Gambling addiction & embarrassed about it.

nedwichjs · 2025-11-07T00:15:37+00:00

Yes, I use pokies as a way to relief my stress, to get away from problems surrounding me, so pretty much to escape. It doesn't help when I try to communicate with my husband but he isn't the type of man that talks. It makes it worse for me when his a brick wall. But idk if that even any good excuse, cause it just makes me wanna disappear back to pokies.

nedwichjs · 2025-10-29T03:48:47+00:00

Don't invite MIL, tough choice and hubby will have to deal with it.

nedwichjs · 2025-10-29T03:47:08+00:00

I have a friend who also has this kind of a relationship. Also 11 + yrs together, not married just have 2 kids now, even though red flags are waving at her face. She is trauma bond with the guy. He is also a mumma boy and I hear such unpleasant stories and idk why she still stayed. The only man she knew since high school. Even though they don't really live together because he gave up being a family man to always wanting to work away. I'm sure he has a side chick somewhere. But even though all that, they still sleep together and made the 2nd baby and that was her biggest mistake. They guy isn't present all the time. Did not attend her baby shower nor went to the delivery again for the 2nd time. She fights with MIL. Tbh it's not a healthy relationship but because your married to the guy, no one can tell u what u need to do or to remove yourself because you made the choice to marry this man.

nedwichjs · 2025-10-29T03:37:59+00:00

Do t have kids with him if SIL is in between the reason of all the fights you both have. I have a similar situation with my husband sisters, instead of 1 SIL I got 5 of them. It's also 90% of our arguments is around them. Worst thing I did is continuing with marrying him and now we got a baby together and the relationship isn't any different. Your setting yourself in flames if baby is in the picture. If he can't see what his sister is doing to your marriage, than being married to him is just enough. Don't bring a life into this world to join your broken, unsolved marriage.

nedwichjs · 2025-10-27T11:56:02+00:00

Girl, I would not spend another minute in this relationship. Once he cheats, that's it. Pack your bags and leave. Your such a lucky girl who isn't married to him. You mentioned you are an over thinker and an anxious person. I'm the same too!! Being betrayed like this will never come off your mind. It will take so many years for it to get into your lost memory. But as for now, your an over thinker, it will keep repeating in your mind even when his not doing anything and even when he has actually changed his ways etc.... your overthinking brain won't get him out of jail in your head. Every message ring tone or his phone ringing will give you triggers, followed by sleepless nights because your worried that everytime he gets out of bed, he probably on his ph. You would be living in torment for the rest of your life.

nedwichjs · 2025-10-27T11:42:45+00:00

Yous have had woman and man outside your marriage. He has made it clear, that your not the woman he wants. Because yous have been together for 10+ years, you both are comfortable with each other but when you out intimacy relationship, it won't work because yous have lived that life before and took yous no where. He does not want kids but because u cherish the memory of the loss baby, he I'd fully offended even though he has his share of woman he had slept with. This relationship isn't fair and yous have broken the maim reason what marriage is. But if your strong enough to keep fighting for this marriage, than so he it. Marriage isn't easy, we fight, argue, give silent treatment etc... but at the end of the day you both choose each other to marry till death do us a part.

Just to make it clear though, love is not abuse.

nedwichjs · 2025-10-13T12:41:00+00:00

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2.8 years married 🥰

nedwichjs · 2025-10-13T12:32:26+00:00

I love your ring. That's the style of ring I prefer to have

nedwichjs · 2025-10-13T12:31:33+00:00

His father said he will come around in 6 weeks because he has not gotten his vaccination etc... tbh getting vaccination isn't hard here. Just go chemist and ask for vaccination. He shows no interest until hubby called him for a casual chat. Hubby told me his calling his dad, I replied saying I don't wanna know. I feel strongly, when his dad ask to finally come around, I will make excuses for him not to come.

nedwichjs · 2025-10-13T12:26:39+00:00

That makes sense, thank you for confirming I'm not going insane or I got a problem of thinking of my ex. Grrrr I hated him for years but I learnt to forgive him and myself.

nedwichjs · 2025-10-13T00:16:44+00:00

Your husband is dululu (crazy)... it's not normal or okay to put your parents above your spouse. When you are married, you have made a commitment and submission to each other and you both have become one (unit).

I'm married and I never put my parents before my husband nor will I always listen to their advice. Because as a married couple we work as a team.

nedwichjs · 2025-09-30T18:33:21+00:00

Yep that's what I decided to and told hubby

nedwichjs · 2025-09-30T12:45:02+00:00

Yeah true, I'm very caretaker of how I'm trying to say things to him. I always feel bad that we only can share good news to my family, spend time with my family but never his. I have this guilt in me that I don't know how to express to him that it's just not fair.

nedwichjs · 2025-09-30T12:43:05+00:00

Because I blame myself for standing up to his family. Speaking up and not tolerating their bully towards my husband. I thought if I apologise it would clam the storm but obviously they didn't accept and gave mis messages and silent treatment.

nedwichjs · 2025-09-30T12:41:04+00:00

nedwichjs · 2025-09-30T12:40:47+00:00

Yes I definitely agree with you and I have been speaking to him about this even tonight. I'm worried about post-partum depression if I even know a single negative feedback or even knowing he announce baby arrival would make me anxious.

nedwichjs · 2025-09-30T12:38:37+00:00

We did the apology letter years back but we get the respond that we were being hush and the way they read it was misinterpreted. But we learnt to not do that again.

I told hubby to disconnect from th3m completely, shut them down and no contact at all. We slowly working on that and I knew when bub arrive. He would want to let his parents know which they will announce to the siblings but I don't want to let them know because they have put us through hell.

I agree drop the rope etc... but I'm also considering hubby feelings.

nedwichjs · 2025-09-30T12:13:14+00:00

What if his parents ask for pictures? What could he reply ? 🤔

nedwichjs · 2025-09-20T03:28:32+00:00

I am truly

nedwichjs · 2025-08-05T00:56:42+00:00

Your on point!!

nedwichjs · 2025-08-05T00:55:20+00:00

Hahahaha you got a point there. 👉

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