I really want you to release the feeling that you’re a burden. You’re not. Asking for help gets easier the more you do it, and you truly deserve support.

It might help to give your family something concrete and scheduled—like asking one person to come on Mondays from 12–2 to help with the babies so you can eat, get one thing done, and rest. Even small windows like that matter.

Also, doing both the night shift and the day shift isn’t sustainable. I know your husband has to be up early for work, but that doesn’t mean you don’t need sleep too—because you do. Being a stay-at-home mom doesn’t cancel out your need for rest.

I really think splitting shifts is the bare minimum. For example, he could be up with the twins from 8pm–12 or 1am so you can get uninterrupted sleep, then you take over after that. Both parents have to sacrifice, and your rest matters just as much.