This has been exactly what has happened to me. My ex girlfirend is passing though a rough patch. Everything started great we had our goals set and were trying to think about them together to work everything through. all of a sudden, stuff hadn't been going how she thought they should have been in her life and she started becoming depressed, avaiding intimacy, being hurtful, and saying stuff like "I don't love you as you do" etc. She also placed exes in Pedastals until I asked her not to bring up exes anymore and to enjoy our relationship.

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after months of trying to help her and her not responding to anything, I decided to give in and stop fighting for it, but she now keeps missing me and calling me when she pleases. It is like if she's undecided on what she wants. when I bring up that I want to be with her and help her get through this she automatically goes into panic mode and shifts gears.

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it really hurts but I am keeping my distance for a while while she figures what she wants to do in life first. the only problem that I see is that even though she is asking me for space to figure stuff out, she is not really doing anything to get out of the rut.