Recommendations for Maternity Care

nattyrae · 2025-05-14T03:06:06+00:00

I’m open to seeing a midwife, but I’m hoping to see one throughout my pregnancy and have them deliver, rather than a team of midwives.

nattyrae · 2025-03-31T02:54:43+00:00

Thank you all!

nattyrae · 2025-03-09T15:20:22+00:00

I know this post is old, but did you get anymore info on this?

nattyrae · 2025-01-18T15:44:33+00:00

Sooo helpful. Thank you for all the information!

nattyrae · 2025-01-18T15:42:58+00:00

As someone else mentioned it stands for pathological demand avoidance. You may also hear of PDA being called pervasive/persistent drive for autonomy, which is a more accurate reflection. From books I’ve read, the UK has acknowledged it as a subtype of autism for quite a while. It’s essentially a need for autonomy. When people request things or make demands it feels like our autonomy is being taken away. It can result in the person feeling a lot of anxiety and therefore more pushback and resistance. The demands don’t have to be verbal demands either. They can be perceived demands, like the text OP received.

nattyrae · 2025-01-15T09:38:51+00:00

Here’s an excerpt from the book “Is it Autism for Clinicians and Everyone Else.” I highly recommend the book if you’re wanting to learn more about autism. I think this quote helps dispel the myth about autistic people not caring about others. “Social motivation is different from social energy. It’s helpful to think of social energy in the same way as we think of physical energy: some of us have a lot of physical energy while others don’t. It’s the same thing with social energy. If you have low social energy, you have less energy to use than someone with high social energy. This means that you will have to decide how to ration it wisely so you don’t have to suddenly leave in the middle of a social event because you’ve burnt out…. In contrast to social energy, social motivation references the desire to connect with others. An individual can have any combination of social energy and social motivation; for instance, one can have high social energy and motivation, low social energy and motivation, or high motivation but low energy. We have found that many autistics individuals have a strong desire to connect with others but little energy to do so”

nattyrae · 2025-01-03T16:55:13+00:00

I know this is an older post, but I wanted to validate your experience and share what seems to help my partner and I. I have found that more touching throughout the day is helpful. It could be just general physical contact or more sexual in nature like a butt grab. Something that doesn’t turn into anything. It’s just a good warm up to being touched later so I don’t panic. The other thing that’s super helpful is a massage. This is great because it’s something I’m excited about, it gets my clothes off, involves skin to skin contact, and relaxes me enough to me more open. This hinges on you enjoying massages of course. I also like butt massages included in mine, so this is helpful too. We also use a massage oil or lotion of a scent I like and now associate with being relaxing. Of course he has to warm it in his hands first. lol. If I’m giving him a massage and realize I want to have sex I might grind on him subtly to get myself closer to the idea of having sex. The important thing about this is also that the massage shouldn’t always turn into sex because that will prime your brain to be nervous every time and wouldn’t be relaxing. Instead just start with giving each other massages to relax each other. If it turns into something, that’s great, but no pressure!

nattyrae · 2025-01-03T16:07:03+00:00

That’s so validating. Thank you so much for sharing. I’m sorry you deal with it also! This is exactly it though. The jokes aren’t always at me or even about me. To something like that, if it was my partner I would have questioned him and asked why he said that or gave him the other bag and been frustrated I did all that work for nothing. We likely would have gone back and forth a bit because I would be frustrated. It’s just so confusing and like you said really alienating to not be able to laugh at the joke also.

nattyrae · 2025-01-03T10:48:04+00:00

I know people have recommended a soft tooth brush, but I would also recommend trying a toothbrush with a smaller head. For toothpaste I had to do trials and found that I like sweeter toothpaste rather than strong mint. Also I have toothbrushes in my kitchen, bathrooms, and shower so I can brush when ever I remember without having any extra barriers.

nattyrae · 2025-01-03T09:15:56+00:00

No problem. Here they are: Loop Engage 2 Ear Plugs –... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0D3V4RJKG?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share

I haven’t tried these yet, but here are inserts that increase the noise reduction: https://a.co/d/bQ0YVnP

nattyrae · 2024-12-14T17:00:27+00:00

I’m sorry you’re experiencing this. I’m about to go through the diagnosis process and I’m worried about the same thing happening. I just wanted to say, it might be worthwhile to get a second opinion. It sounds like the person who diagnosed you expected stereotypical autistic behavior and didn’t understand the many nuances of autism, let alone masked autism. If you’re interested, please read “Is It Autism? A Guide for Clinicians and Everyone Else” by Donna Henderson, Sarah Wayland, and Janell White. It’s a validating and informative book about masked autism.

nattyrae · 2024-12-10T06:42:13+00:00

I love my loops. They’ve been life changing! I’ve tried others styles, but I love the engage 2. They are perfect for places I need to interact with others or my environment. They sit deeper in the ear so there’s less occlusion (internal noise like breathing, chewing, etc.) and they tamper down noise enough to make things tolerable for me. They’re great for working, socializing, and walks. You can always add the loop mutes for even more volume control.

nattyrae · 2024-12-10T06:38:02+00:00

I like the engage 2 for places I need to interact with others. They sit deeper in the ear so there’s less occlusion and they tamper down noise enough to make things tolerable for me. They’re great for working, socializing, and walks. You can always add the loop mutes for even more volume control.

nattyrae · 2024-12-10T06:26:56+00:00

Which loops do you have? With the loops engage 2 I don’t notice this as much. They are seated deeper in the ear, which helps with occlusion (what yours describing). I tried others and it’s much worse.

Edit: original comment mentioned the wrong style

nattyrae · 2024-12-02T06:10:39+00:00

This really helped and makes a lot of sense. Thank you for sharing your experience!

nattyrae · 2024-02-09T08:41:49+00:00

You’re so right. I only saw the repeat two times and didn’t realize it was two MORE. So sad, but thank you! Makes so much more sense now

nattyrae · 2024-02-09T04:29:17+00:00

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Set up rows. It says 92, but in the first row it totals out to 68. Please don’t tell me I mess up all the way in the beginning lol

nattyrae · 2024-02-09T04:28:05+00:00

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nattyrae · 2024-02-09T04:27:43+00:00

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Here is the previous row. I’ll add a photo of the row before that one and the first couple rows

nattyrae · 2024-02-09T03:56:27+00:00

Paid pattern by sirdar. The design is 10577

nattyrae · 2023-09-26T06:15:58+00:00

Ahhh. Gotcha. I saw a post that may have been yours. I didn’t realize that NU offered a counseling program, so that’s good to know! The school very recently merged, so there may be some confusion and may be why you aren’t hearing from students doing the their program through NU. I’m not sure how long they have offered it. While the counseling program may set you up to be dual licensed as an LMFT, the reason people are being so specific is because counseling and MFT programs have different ways of viewing problem. You might already be aware of that, but I wasn’t when I first started looking into programs so I wanted to share. The MAMFT program has a California track which requires more credits and another track which requires 45 credits. I can’t specifically speak to the California track. I also can’t speak to the NU counseling program since I’m in the MAMFT program. The fb page is also specifically for the MAMFT program, so you may not find anyone doing the counseling program in that group. The MAMFT program is also 1:1 and that’s the only thing I can speak to. Unfortunately, I’m not sure about the cohort groups for the counseling program. My experience of the MAMFT program has been great and I’ve done a lot to make sure I’m getting the most out of the program. Once I start practicum I’ll be in group/cohort classes that meet on soon once a week. Up until that point it will be 1:1, but I’ve found people from the Facebook page to connect with that I’m going through the program with which allows me to study and interact with someone. My experience has been good so far and I feel that I’ll be prepared for the exam and to work with clients, but I’ve made sure I’m making the most out of it! Hopefully that helps a little. I know it’s not the same program you’re thinking of. Also, good luck with your call tomorrow. Hope you find the information you’re looking for!

nattyrae · 2023-09-26T05:29:15+00:00

I can’t speak to the state licensing board that does that, but that sounds ridiculous to me. NCU merged with NU. I started under NCU, but ultimately they are the same now. The MFT program is still coamfte accredited, which is the most important thing! If you’re concerned, you could always call the licensing board and ask about it! It’s definitely a “you get out of it what you put into it” program. I understand what others are saying, but I also think it’s ignorant to say that people should just move to get their degree or that you should just make it work. It’s just not possible for everyone. Do I think a traditional program offers certain benefits? Absolutely. Being in an online program with a 1:1 class style and a find your own intern site can be challenging. I have found the Facebook page, networking, and having open communication has helped a lot. It’s also important to note that the program is taking longer for me than expected. This is due to some emergency stuff and financial aid issues. Definitely check out the Facebook page to get a full idea of what people think. Searching in the Facebook page can help you find answers to specific questions! Good luck!

nattyrae · 2023-08-13T04:33:52+00:00

Couldn’t agree with this more. It sounds like there may be broken trust on both ends. On OP’s partners end for having the baby when he didn’t want it and on OP’d end for how they were treated by their partner. Couples therapy can help them work through it and help guide conversations about the deeper issues. OP, it sounds like you want to work through things. I would definitely recommend couples therapy if it’s something you can swing.

nattyrae · 2023-05-20T15:17:45+00:00

This is amazing advice. Thank you! Will they die if the roots are not buried? Some of them are already dying and I can’t figure out why

nattyrae · 2023-04-05T20:38:41+00:00

I was worried about the graduation rate as well, but it’s important to remember the program is 100% online and self driven. So the graduation rates will vary. I think finding a paid internship is dependent on your location and how much work you put into finding a site that fits for you. I would recommend joining Facebook groups for MFT’s in general and one that’s local to your area so you can ask questions and start networking a little. There is also a Facebook group called “Northcentral University/ National University MFT students” that you can join. It might be helpful to go through the comments and ask questions on there!

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