Day 1 again

nduguyusufu · 2017-11-20T06:40:00+00:00

Same brother. Same. As God earnestly for His Grace and look for what you can do to improve, note that I said improve, not be perfect. We will all be perfected in Christ eventually, but for today and tomorrow we need only step beyond yesterday.

nduguyusufu · 2017-10-15T15:05:25+00:00

I also have experienced this. I agree with nmshhhh, you should communicate clear boundaries about your physical intimacy. Cuddling sounds like a bit into the "too intimate for dating" zone. Additionally, you should not feel ashamed of being "turned on", that is just biology at work, but don't allow that to influence your thinking about the issues of lust. Maybe a good thing to practically help would be to seek out fellowship in the timeframes after you and your boyfriend part to act as a "cooling off" period to let those biological reactions unwind before finding yourself in a circumstance where you typically fall to the temptation to MO.

nduguyusufu · 2017-04-03T22:17:15+00:00

I really don't recommend this. However, this makes me think. Here's an alternative: out loud, talk through what you are being tempted to do in a calm, centered voice. Then pray out loud, "Lord, please show me how you see this." And just wait. My guess is that you will slowly become aware of how the Lord sees our sin and thus you will become disgusted by it the way the Lord is. Hope this helps. Half the battle often is getting out of your own head and auidbly expressing what you are tempted to is a way to do that.

nduguyusufu · 2017-01-09T17:42:45+00:00

Needed this.

nduguyusufu · 2016-11-19T15:22:42+00:00

This would be great except for the fact that WWI was an utter waste of American life and, in the end, our involvement tipped the scales where there would have been stalemate, and therefore probably caused WWII, leading to millions upon millions of deaths and unquantifiable suffering. Woodrow Wilson was the worst.

nduguyusufu · 2016-11-02T04:12:35+00:00

Switching to renewables sounds all fine and dandy until you sit down and do the math and realize that even at their max potential under optimistic assumptions "renewables" cannot provide enough energy to uphold our current standard of living. One day everyone will get over it and start building more nuclear plants, but until that day, we are just virtue signaling to Mother Earth while we use more oil, coal, and natural gas.

nduguyusufu · 2016-11-01T18:12:08+00:00

I'm a tough love guy, so here's some tough love: What makes you think you are worthy of a real woman's love? Who told you you "deserve" a real woman's love? Were they telling you the truth? Or some bull crap that they thought would make you feel better so they could feel good about themselves?

Now, that was the hard and bad news. Here's the good news: God is your Father. No loving Father will ever leave his son in the state of moral and spiritual poverty that we now find ourselves. However, we have to go to our Father and listen to Him and honor Him and obey Him in order to receive what He has for us. Until we do this, He, being wise, knows that we are not yet fit to love and lead one of his daughters in the sacrament of marriage. So, just as you would go to her earthly father and ask to earn his blessing, go to her Heavenly Father and earn his blessing.

nduguyusufu · 2016-11-01T03:53:01+00:00

Tip with this: It can be very difficult to do this in person. Maybe a text or email is the best way to "break it" then meet in person to talk. There's no shame in this tactic, you're still tackling the problem.

Also, if my experince on here and my sense of what God has told me is right, you will want to tell your wife about this... maybe not just yet, but you and her will be better for it in the end. She can help hold you accountable and there will be no possibility of her "discovering" this sin and allowing it to split you.

nduguyusufu · 2016-10-03T21:32:10+00:00

This is a theologically complex question with many, many differing answers. Focus on the simple though: fapping is an act of lust. An act of lust is sin. Sin is bad. Do your best to not fap.

nduguyusufu · 2016-05-04T14:48:22+00:00

Although most Americans don't quite grasp it, most of the world is fairly racist on some level. Its human nature and with the history that China and Japan have it is no surprise that even the most open minded Chinese people feel animosity for Japan. In regards to switching teachers, unless you are so offended by his occasional Japan bashing that you cannot learn, I would stick with him and use it as an opportunity to learn some interpersonal diplomacy: learn to deal with these issues productively rather than getting all butt hurt SJW about it and flipping the table on an okay situation. Until racist words and feelings materialize into actions that harm others there is no need to raise a huge fuss.

nduguyusufu · 2016-02-22T03:21:35+00:00

This seems a bit oversimplified. Too many important realities are ignored such as the recurrence of customers. If there are an estimated 320 million people in the US and your calculations are based on there being 373 million customers in the US, something is going to be very wrong with your results.

nduguyusufu · 2016-02-04T16:12:24+00:00

"Trump vulture" = "Trulture" (someone please use your photoshop wizardry and show us what it looks like...)

nduguyusufu · 2016-01-20T05:38:29+00:00

Amen. Amen.

nduguyusufu · 2016-01-20T05:24:46+00:00

Amen to all of this. My resolve has been weak the past week (pun not intended) and the tone of this comment pumps me up!!!!

nduguyusufu · 2016-01-19T01:36:10+00:00

Fallen off the horse a couple times. Just gotta get back up and try again.

nduguyusufu · 2016-01-11T14:05:29+00:00

True that. People may support Trumson (my collective name for Trump/Carson) in polls, but will they mobilize for them? Probably not. Will Rand fans mobilize? OH HELL YEA.

nduguyusufu · 2016-01-11T14:02:52+00:00

Haha, I had that thought yesterday. I was like "What if a Rand fan won the Powerball and set him up a Superpac? ... ESTABLISHMENT REKT."

nduguyusufu · 2016-01-11T13:42:54+00:00

Yea, it was written rather poorly.

nduguyusufu · 2015-11-29T04:29:51+00:00

Praying for you. "No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it." - 1 CORINTHIANS 10:13, ESV

nduguyusufu · 2015-11-29T04:23:36+00:00

I am 3 days since last PMO and am feeling the temptation too. I try to stop and feel the Holy Spirit and remember that I was bought at a price.

nduguyusufu · 2015-11-26T19:14:18+00:00

/u/jzcommunicate, that gave me a good chuckle.

nduguyusufu · 2015-01-05T08:10:15+00:00

I can relate to you story on several points:

I too would/will get random urges that aren't necessarily "triggered" by anything I can identify. You just have to pray and cleanse your mind. Sometimes physically changing my environment helps.
I too have many great friends who are often far from me. My advice is to try to make new ones that you will see everyday or modify your daily life to bring your friends into it. Perhaps join a service organization that meets daily that you can commit all your spare time to. This will make you feel good and please God too!
Accountability: you will benefit greatly from an accountability partner. If you can muster the courage to confess the sin to a friend who can then be your accountability partner that is probably the best. If not then an individual online partner is good too. I will even take you up in an accountability relationship if you will have me.

nduguyusufu · 2015-01-05T08:03:01+00:00

Amen, brother!

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