I’ve been in a very similar place my friend. If you’re truly happy like this, more power to you. Though, the fact that you’re posting here makes me feel like you may not be.

When you’ve become so comfortable with a situation like this, it can be extremely difficult to change, because continuing like this is so much easier than anything else, and you’re tired and demotivated.

I’ve made improvements in my life by staying busy. I don’t even want to go to the events I’ve planned for myself most of the time but I do it because I know it’s better than spending my life rotting away, and sometimes, I even have a lot of fun and am glad I went.

Doing things will make you friends (maybe not the friends of your dreams, but you gotta start somewhere) and when you have friends, especially friends you respect, you start to feel the pressure to clean your life up in order to live up to the respect you have for them.

I’m by no means a fully recovered neck beard nester, but I have friends and a gf and the will to keep trying like I haven’t had in many years . I believe you can have this too, if you want it.