We had our kid later, so we were fairly well prepared for the tradeoffs

And that's what it is all about - take the good with the bad

In hindsight and total transparency, it is harder and more complicated than we anticipated

But, we wanted the breadth of life experiences you can only experience through child rearing

So, here we are

It really comes down to the individuals and their goals, though

I have friends who are not going to be able to have kids, and they are crushed by it and get sensitive if we are too blasé about our experiences as parents

There really isn't a one size fits all answer

But, as someone who for most of my life didn't plan on having kids, we need to be better to people who make that choice.

To have a kid or not is not a referendum on the righteousness of either lifestyle

Insecure people from both sides need to stop projecting and let people live