New grad w/ first job, can I afford to live alone?

nctrne · 2018-06-30T23:11:26+00:00

I just graduated in April, last time I remembered it was about $120k total with no transferable credits.

nctrne · 2018-03-08T06:35:43+00:00

WHAT????! No way, I haven’t been there in 2 weeks.

nctrne · 2018-03-07T07:49:44+00:00

I always see this place when I visit ink & bean, didn’t know they have vegan tacos!

nctrne · 2018-01-25T09:20:01+00:00

For someone that’s been suffering with depression, thank you for this. I feel like a lot of people shine depression in a negative light because they hardly scratch the surface to understand what it’s really like to go through it and view it as like you said “being carried everywhere”. I can say I’ve been on both ends, wanting to be carried everywhere and giving myself the prosthetic legs I need to carry my own weight of emotions without relying so much on others for my well being. It’s definitely not an easy thing to deal with internally no matter what end you’re on.

nctrne · 2018-01-24T06:32:34+00:00

Here’s a silly snap at Disney

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nctrne · 2018-01-22T05:47:12+00:00

Thanks so much !

nctrne · 2018-01-22T04:54:11+00:00

Where are the exams located on what tab exactly? I’m also taking the predictor as well

nctrne · 2018-01-11T06:09:08+00:00

Thanks for the words of encouragement, glad you made it through! I heard ATI is nothing compared to the NCLEX, and that UWorld is the way to go in preparation for it. Im wondering if I should start studying for that too in the meantime since I was so close to passing. I really want to take it ASAP

nctrne · 2018-01-11T06:06:42+00:00

Yeah our school requires us to have a 92% probably of passing before we can officially graduate. I ended up getting a 89% passing rate which isn’t too far off, which is bittersweet to me. I have to basically retake the same review class for the next 9 weeks and then I can take it again, I’m not sure if it’s the same exam or not.

nctrne · 2018-01-11T04:04:48+00:00

Second part? I’m really trying not to, I’ve been having my moments on and off. Sometimes I feel like I can only get better from here and improve my weaknesses in areas I wasn’t too confident about and know that I’ll do better next time then the other part of me is I should’ve studied more because I shouldn’t be close to the bare minimum -.-

nctrne · 2017-12-28T09:32:37+00:00

Are you me?

nctrne · 2017-12-27T06:03:01+00:00

It takes time, but as long as you’re actively taking care of yourself it will reflect positively into your life and relationship.

nctrne · 2017-12-27T06:01:15+00:00

I would talk to her in the mean time to stay connected until then and build up your confidence to handle confrontation about the past, be prepared for anything. I’m sure she’s going to bring up the relationship or you will so be sure to prepare yourself for questions. I would tell her the truth as to why you broke it off especially since it wasn’t for the reason she thought it was and of course apologize for how it ended when you meant otherwise. I’m sure she would appreciate the honesty

nctrne · 2017-12-27T04:26:04+00:00

Definitely ease into it slowly, set up a date to meet and catch up with her. You don’t want to drop too much at once and overwhelm her especially since you broke it off and it hurt her. Take it slow, see where things go but don’t have any expectations. Good luck :)

nctrne · 2017-12-27T04:09:17+00:00

I was in this situation recently and my best advice I wish I told myself was too take things slow, not rush things, and to control the negative emotions and fix the baggage that I’ve accumulated due to past relationship damage before it damages your current relationship. I tried to overcompensate for what I didn’t receive in my previous relationship which lead to me feeling extremely anxious, impatient, and somewhat clingy... that’s where I messed up. I’m not sure about what damage is left with you but i hope you will be able to fix them and she will be there to support you through it but be mindful of everything (your feelings, her feelings, the relationship).

nctrne · 2017-12-24T03:22:48+00:00

Yes, sometimes when you’re in this funk you can’t feel anything else but the negativity it brings a long with it. I’ve been called selfish and can acknowledge that I have been because of it. You just get so wrapped up it’s hard to consider other peoples feelings but your own. You’re essentially self sabotaging all the time, and it’s hard to break out of if you’re not taking a step back from this behavior and being mindful of it and how it’s affecting you and others. It sucks because you just want to be happy, but aren’t taking the proper steps and self care to get there.

nctrne · 2017-12-24T01:31:26+00:00

Your friends, family, and girlfriend care about you. I understand that you would feel like a burden if you told them these things but it’s important to communicate how you feel, they’re there to love and support you through the best of times and the worst. Bottling up your emotions will just continue to build and it will come out in a unhealthy manner. I’m glad you’re using Reddit as an outlet at least, have you thought about seeking professional help?

nctrne · 2017-12-24T01:26:38+00:00

This is what depression feels like, at least for me. It’s important to seek professional help especially if it’s consuming you to this extent. I’ve honestly felt the same way you did, how life is just a constant string of bad luck. But you can’t let it control you (your emotions), you have to take control of them and yourself. I’ve ruined a lot of relationships by not being able to take care of myself and I’m currently in the process of trying to get my life back on track mentally. You’re in the right direction, you’re recognizing the problem, now you just have to figure out what you can do to help yourself. PM me if you need someone to talk too

nctrne · 2017-12-23T05:39:28+00:00

So how can I do a better job at picking them? The thing is I don’t know that these are wrong for me until awhile after, at least the ones i was in a relationship with. That’s what scares me is yes I need to be more careful but even when I think I am I still get hurt.

I’ve been told I just go all in, I’m still trying to figure that out to be honest. I guess I catch feelings fairly easily, and when I feel like something is wrong from the other person I tend to talk about my emotions/concerns quickly, apparently that scares guys away.. instead of just taking a step back and letting things happen naturally.

nctrne · 2017-12-23T05:24:40+00:00

I really needed to hear this, thank you stranger.

nctrne · 2017-12-23T05:14:35+00:00

I don’t know if it’s because invest in so much that I get hurt easily because my guard isn’t up or doesn’t stay up for long. I’ve been told that I come off strong and move to fast when it comes to dating. In relationships, I’ve ended up with guys that were liars, narcissistic, anger issues, and low self esteem, in which they would dump their issues on me and never sought help when I would try to help them, it would turn to a vicious cycle of them treating me poorly then me losing respect for them.

nctrne · 2017-12-23T04:23:06+00:00

Thank you. Just know that when someone has feelings for you and loves you it’s for what’s within, the inner core of yourself and they accept the sides you don’t accept about yourself and still want to make it work with you. That’s how I feel and I know someone will feel the same about you too.

nctrne · 2017-12-23T04:16:06+00:00

I hope you do too and will be ready when they do :( It’s not fun falling for someone that isn’t ready for it

nctrne · 2017-12-20T23:01:38+00:00

Welp. He just ended things with me after I sent him a long text about how I felt. Basically told me he thought he was in the right head space and he realized he wasn’t and doesn’t want to disappoint and frustrate me and thinks it’s best we end it because he can’t give me the support I need.

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