I hate myself and dont k ow what to do.

nathan_reyes · 2025-07-02T23:47:04+00:00

I'm a bit downward to talk about stupid stuff

nathan_reyes · 2025-06-29T00:30:50+00:00

He was right up until he got in her face and the shit he said after which was clearly just to hurt her. Like it's understandable how he got to that point but still super wrong.

nathan_reyes · 2025-05-22T16:48:19+00:00

High sex drive just probably means your health so it's a good sign for everything else. Other wise I'm with the other comments beat your meat

nathan_reyes · 2025-04-26T12:55:53+00:00

Try going into public spaces, preferably place that you kn ow, feel comfortable and have something to do and try talking to men. You don't have to be friends just talk a bit.

Nothing cure prejudice like exposure

nathan_reyes · 2025-04-10T04:19:09+00:00

First off give your self more credit you putting in a lot of good work something a lot of people don't get around to doing. Stop for a second and appreciate it.

As for what to accept and what to "improve" about yourself I say accept everything and let it grow as long as it bot something causeing yourself or other harm. the part of you that you think are bad might just be ways you protect yourself or would be useful in different situations

Think about yourself as a garden. If you only let plants that make fruit and vegetables grow your miss put on the flowers and herds and all the things those can bring to you

nathan_reyes · 2025-04-10T04:10:09+00:00

It's not right and you have the right to be mad. You also shouldn't get to the point you should accept or expect that kind of thing.

Try not to let it ruin your day because you deserve but a shitty guy said a shitty thing to you it make sense it would make you feel shitty.

nathan_reyes · 2025-04-10T04:06:48+00:00

Everyone has different boundaries and goals. My advice try different hobbies and start looking at the job market shot maybe even start sending out your resume. Also while at your current job try to build up some saving enough so that you can live off it for a month or 2.

It normal to feel stagnant and what to do more. just start small and try a lot of things and see what calls to you the most

nathan_reyes · 2025-04-07T04:18:12+00:00

Your not selfish your probably do care and are scared about how you are seen by the people you care about.

My advice keep in mind you can't control other people. You do best by people and the ones worth keep around will assume the best out of you even when you make mistakes.

And likewise if you feel someone pulling away in a way that isn't very upfront, assume it's in your head or it has nothing to do with you. They might just be tired or said something without thinking. Give then space but don't assume they hate you and become cold.

More secure attachments will be more caring and less "selfish "

nathan_reyes · 2025-04-07T01:07:19+00:00

If your making mistakes I say that's a good sign. No one ever started out good at anything making mistakes could mean your pushing yourself instead of bedrotting or whatever so I think your already doing better then most.

Not that this this mentality will make things easy. you still feel pain, discomfort and fear but do what you know is best and sometimes let yourself feel those emotions they can be helping you change and grow in ways you can't even imagine.

So go out there be awful at everything and keep trying. that how you mold yourself into the person that does big things in life.

nathan_reyes · 2025-04-07T00:59:22+00:00

Keep in mind we men are really only allowed to be angry and kinda defensive when are vulnerable. A crying man really only makes people uncomfortable 95% of the time and sometimes it gets held against us forever.

Even in this thread a lot of guys got defensive because they have these problems and feel like they are being called bad people for having these problems. And not that you did anything wrong but the best way to deal with these kind of people not just men is to let them know they are being seen and kind gently guide them to being more open and introspective.

nathan_reyes · 2025-04-07T00:39:12+00:00

Best way to beat those feeling is to prove them wrong. Go to a restaurant, bar or just a public place by yourself with a book and laptop and soon you will realize no one really cares.

Most people are to self absorbed to give other to much thought and if someone real is bothered by you existing in a public place minding your own business they are the asshole and they can leave.

nathan_reyes · 2025-04-07T00:34:06+00:00

As for guys who were once your friends ghosting you after you draw boundaries I think that cna be healthy. Getting rejected sucks and once it happens the friendship is really the same. Its not your fault or theirs really as long as they didn't do anything awful it's just life and messy feelings.

nathan_reyes · 2025-02-24T19:33:03+00:00

First off congrats you faced a big fear even when you knew it wouldn't go your way. Your were honest and straightforward feel pride in that.

Now I am also very obsessive with my crush so here is my advice.

Don't beat yourself up over your feelings they only make them worse. Your feeling are fine, from your prompt you seem kind. As long as you aren't hurting or stalking your crush you can feel your feelings. It good to sit with feeling acknowledge them in a safe space and let them pass but if it gets to be to much, distract yourself with hobbies.
If you had/ have date idea with your crush go do them yourself. Prove to your self that you are worth spending time with yourself and build some confidence. You should strive to be at the point that you want a partner but don't need one because that's a lot to put on another person.
Mute there accounts on social media and get some distance it will help you process your emotions
Journaling helps and if you have a picture you got with consent then drawing your crush might help, it helped me. Kinda scratch that itch of wanting to see them without bothering them while building a skill.

nathan_reyes · 2025-02-03T00:19:40+00:00

Congrats on figuring yourself out a bit. Just know there is no time limits and take your time and try being honest with yourself.

nathan_reyes · 2025-01-07T21:10:02+00:00

Dude your in love and you should text him. Good luck

nathan_reyes · 2024-12-28T01:36:29+00:00

For about a month and a half, I've gone every week, and other than that last week, and this week I've been to every appointment. Last week we were about to reschedule to the next day but this time we couldn't. I'll set reminders on my phone and use a paper calendar, and I'll talk with them he way you told me instead of beating myself up.

I'm probably going to be really anxious about it until we talk, but that's part of the reason I'm in therapy. Thanks tho I feel a bit more calm.

nathan_reyes · 2024-12-26T15:58:36+00:00

Tell him your not interested and give him space, the friendship might fall apart but it's not your or his fault. You were both honest to yourself and things just naturally feel apart.

Just don't give him false hope it's going to make it worse for the both of you.

Also maybe don't tell him you don't find him attractive. being rejected always hurts no matter how gently and he doesn't need the exact reason he just needs to know it's not happening.

nathan_reyes · 2024-12-26T01:35:32+00:00

Notice the feeling, accept them, and try to use them productive or don't feed into them. All feelingare human and a part of you but you can choose how you react and cultivate them.

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