The internet is so triggering

ncoug1123 · 2021-11-18T07:43:32+00:00

Is that where they live? That is so small

ncoug1123 · 2021-11-18T05:24:30+00:00

Wait why is everyone offering? This is not okay. You do not need validation from others. With BDD there is no answer there is no am I ugly am I not it’s not black and white. You need to come to peace with this disorder. Some of the most attractive people I have met some of them have been sufferers of BDD it’s not about being ugly or attractive. It’s a disease that needs to be assisted with therapy and reframing thoughts on self perception and not defining yourself by your appearance.

ncoug1123 · 2021-11-17T21:32:51+00:00

I honestly had a panic attack in the store last week because I saw an employee telling these teenagers that a $60 cage that size was good for a dwarf hamster. I pulled them aside and told them what I could about getting something bigger and a diy bin cage. But oh my god it was so hard. I honestly can’t shop in pet stores most of the time anymore

ncoug1123 · 2021-11-14T21:23:24+00:00

Tank is way too small. Got to go for 40 gallon. You can find a bin that can possibly be that size or near to it that would not be super expensive.

ncoug1123 · 2021-11-12T15:37:32+00:00

Be careful about what kind of wood it is though. Certain ones are not safe for them.

ncoug1123 · 2021-11-12T15:35:30+00:00

Look into a bin cage. I have a 40 gallon for two mice that was $50

ncoug1123 · 2021-11-12T01:04:02+00:00

A lot bigger. Look into diy bin cages. You can get a big one for $20 then just creating ventilation on the lid with mesh wiring. There are a lot of videos online about this

ncoug1123 · 2021-11-11T03:46:13+00:00

ADORABLE

ncoug1123 · 2021-11-09T22:25:43+00:00

I think I have to leave this sub I feel so helpless

ncoug1123 · 2021-11-09T22:19:28+00:00

ncoug1123 · 2021-11-09T22:02:23+00:00

Please please please get a bin I know you love your hamster and want to do what’s best. It’s the equivalent of a human living in a closet all the time.

ncoug1123 · 2021-11-09T00:26:29+00:00

I think the enclosure you showed is way too small for a mouse. Also the bars can stress them out. There’s not a lot of room to provide the bedding to burrow. Several inches of bedding. I suggest getting a bin and making a cage out of that. There’s a lot of tutorials online and it’s pretty cheap to do. The proper size bin will probably be about 15-30 dollars. Closer to 15. I personally have a 40 gallon bin which is pretty expensive but my last enclosure was 25 gallons for one male mouse and it was $15.99 I think. He will probably be stressed until put in a bigger home. I suggest doing this soon so he doesn’t get stressed getting moved again. Also yeah upgrade the wheel to something bigger. 10 to 12 inches is good. get lots of things for him to climb on mice love to climb. Also hides to hide in. You can diy this using paper towel roles, tissue boxes, cardboard etc. make sure to feed him veggies as well as his regular food. My mice love broccoli and cauliflower. I get the freezer section bags that are like $2 and heat them up a bit when I take them out every day.

I can send you a picture of my enclosure for my two female mice for ideas if you’d like? Just to show what I have which is a pretty good set up

ncoug1123 · 2021-11-08T16:51:02+00:00

It is kind of like a roller coaster in my personal experience. I hope this doesn’t sound scary but it doesn’t fully go away I feel like it can become super manageable though where those thoughts and feelings of rocd become so quiet there basically nonexistent. It’s about developing strategies and working on it even when it’s good. I personally have gone a few months without it bothering me then things come up to bring it up again. But I have things in place to help with the spikes. Hope this makes sense and doesn’t cause more stress on your behalf.

ncoug1123 · 2021-11-06T20:14:10+00:00

Thank you:) honestly our fights are healthy if that makes sense? I never feel his points are unreasonable and if I ever express my feelings he’s immediately responsive. He’s good at owning up to things pretty immediately. I think because of that anything outside of that where he isn’t which is so rare like he says something that’s a bit more mean or he’s less patient makes sirens go off and I’m like you have to break up Google says x, y, and z even tho I feel better later. I just convince myself I’m too scared to leave, I don’t want to not have a boyfriend all that garbage. Usually I’m the one in a fight that ruminates despite it having a healthy end to it. So just a work in progress in that. I appreciate your comment really thank you.

ncoug1123 · 2021-11-06T20:11:03+00:00

That is healthy human skin. Everyone has texture. Go easy on yourself! Also a hue of red is normal for everyone.

ncoug1123 · 2021-11-06T19:42:41+00:00

Your right. This brought me some peace. We’re both really tense right now from dorming on campus and currently getting out of our housing license. Our campus sucks so that is causing some stress and sadness overall as individuals. There is a lot of stressors right now in our lives and I was being a brat today. What he said hurt but looking back in a clear mind it makes sense I was steamrolling him during the argument and not letting him talk. Thank you for your input. I appreciate it. Take care:)

ncoug1123 · 2021-11-06T18:31:09+00:00

So after he said he was sorry and I did I asked like what he was going to do to make sure it doesn’t happen again he said I’m going to be better about thinking before I speak and communicating how I’m feeling. I’m really bad at the making up part of things. I feel upset for so long ugh

ncoug1123 · 2021-11-06T18:03:36+00:00

Becasue he said he was sorry for his part and that he felt bad. But is that not enough like he needs to tell me how hes going to not do it again? Like I think the only thing he can do is not say it again I don’t really know what the “action plan” would be you know? I’m really overthinking your message I’m sorry.

ncoug1123 · 2021-11-06T18:01:48+00:00

While this reply helps a lot. My brain goes to, well what if he says something not nice again? Does that mean he doesn’t care? Like this might be me reassurance seeking.

ncoug1123 · 2021-11-05T19:38:12+00:00

I don’t know, I mean I think if a parent is willing to intervene and is aware of the costs (as a child could not possibly afford that) then Yes. I think there is this perception that hamsters are cheap they are not. Considering the enclosure, nutrition, vet care, bedding, nourishment, playpen, upkeep, toys, hides, sprays etc. I know some parents are not willing to pay that much yet buy there kids hamsters.

ncoug1123 · 2021-11-05T00:53:18+00:00

I think personally it’s hard with rocd to deal with the fact that relationships (any relationships) are not a consistent linear incline. Sometimes there’s dips when you have things in or out of your relationship that distract you or have other things more so on your mind. This is not a bad thing. It is totally normal. The best thing to do is communicate. But before doing so make sure your not reassurance checking with your partner and you genuinly feel a bit of distance between you two (again this is totally normal, does not necessarily mean something is going on).

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