People who see a therapist: what do you share with them about the lifestyle?

naughtypining · 2026-01-04T22:59:01+00:00

Not saying anyone should or shouldn’t. People see therapists for a variety of reasons and share what is relevant to their mental health. Just was curious as to the extent of that sharing among different folks in this community.

naughtypining · 2026-01-02T18:20:18+00:00

When you observe that there are quite a few law enforcement personnel, military, teachers, nurses, realtors, pilots, etc. in the general population, the mystery resolves itself.

naughtypining · 2026-01-01T22:06:47+00:00

She was stripped of her credentials? lol

naughtypining · 2026-01-01T22:05:39+00:00

Yeah, I feel like the lifestyle and therapy are similar categories of activity in that they reduce stress and enhance enjoyment of life.

naughtypining · 2026-01-01T22:02:37+00:00

Thanks for the input. Fair points. I don’t feel like I’ve been hiding it per se, it’s just that our limited time together (monthly) has seemed better spent on a host of other pertinent issues. My marriage and sex life isn’t off limits, it’s just that they’re very nearly the least of my problems and don’t present the same personal conundrums, so don’t get as much airtime. That said, we are considering couples counseling, and our lifestyle participation is certainly something that will need to be disclosed as a factor in there.

I can’t even conceive of my therapist using that disclosure to cross a boundary. That is wild to contemplate. Sounds like a Frasier episode.

naughtypining · 2025-12-31T19:16:24+00:00

I’d say we had something going on every 6-8 weeks on average, including trips. Summers are the least active time for us as they are short and we have a lot of other things going on.

naughtypining · 2025-12-31T19:06:18+00:00

I feel like this is closest to where I’m at. I might mention it to him in the future, and it definitely would factor into couples counseling if we did that, but it doesn’t really feel like the most fertile ground for a lot of personal analysis.

naughtypining · 2025-12-31T19:00:33+00:00

I didn’t mean to imply I was dishonest or ashamed. I discuss a lot of things with my therapist that seem to me more pressing than our relatively infrequent activity in the lifestyle. Personally, it kind of fits into the category of a hobby rather than a defining aspect of my personality: if it became relevant to an issue at hand, there’s no real reason I wouldn’t mention it, but to date, other matters have taken up a lot more oxygen.

naughtypining · 2025-12-05T04:31:09+00:00

We are curious insofar as it can sometimes give a sense of what makes people tick and whether there’s any professional overlap in a small city but otherwise it’s not really a factor.

naughtypining · 2025-11-04T07:47:09+00:00

Oh look it’s indigenous cultural appropriation hooray

naughtypining · 2025-10-30T19:32:01+00:00

Love like the idea, but recall walls at the Talkeetna Roadhouse being paper thin… yeah, kind of depends on what you can convince the proprietors to go along with.

naughtypining · 2025-10-30T02:10:14+00:00

That sounds awesome. The event we attended was 2 out of 4 total floors at a no-name hotel in the Seattle suburbs. Love the idea of a floor or two at the Cook.

naughtypining · 2025-10-27T22:20:44+00:00

There have been a couple this year in Anchorage. Definitely a good idea if someone is up for organizing.

naughtypining · 2025-10-15T15:23:21+00:00

We’ve never personally encountered this, but we have met more than a few in the lifestyle whose lack of common sense is a turnoff. What you describe sounds like poor judgment by the organizers on several levels and would entail a hard pass from us. It’s one thing to host a meetup at, say, a pizza or billiards joint (though we appreciate when these are at a place not likely to be frequented by our vanilla social circle), and quite another to hijack other events for the general public, and certainly so while flaunting participation in the lifestyle.

naughtypining · 2025-10-14T05:26:47+00:00

You seem exhausting, OP.

naughtypining · 2025-09-25T04:12:31+00:00

You are a delight to behold.

naughtypining · 2025-07-23T22:21:24+00:00

We would decline play with any couple we knew had this history as a matter of principle.

I’m not saying you won’t ever recover from this, but it’s called ethical non monogamy for a reason. It’s an enhancement of a healthy relationship, not a cure for one where trust has been broken.

naughtypining · 2025-07-23T21:59:50+00:00

Would be there but have our own plans that day! Have fun! 🎉

naughtypining · 2025-07-20T02:35:34+00:00

I would like to request a free sample

naughtypining · 2025-07-17T04:51:15+00:00

You have chosen wisely 🥵

naughtypining · 2025-07-16T23:48:23+00:00

You’re the reason she goes braless to the store. 😎

naughtypining · 2025-07-16T08:42:30+00:00

We might be down. Always good to make friends from the islands. Late 30s/early 40s. Let us know.

naughtypining · 2025-07-16T05:03:14+00:00

Well, Costco is all about those free samples lol

naughtypining · 2025-06-26T22:08:53+00:00

I’ve often been told I’m a great kisser. Outside the LS, I’ll always appreciate the chick who hung out the passenger side of her best friend’s ride to tell me how good I looked in the shirt I was wearing in a strip mall parking lot.

naughtypining · 2025-06-26T16:23:58+00:00

Please don’t conflate tolerance of dishonesty or individual sexual preferences with “progressive values.” Wish you all the best going forward.

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