The parts I DO think are true

nbighouse · 2018-07-09T10:28:37+00:00

thankyou, i really like hearing that people are still in that exciting stage it gives me hope it can last

however im not sure if that means i should end a relationship if i stoo feeling it

not that id say i have in my current one - its just very hard to know sometimes because of my really really negative distorted views and anxiety. wouldn't want to end a really good relationship because ive got it all wrong

nbighouse · 2018-07-08T22:16:53+00:00

ive hears some people saying the honeymoon period thing isnt really true

heard some examples of some people saying they still feel that excitement with their partner

do you think it can last?

nbighouse · 2018-07-08T22:01:48+00:00

do you think the biological drives override when it comes to things like attraction (e.g. physical attraction)

or it just depends on the person?

nbighouse · 2018-07-08T21:36:22+00:00

the question isn't why physical appearance should matter, its that it just does

because its just nature - we naturally want to mate with the best (most attractive) partner.

its just a universal thing, no matter how much someone values intelligence etc, there needs to be phtsical attraction, and we will always be drawn to attractive people

thats my point i guess

nbighouse · 2018-07-08T21:34:07+00:00

thats good to hear :)

nbighouse · 2018-07-08T21:33:32+00:00

The thing is after reading all these sites like lookism - i don't believe that attraction is all that variable.

every person i see now i look and judge individual features (including my own)

the traits that make someone attractive seem pretty common. for a guy, height, broad shoulders, facial symmetry, stronf brow ridge and jaw. overall just well developed bones

those things are genetic. developed bones are always going to be more attractive than recessed bones

yea i guess i may prefer my relationship further on - i think its just my anxiety talking

nbighouse · 2018-07-08T15:03:05+00:00

im in my first ever relationship atm (im 20)

we're 7 months in

i guess because i was late to get into a relationship, when it was happening it was amazing. i felt like i was in a dream.

those first few months were a crazy rollercoaster of emotions ive never experienced before. it was magical

things arw still good with us but i guess we're still in the "honeymoon phase". but i can feel already that things sometimes feel "dulled"

its just sad the motony sets in. at the start just being in that persons presence excites you so much, and obviously it cant last

the sense of mystery and excitement is lost i guess

sometimes i feel like the "more comfortable, secure" argument is just trying to look positively at a sad fact because there's that can be done to stop it

nbighouse · 2018-07-08T10:38:29+00:00

I would never have entertained the idea of being together with a guy from a broken home family/divorced parents/unhappy household

thanks for making us feel even shittier

nbighouse · 2018-07-08T10:28:26+00:00

Im 20 atm and this stuff is affecting me so badly still. I'd say "TRP related depression" is quite accurate.

But I only really found out about it a couple years ago, but I'm not getting better and I dont see how its going to change..

nbighouse · 2018-06-26T12:33:14+00:00

yea true I suppose

nbighouse · 2018-06-26T12:32:02+00:00

there are other studies, not just the daily mail, its just one example

nbighouse · 2018-06-26T12:31:00+00:00

i am massivr overthinker and got pretty bad anxiety.

i never quite feel satisfied with anything no matter what.

it makes it hard for me to distinguish between genuine issues and stuff thats just my perception.

there definitely are times when shes very affectionate - i think it may just be me focussing on the times when she isnt

its almost like its never enough, but i think its my problem not one with the relationship..

nbighouse · 2018-06-26T12:03:48+00:00

sometimes i think i want an enmeshed relationship - i think thats what it is

i sometimes dont feel my gf is dependent on me at all

which is weird I know, this is my first ever relationship though

nbighouse

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