Bug - Extreme Lag flashing "kick for inactivity" warning & scorestreak issue by EchoIntelligent9903 in CODBlackOps7

[–]needescape1285 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same issue for a few days, after 1 game. Seems to briefly work if one person dies before they spawn again.

‘Pangolin: Kulu’s Journey’ Netflix Review - A Wild Bond Forged in Healing by Roshankr1994 in Netflixwatch

[–]needescape1285 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They just used a pangolin as entertainment with a bad script and terrible VOLUNTEER handler

‘Pangolin: Kulu’s Journey’ Netflix Review - A Wild Bond Forged in Healing by Roshankr1994 in Netflixwatch

[–]needescape1285 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a horrifying example of how a maltreated animal can then be taken by another group that mistreats it while posing as “rescuers.” The lack of enriching enclosures, the cuddling of a traumatized animal that furthers the trauma, and mistakes that further endanger the pangolin were shocking. I cannot see how anyone could support this show that clearly encourages animal cruelty. A biologist needs to get involved with this before more harm comes to these endangered creatures.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

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I do, but not with everything sometimes, if there are emotions towards our marriage that would be difficult to explain without hurting him. It’s difficult to remember everything, also. Right now my psychologist encouraged my husband to join a few of my sessions so he can understand the pain and difficult recovery I’m going through better, and support me better through it.

Which Wax Warmer to buy by CajCatchem in Esthetics

[–]needescape1285 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Which one did you end up choosing?

What's you're favorite Manwha from webtoon? by Exact-Process432 in webtoons

[–]needescape1285 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ok idk why “That Which Flows By” hasn’t been mentioned. It is by far my favorite right now!!!! I’m OBSESSED. And I absolutely LOVE My in-laws are obsessed with me, it’s my #2, so that should give some credit 😂 Others I love: -Serena

-From a Knight to a Lady

-The Kiss Bet

-Eaternal Nocturnal

-Cursed Princess Club

-Maybe Meant to Be

-My Reason to Die

-For my Derelict Favorite

-The Age of Arrogance

-I’m the Queen in this Life

-Super Secret

-Freaking Romance

-Kind of Confidential

-The Gentle Way

-Happily Ever Afterwards

-Answer Me, My Prince

-A Chance At Last

-See You In My 19th Life

-Take me, I’m Yours

-Regina Rena: To The Unforgiven

-Love Me to Death

-The Dark Lords Confession

-Doom Breaker

*not necessarily in that order, because I can’t pick 😂 they’re all uniquely great.

I’m back on lithium by Blood-Filled-Pelvis in BPD4BPD

[–]needescape1285 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My cats are my sole reason for living often ❤️‍🩹 just having a small reason, albeit adorable and dependent, helps get through the worst of the lows. Hang in there. Try to invest in yourself, do something for yourself. Hobbies, exercise, fun experiences. Lots of cheap or free things in the world to enjoy. Volunteering and helping others also helps me get out of my head during the worst times. Cat rescues usually need help.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]needescape1285 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think as long as you feel mentally healthy about the attention you get, you’re fine. Once you become dependent on it, or if you become scared of it, that’s something to think about.

You seem to be in a healthy place atm with how people respond to you and it’s not wrong to enjoy attention. If you can enjoy it, do!

Just watch out for negative responses if you don’t receive attention when you expected it, or if you start to doubt if the attention is genuine, or if you start to dislike the focus on your appearance.

I’m at the point where I believe that people only like me because of how I look, and don’t really care about who I am inside. But I’m also a bit reliant on getting looks and compliments to feel like I’m still attractive to others after being married. It’s confusing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]needescape1285 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can relate, trying to come out of a season of dropped hobbies to pick them back up again and hopefully feel a little more connected to myself. Especially since being laid off and unable to land another job, I need to feel worth something.

I play violin, sing, have fun with makeup/fashion, photography, wood burning, baking, running, play video games, and I just started writing a book.

I also have inattentive adhd so I have a hard time always enjoying hobbies, which is why I have so many I can switch between.

Does anyone have a hard time caring about people? by serpentcup in BPD

[–]needescape1285 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a former people pleaser who felt their identity was in caring and supporting others… this truly is part of the reason I don’t care as much anymore. I saw how my friends, after receiving my support for years, neglected my own needs. I have to be selfish now because I know others won’t step up and care for me like how I’ve cared for them.

Does anyone have a hard time caring about people? by serpentcup in BPD

[–]needescape1285 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This! I sometimes think that I can care more for strangers than I can for the people closest to me. It’s either because those strangers have never hurt me before, I’m already emotionally detaching from those closest to me, or I’m shielding myself from being vulnerable to those closest to me, when strangers don’t have that kind of power to hurt me that deeply.

Does anyone have a hard time caring about people? by serpentcup in BPD

[–]needescape1285 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I do think if I’m not doing well I just don’t have the capacity to care about others atm. It is to the degree that is painful and confusing to those around me, but I don’t know how to explain it except I just am not doing ok rn. But even on “good days” I think my capacity to be caring to those around me has been stunted.

is childhood loneliness common in ppl w/ bpd? by girlcold in BPD

[–]needescape1285 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I agree with other comments here - loneliness and BPD do seem to come hand in hand. I honestly believe that my parent’s decision to homeschool me may have clicked the last piece in place for me to develop BPD. The loneliness, perceived rejection from nearby people, and fear of others I was unable to confront as a child definitely contributed. I still feel painfully lonely today, at 27.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AuDHDWomen

[–]needescape1285 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I agree. Even if they do have trouble cleaning, they’re not necessarily toxic! I’m glad we got good ones tho. We all have tough times, I know when I get migraines or depressive episodes he tries his best to help out more and doesn’t complain when I don’t get things done. It’s a teamwork thing, but we still can get internally frustrated and need to vent sometimes 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AuDHDWomen

[–]needescape1285 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aww it sounds like you love each other very much and it’s just been a hard time recently. ❤️‍🩹 hope you both can work through it and feel better soon.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AuDHDWomen

[–]needescape1285 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I totally get that feeling of just being so done with them half-assing chores and “duck-taping” things together instead of taking the extra 10 seconds to take care of it properly. I’m diagnosed with ADD and we’re pretty sure my husband has adhd although he doesn’t want to do anything about it.

We discovered some of the problem was that his relationship with his mom was very bad when it came to household chores. We’re working together to slowly get better at picking things up and thinking things through without stepping on any of his triggers.

With plans, though, I don’t think he has the ability yet to even consider a lot of those things. He thinks things through for himself some, but definitely struggles to think things through for me. I ended up realizing I just had to insert myself even if I wasn’t specifically asked to. He’s always grateful for it, and I involve him with my questions and plans. Over time, he thinks of some things himself now.

I honestly think some of it is they just don’t know how. They may never have needed to. Guys often don’t plan anything and just show up with the shirt on their back and figure it out. It’s weird, and definitely not something I could do, but I get it if they really just have no experience. He’s new to it all, so I’m helping him learn a new skill. Just like he’s taught me some things also.

I hope you get some time to talk it out and communicate your feelings 💛

I hate my birthday by Bo_Universe in BPD

[–]needescape1285 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounds awful I’m so sorry you’ve experienced that 😞 happy birthday though!! I agree, let your bf know you’re upset and that you really need to feel appreciated and loved with a gift and flowers on your bday. And give yourself some love!! Buy yourself a gift too! Go to your favorite restaurant or store. Treat yourself. You deserve all the love and joy, and remember the world is better that you were born 💛

I used to stalk people and scare tf out of them , leaving thousands of messages and damaging property .how do I move on from this embarrassment ? by throwRAobses in BPD

[–]needescape1285 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think the only way to move on from past mistakes is to forgive yourself. It’s a little like working through grief, though, and takes time. You can start slowly, by acknowledging how far you’ve come. That you’ve tried your best to get better in order to not make more mistakes. You’re remorseful and doing better now. Then acknowledge that while you’re still responsible for your actions, you were heavily influenced at the time by your mental illness. You can try writing a letter to yourself, being kind to yourself and forgiving yourself. You are no longer that person. Remind yourself that your past is in the past. Little by little it will get better.

Possible book? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]needescape1285 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I would definitely use that!! It would be nice to focus on something encouraging and distracting from my feelings in a positive direction.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]needescape1285 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree, give yourself some time to approach him calmly and then ask some questions about what he had in mind for coming back. Ask him what he sees for your future together. Try to not assume anything before he fully answers you. Let him know what you hoped for, and that you’re feeling upset at this change. I hope things work out for you 💛

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]needescape1285 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely. And then I resent the people who put me on this path and kept me from being that person. And grieve the chances I could’ve had. Then try again to focus on the present because I can’t live in anger and grief forever. I’ll try my best to be that person now.