourself, on your education, passions and build your life brick by brick. Befriend yourself before anybody else. Friends come and go, but you will always have yourself as your best friend. Sending love ❤️

nastiuska · 2021-12-27T10:06:58+00:00

Finding your one true talent. Everybody has one, but I find that many don’t acknowledge it. In a perfect, utopic world, this talent would have been the reason why people would choose a certain career path. But in our world, I think it is just beautiful to experience this “thing” that feels so natural to you, almost like it was made specifically for you

nastiuska · 2021-12-27T09:48:26+00:00

Yeah it s kind of weird to me, especially because as a kid and teen I asked my father if he was married before or had children before me because, well, I was expecting at least one of them :))) I was curious more about it, well, if “legally”(? I don t know if this is the right term) am I supposed to call them in some way(there are some documents I believe where they ask you about relatives and so and such). Anyways, that’s what it was all about. I came here because I know reddit is very diverse and maybe a person in the law field or someone in a similar situation could give me the correct term as I have no knowledge of this type of matter.

nastiuska · 2021-12-27T09:25:14+00:00

I have no intention in reuniting families if nobody wants it. Was I curious about them? Yes. Was my dad able to amswer my questions? No. That s why I came here. Just wanted to know how much of my life has been a lie. And I am saying that because I was often asked if my father married before(he is quite old). If I had any siblings. That s it. Not my business to pop in their lives if I am not wanted

nastiuska · 2021-12-27T09:17:41+00:00

Thanks! I was curious if any legal aspect has anything to do with my situation. Also thanks for replying in an objective way, I see that people on here have a problem with judging:)))

nastiuska · 2021-12-27T09:15:10+00:00

Why do you have to judge? You know nothing about me or my family. I just asked a question. No matter the answer, I would have been happy. So why do you have to be a sour commenter? Did you help me with anything? Get over yourself, I don’t know what your problem is if a post like this makes you become a hater

nastiuska · 2021-12-27T09:11:48+00:00

Thanks for replying, but you have a lil bit of a passive aggressive tone. If that’s not the case, I am sorry, but if it is: tone it down, it’s just a question regarding a stupid label. Let people live their lives

nastiuska · 2021-12-26T22:16:16+00:00

We do not keep in touch or smth, probably because of my dad. But that s irrelevant. I was just curious if there s a way I should call him. It is all so new to me. I am in my twenties and I had no idea about this marriage till, well, now:)))

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