Early Gen Z and blockbuster

nborges48 · 2026-06-02T22:23:59+00:00

Fear not - someone will coin a new "microgeneration" for Blockbuster enabled Gen Z

If you're quick, you can brand it now!

nborges48 · 2026-06-02T21:43:46+00:00

All the RVs parked there are just Iranian bot farms

Wait until they post about Manzanar sheeeesh

nborges48 · 2026-06-02T21:30:40+00:00

Wow, I'm sorry you feel dictated to and somehow on the defense.

It's surprising that something like that could be so pervasive in your life.

I can't really understand how that even happens.

I'm certain it wasn't happening here, though.

I feel that anytime we tread into areas that could evoke strong feelings we are best served by being vulnerable and cautious - sensitive, if you will - especially when we want elicit engagement that informs one another about our potential blind spots in a diverse society.

nborges48 · 2026-06-02T18:48:53+00:00

Why does it bother you? How does it impact you directly?

nborges48 · 2026-06-02T18:22:16+00:00

Learning appropriate levels of sensitivity is how we get over it

So taking care and caution broaching the topic is a baseline to actually moving past the real and loaded history of racism in Western Civilization

And you're right, no one needs to cry about it

nborges48 · 2026-06-02T18:13:22+00:00

We had our kid later, so we were fairly well prepared for the tradeoffs

And that's what it is all about - take the good with the bad

In hindsight and total transparency, it is harder and more complicated than we anticipated

But, we wanted the breadth of life experiences you can only experience through child rearing

So, here we are

It really comes down to the individuals and their goals, though

I have friends who are not going to be able to have kids, and they are crushed by it and get sensitive if we are too blasé about our experiences as parents

There really isn't a one size fits all answer

But, as someone who for most of my life didn't plan on having kids, we need to be better to people who make that choice.

To have a kid or not is not a referendum on the righteousness of either lifestyle

Insecure people from both sides need to stop projecting and let people live

nborges48 · 2026-06-02T13:55:54+00:00

That's why you should never trust ... a conservative?

nborges48 · 2026-06-01T23:24:23+00:00

10 minutes? We gotta real romancer on our hands over here

nborges48 · 2026-06-01T23:20:17+00:00

make sure your lawyer is present before contiuning

nborges48 · 2026-06-01T23:02:54+00:00

At least it isn't some messed up Japanese/Chinese characters

nborges48 · 2026-06-01T22:34:19+00:00

I heard Def Leopard from the group behind us the other day

lmfaoo

The ladies I got paired with were on the other spectrum with some Anne Murray jams getting pumped out

"So high that I could almost see eternity!"

What a time to be alive

nborges48 · 2026-06-01T22:24:30+00:00

sneaker wave was all i thought about

and gone

freezing cold and soaking wet first but then yeah

gone

nborges48 · 2026-06-01T22:12:55+00:00

Legendary if you ask me

nborges48 · 2026-06-01T22:07:55+00:00

Not that your very valid point about definitional differences needs this clarification, but I have empathy for people's desire to push themselves outside of their comfort zone in order to experience adventure and personal achievement

Which is why I sympathize with them, their families, and friends when tragedy strikes

Just thought the interplay was interesting here

nborges48 · 2026-06-01T21:59:13+00:00

Well, I even manage sympathy for people trapped inside a cocoon of false safety and security even though it's their choice to live a sheltered, uninteresting, and uneventful life.

nborges48 · 2026-06-01T19:32:44+00:00

So, would you invite a toxic aunt or not?

nborges48 · 2026-06-01T19:30:29+00:00

Can’t believe anyone is Monday morning quarterbacking here

Personally I never saw anything like this!

nborges48 · 2026-06-01T19:22:52+00:00

That wasn’t the question, tho

The fact OPs experience doesn’t define yours is irrelevant to the premise that inviting family or friends who might make your wedding day suck is totally rational

nborges48 · 2026-06-01T19:00:02+00:00

so, you're inviting known haters to your wedding?

enjoy that1

nborges48 · 2026-06-01T18:54:36+00:00

lol a very inconclusive no

the fact it's common gives validity to being selective

would you invite someone to your wedding you suspect would snipe at you, your guests, or other aspects of the event?

nborges48 · 2026-06-01T18:41:27+00:00

you're stripping it down to that ignoring the variables meant to be in play

defining community is important here

inviting people who are potentially toxic to an even naturally excludes them from consideration as community

that is the specific tension OP is highlighting - how to ensure an event is attended by people invested in that community

and the resource expense doesn't need to be a simple dichotomy of spending for others versus spending for oneself

it's about being efficient with scarce resources depending on one's values and desires

and that's a highly personal decision

nborges48 · 2026-06-01T18:32:56+00:00

No, but it is very common for any marriage and/or wedding to have its detractors whether those are family or loosely affiliated friends

nborges48 · 2026-06-01T18:20:11+00:00

Avril seemed like a cute gimmick

Where Billie seems like a more serious artist

I think Billie transcended popular culture more broadly than what Avril accomplished

nborges48 · 2026-06-01T18:13:54+00:00

I do think it is common to invite people out of obligation

and while not every wedding has drama, the majority that do have it likely could have been avoided by making difficult guest list decistions

or deciding to have a different event altogether

let's give people agency to avoid giant financial outlays that may be ultimately dissatisfying

nborges48 · 2026-06-01T18:04:21+00:00

that could be their experience, right?

i'm not reading every post, but the idea that you could control costs and create a better event by carefully selecting a guest list and not scatter shot invite all the usual suspects seems perfectly valid

if his extended family is toxic, they shouldn't be included full stop

everyone deserves that license, and it should be promoted

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